Introducing the Best Dating App for Connection: Plum
You may have noticed my disappearance from Hooking Up Smart. But I swear — there’s a good reason for it. For all my readers who’ve asked what’s the best dating app for finding a real relationship, I’ve been hard at work on the answer. I’ve always been committed to helping daters find love, and online […]
Do You Know Your Attachment Style?
If I could advocate that frustrated daters do just one single thing before committing to their next partner, it’s figure out your attachment style. What is an attachment style? I’ll summarize quickly: In the 1950s and 1960s, psychologists uncovered a few primary attachment styles in infants: secure, anxious and avoidant. Later on, disorganized attachment was […]
Dating Apps: Reframing How and Why You Use Them
Five or six years ago, when I was first venturing out into the dating world as an adult, dating apps were not a thing, but I still met potential partners with relative ease. Whether it was through my friends, out at a bar, in a coffee shop or whatever, connecting was not that difficult. Of […]
Did You Feel the “Spark” When You First Met Your Partner?
People talk a lot about the “spark.” What is the “spark,” to be exact? Do you need to feel the spark for something to take off? Does it constantly change, morphing into a slightly different feeling of chemistry with each new partner? Or will you only ever feel it once? Will you never feel it […]
Are Dating Apps Facilitating Bad Behavior?
This past week could have been nicknamed “The Week of Bad Behavior.” The more I talk to women, the more dating app problems come to light. One of my friends met a man on an app last year, and she wound up discovering post-breakup that he had a girlfriend in another city the entire time […]