Breakup Survival Playlist #3: Making Deals with the Devil
After a breakup, there’s a period of mourning that occurs. That’s appropriate. But then, somehow, things go off track. You want him back. You start imagining that he will soon realize the error of his ways. You get a look at his current hookup, ewwwww, she’s gross! No way he could prefer her to you. Maybe you catch him watching you from across the room at a party. Whatever the reason, you become convinced you have a shot at getting him back. You become desperate. Your fantasies are basically a variation on the theme of him prostrating himself on the altar of wounded you, proclaiming he has been a total idiot, and begging for another chance.
Well, this isn’t going to work out. But it’s altogether natural and reasonable that you should pursue it to its natural conclusion. It’s a way of pretending that there will be no pain after all. We all want a happy ending, and in Stage 3 you’re still thinking of your happy ending with this boy in a starring role. Who could blame you for selling your soul to the devil for another go?
- Time is Running Out, Muse
- My Life Would Suck Without You, Kelly Clarkson
- Wherever You Will Go, The Calling
- Fall For You, Secondhand Serenade
- Whatever it Takes, Lifehouse
- Come On Get Higher, Matt Nathanson
- You’ll Think of Me, Keith Urban
- Faking My Own Suicide, Relient K
- I’m Yours, Jason Mraz
- Tell Her This, Del Amitri
- Collide, Howie Day
- Shattered, O.A.R.
- Truly, Madly, Deeply, Savage Garden
- Come On, Ben Jelen
- Hello and Goodbye, Ataris
Next up is Playlist #4: Boiling the Bunny (or Revenge Fantasies). This is my favorite part, and the closest you’ll get to having a good time after a bad breakup.
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At some point you need to put the whole album “It won't be soon before long” by Maroon 5 up there. The album runs the whole gamut of songs applicable to a breakup.
Good call, thanks for sharing that suggestion. I really like “I Won't Go Home Without You,” I'll have to check out that whole album.
Another great great song is The Background by Third Eye Blind. Lyrics are perfect
“the plans I make still have you in them…”
Wow, TaliaS, I just went and listened to The Background – awesome song! You're right, the lyrics are perfect. We all need songs like this to wallow in from time to time!
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