How to Tell If They’ll Ever Commit to You

October 29, 2018
How to Tell If They’ll Ever Commit to You

I get a ton of inquiries about why a romantic prospect is acting some specific (usually uninterpretable) way. Oftentimes, daters will want to know why their partner’s behaviors are inconsistent, why they run hot and cold, or why they seem distant — and all of the questions usually boil down to just one. Will this person […]

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Introducing the Best Dating App for Connection: Plum

September 17, 2018
Introducing the Best Dating App for Connection: Plum

You may have noticed my disappearance from Hooking Up Smart. But I swear — there’s a good reason for it. For all my readers who’ve asked what’s the best dating app for finding a real relationship, I’ve been hard at work on the answer. I’ve always been committed to helping daters find love, and online […]

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Do You Know Your Attachment Style?

July 28, 2018
Do You Know Your Attachment Style?

If I could advocate that frustrated daters do just one single thing before committing to their next partner, it’s figure out your attachment style. What is an attachment style? I’ll summarize quickly: In the 1950s and 1960s, psychologists uncovered a few primary attachment styles in infants: secure, anxious and avoidant. Later on, disorganized attachment was […]

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Dating Apps: Reframing How and Why You Use Them

July 15, 2018
Dating Apps: Reframing How and Why You Use Them

Five or six years ago, when I was first venturing out into the dating world as an adult, dating apps were not a thing, but I still met potential partners with relative ease. Whether it was through my friends, out at a bar, in a coffee shop or whatever, connecting was not that difficult. Of […]

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Did You Feel the “Spark” When You First Met Your Partner?

June 27, 2018
Did You Feel the “Spark” When You First Met Your Partner?

People talk a lot about the “spark.” What is the “spark,” to be exact? Do you need to feel the spark for something to take off? Does it constantly change, morphing into a slightly different feeling of chemistry with each new partner? Or will you only ever feel it once? Will you never feel it […]

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