Negotiating Monogamy Should Be Easy

February 5, 2016
Negotiating Monogamy Should Be Easy

I often hear from readers – including some who have been HUS readers for years – that once they found the right person monogamy was easy and fell into place quickly. They are often astonished at how readily they became exclusive with someone after years of frustration and discouraging results. In many of these cases the DTR […]

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Chicks Dig Altruists

February 3, 2016
Chicks Dig Altruists

A new study explores what tradeoffs women are willing to make in mate selection between good looks and concern for others. Business Insider summarizes Are Women’s Mate Preferences for Altruism Also Influenced by Physical Attractiveness?  “[New research] shows women do indeed find good-looking men desirable—but if they have to choose, they’ll probably pick the altruistic guy over the […]

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Sexes Share the Same Relationship Dealbreakers

January 27, 2016
Sexes Share the Same Relationship Dealbreakers

Superstars in the relationship science field recently published new research on the importance of dealbreakers in romantic relationships. Relationship Dealbreakers: Traits People Avoid in Potential Mates by Jonason, Garcia, Webster, Li and Fisher (2015) revealed that dealbreakers vary minimally between sexes, and much more between short-term vs. long-term mating strategies. The research comprises six studies and over […]

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Men and Marriage: The Dominant Cultural Narrative

January 25, 2016
Men and Marriage: The Dominant Cultural Narrative

My regular readers know that I’m very interested in the effect that popular culture has on behavior. Specifically, it provides a cultural narrative that informs us what we should want if we’re normal. It may tenaciously grip the public consciousness even as it is rejected by individuals. Hookup culture is a perfect example; media and […]

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The Sad and Lonely Bachelors of New York City

January 20, 2016
The Sad and Lonely Bachelors of New York City

Several readers have written to ask what I think of the recent New York Times article Meet the New York Bachelors Who Yearn for Something More. Written by Sridhar Pappu, a 40 year-old single guy, the piece explores the growing number of 40 year-old men who feel like misfits in their social circle because of their single […]

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