Male Insecurity Is a Red Flag For Romance

February 10, 2016
Male Insecurity Is a Red Flag For Romance

Reader Dana emailed a question I haven’t heard before. How do you handle persistent insecurity in the person you’re dating? If a woman hears the following statement from the boyfriend early in the relationship (or variations of it): “You’re too good for me” or, “I really can’t believe you’re with me, you’re too amazing”, or […]

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Confi: A Great New Resource About Sex

February 8, 2016
Confi: A Great New Resource About Sex

Recently I sat down for coffee with Tess Brooks, the founder of a new online site called Confi – Crowdsourcing Big Sister Advice. It’s a much needed resource that fills a gap in online discussion around dating and relationships: frank talk about sex. At Confi.co categories include: Sex Relationships Body Basics LGBTQ Turn-ons Common Annoyances Safe […]

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Negotiating Monogamy Should Be Easy

February 5, 2016
Negotiating Monogamy Should Be Easy

I often hear from readers – including some who have been HUS readers for years – that once they found the right person monogamy was easy and fell into place quickly. They are often astonished at how readily they became exclusive with someone after years of frustration and discouraging results. In many of these cases the DTR […]

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Chicks Dig Altruists

February 3, 2016
Chicks Dig Altruists

A new study explores what tradeoffs women are willing to make in mate selection between good looks and concern for others. Business Insider summarizes Are Women’s Mate Preferences for Altruism Also Influenced by Physical Attractiveness?  “[New research] shows women do indeed find good-looking men desirable—but if they have to choose, they’ll probably pick the altruistic guy over the […]

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Sexes Share the Same Relationship Dealbreakers

January 27, 2016
Sexes Share the Same Relationship Dealbreakers

Superstars in the relationship science field recently published new research on the importance of dealbreakers in romantic relationships. Relationship Dealbreakers: Traits People Avoid in Potential Mates by Jonason, Garcia, Webster, Li and Fisher (2015) revealed that dealbreakers vary minimally between sexes, and much more between short-term vs. long-term mating strategies. The research comprises six studies and over […]

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