Relationship Benchmark #8: You Never Need to Apologize For Your Partner

August 25, 2016
Relationship Benchmark #8: You Never Need to Apologize For Your Partner

All of us have made excuses at one time or another for the bad behavior of someone close to us. Because we care about them and are loyal to them, we defend their actions, usually by attempting to explain circumstances that excuse it. “I’m sorry Charlie is so late, he’s under a ton of pressure […]

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Relationship Benchmark #7: You Don’t Need Advice About Your Relationship

August 19, 2016
Relationship Benchmark #7: You Don’t Need Advice About Your Relationship

Of all the relationship benchmarks I’ve written about in this series of posts, this is probably the one that needs the most clarification. Who hasn’t confided in a close friend or family member about a new relationship? We often doubt our own perceptions and can benefit from seeking advice from those with experience. Running questions by […]

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Relationship Benchmark #6: Strong Positive Reinforcement and Emotional Support

August 16, 2016
Relationship Benchmark #6: Strong Positive Reinforcement and Emotional Support

Many of the benchmarks of successful relationships have to do with making one another feel secure in affection and commitment. Creating a foundation of trust and security will see you through inevitable challenges in the future. It requires considerable effort, time and energy from both of you. Two particular kinds of efforts are crucial: Positive Reinforcement Emotional Support […]

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Relationship Benchmark #5: No Subject Feels Too Scary to Discuss

August 12, 2016
Relationship Benchmark #5: No Subject Feels Too Scary to Discuss

Healthy relationships are characterized by openness, honesty and transparency. That’s because uncertainty – especially about matters of the heart – creates anxiety. Anxiety produces self-doubt, which is death to self-expression. Before long, you’re a prisoner of your own emotions, and you learn to fear them. The fear produces more anxiety, and the cycle continues. The best […]

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The Unsexy Millennials

August 10, 2016
The Unsexy Millennials

A new study on Sexual Inactivity During Young Adulthood by Jean Twenge et al builds on previous research showing that Millennials are less sexually active than prior generations. The latest response has been somewhat hysterical, with many articles assuming that delayed sexual activity is a bad thing. It’s also been erroneously focusing almost entirely on (elite) […]

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