Relationship Benchmark #7: You Don’t Need Advice About Your Relationship

August 19, 2016
Relationship Benchmark #7: You Don’t Need Advice About Your Relationship

Of all the relationship benchmarks I’ve written about in this series of posts, this is probably the one that needs the most clarification. Who hasn’t confided in a close friend or family member about a new relationship? We often doubt our own perceptions and can benefit from seeking advice from those with experience. Running questions by […]

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Relationship Benchmark #6: Strong Positive Reinforcement and Emotional Support

August 16, 2016
Relationship Benchmark #6: Strong Positive Reinforcement and Emotional Support

Many of the benchmarks of successful relationships have to do with making one another feel secure in affection and commitment. Creating a foundation of trust and security will see you through inevitable challenges in the future. It requires considerable effort, time and energy from both of you. Two particular kinds of efforts are crucial: Positive Reinforcement Emotional Support […]

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Relationship Benchmark #5: No Subject Feels Too Scary to Discuss

August 12, 2016
Relationship Benchmark #5: No Subject Feels Too Scary to Discuss

Healthy relationships are characterized by openness, honesty and transparency. That’s because uncertainty – especially about matters of the heart – creates anxiety. Anxiety produces self-doubt, which is death to self-expression. Before long, you’re a prisoner of your own emotions, and you learn to fear them. The fear produces more anxiety, and the cycle continues. The best […]

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The Unsexy Millennials

August 10, 2016
The Unsexy Millennials

A new study on Sexual Inactivity During Young Adulthood by Jean Twenge et al builds on previous research showing that Millennials are less sexually active than prior generations. The latest response has been somewhat hysterical, with many articles assuming that delayed sexual activity is a bad thing. It’s also been erroneously focusing almost entirely on (elite) […]

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Relationship Benchmark #4: There is Consistent Expression of Affection and Feeling

August 5, 2016
Relationship Benchmark #4: There is Consistent Expression of Affection and Feeling

One of the best things about being in a relationship is the reward of love flowing both ways. We require that our partner express affection and deep feelings consistently. We feel free to express our love and are open to receiving it in return. In contrast, a relationship where we never quite know where we stand, or how our […]

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