Authenticity in Relationships

May 25, 2016
Authenticity in Relationships

We live in a time where little seems authentic. People are famous for being famous. Professional Instagrammers make six figures creating elaborate fantasies for followers. Facebook feeds are carefully curated to present relationships as something more than perfect – the goal is to be enviable. Dating becomes a Game – an entire strategy based on a […]

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Beware the Guy Who Wants to Be Friends With An Ex

May 20, 2016
Beware the Guy Who Wants to Be Friends With An Ex

I have never felt comfortable with the idea of my partner being close friends with an ex. I don’t understand the need for it. The world is full of wonderful people we may befriend – why nurture a close friendship with someone you used to have sex with? It’s bound to be unsettling for a […]

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Relationship Conflict is Unavoidable – and Essential

May 17, 2016
Relationship Conflict is Unavoidable – and Essential

Very often people who are thrilled with their new relationships tell me “We never fight, we agree about everything!” That claim has two distinct and different parts. They’re not synonymous, nor are they even desirable. The first claim is that the couple never fights. That’s a good thing, right? Fighting conjures up images of anger, […]

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Redemption For a Douchebag?

May 12, 2016
Redemption For a Douchebag?

Bessie writes: Dear Susan, I’ve been in a relationship with Jacob for two months, and he’s always treated me very well. However, I recently discovered that he has treated other girls in the past like a “douchebag” would (including leading them on and using them for sex). I don’t doubt that he loves me and cares […]

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Navigating Sex Differences in Dating Conversation

May 9, 2016
Navigating Sex Differences in Dating Conversation

A lot has been written about sex differences in communication. On a first date, when both parties are presumably on their best behavior, the quality of conversation can vary widely. In long-term relationships, the potential for miscues is constant even when you know one another well. The goal of successful communication is connection, which develops […]

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