Dealbreakers, Dealmakers

April 23, 2016
Dealbreakers, Dealmakers

I’m going on vacation for a couple of weeks, so this will be the last post until May 5. In the meantime, feel free to discuss this and any other topics you’d like in the Comments. Also, if you have a question or topic you’d like me to write about, feel free to leave a […]

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Men and Women Want the Same Thing In Dating

April 19, 2016
Men and Women Want the Same Thing In Dating

Attraction is complicated. I’ve often described it as a weighted formula comprising a wide range of characteristics. When it comes to the weights, i.e. importance, assigned to any particular characteristic, like good looks or social status, there are as many variations as there are individuals. Ideally, mating occurs when two individuals with complementary standards and […]

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What Is Marriage Like After 25 Years?

April 14, 2016
What Is Marriage Like After 25 Years?

Most of what I write is focused on finding a partner, sustaining the relationship, weathering breakups, etc. The stuff that young people deal with as they’re dating. It doesn’t seem very important – or interesting – to focus on midlife when that’s years and years down the road. First things first, right? Except that the […]

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When Ghosting Is Not Rude

April 12, 2016
When Ghosting Is Not Rude

Buzzfeed recently explored the morality of ghosting in the article In Defense of Ghosting. Prior to reading it, I assumed it was a self-serving excuse for behaving badly – pulling a rude and surprising disappearing act after sending signals of sustained interest. So I was quite surprised when I read it and learned just how low […]

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The Blowjob as Snow Job

April 7, 2016
The Blowjob as Snow Job

Peggy Orenstein’s new book Girls and Sex: Navigating the New Landscape has kicked up a lot of interest. Many are alarmed by her findings based on 70 interviews, but there’s nothing much that surprises me there. From Amazon: “While the media has focused—often to sensational effect—on the rise of casual sex and the prevalence of […]

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