Keep Risking Rejection

February 25, 2015
Keep Risking Rejection

Rejection hurts. There’s no way around it. Yet like all negative or threatening emotions, it serves a purpose. Rejection furthers many social goals, which explains its prevalence in human behavior and groups. For example, punishing deviance creates a moral code for the community. Rejection is also an unavoidable by-product of a woman’s right to carefully […]

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Embrace the Power of the Sexual Gatekeeper

February 23, 2015
Embrace the Power of the Sexual Gatekeeper

One unfortunate side effect of cultural change since the Sexual Revolution is the belief that sex is a level playing field where the sexes are equipped with the same objectives, strategies, and playbooks. Despite rampant feminist denial of biological differences between men and women, our radically different reproductive biologies ensure that we will never – and […]

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Why We Still Love Mr. Darcy

February 18, 2015
Why We Still Love Mr. Darcy

Today I’m pleased to offer another guest post by Duana C. Welch, PhD. It seems timely to run it as 50 Shades of Grey breaks records at the box office! Duana and I share an utter devotion to Austen, and to P&P in particular. I also watch the 1996 BBC miniseries starring Colin Firth once a […]

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Stability: The Unsexy Cornerstone of Love

February 17, 2015
Stability: The Unsexy Cornerstone of Love

Let’s say a friend wants you to set you up with a great guy she thinks you’d really like. She mentions that in talking to him, she described you as a very stable person, very grounded and steady. How would you feel? I wouldn’t be too thrilled either. Stability isn’t sexy – it does not incite lust. […]

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Are You Ready For 50 Shades of Grey?

February 13, 2015
Are You Ready For 50 Shades of Grey?

It comes out tomorrow! Are you planning to see it? I hope to if I can drag my daughter and I don’t get snowed in. Reviews have been mixed, with many critics calling the film tedious. That’s not a good sign given the subject matter. Apparently, the sex is less explicit than your average Game […]

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