Tipsy Texter, Drunk Dialing’s Little Sister
There was a lot of interest in my post about texting this week, which just goes to show how pervasive (and annoying) those pesky little texts can be. At The Frisky, Amelia got her guys on AIM to discuss how they feel about texting and calling, and why they don’t always respond. There is an interesting variety of viewpoints from the four guys. Here are some quick excerpts:
Dirty Texter: “I like the attention, but women keep the texting going for too long.”
Don JeVore: “Texting should only be used for two purposes. Pure function, e.g. “I’m late”, and Post-date punctuation, e.g. “I had fun, talk soon.” That’s it.”
Experienced Guy: “Texting with no purpose is a bad idea. The “Just sayin’ hi!” text. A guy will think, “Oh, okay. He will not see a need to respond.”
Brooding Law School Student: “Really all pointless texting is saying is “I missed you. I wanted to say hello.” I’ll respond to any text if I like the person enough.”
Sounds like guys are not so into the touchy-feely text. Can’t say I’m surprised. Check out the whole convo here:
Guys Opinions On Texting And Calling | The Frisky.
If girls and guys view texting and calling that differently when they are sober, then you know how random and confusing things can get once people start drinking. Texts may or may not make sense, and the timing of responses gets unpredictable, as I wrote about in Translator Needed for 10 Hour Text Convo. Here’s a piece that talks about the perils of drunk texting, which provides your, er, victim with tangible written proof of your foolishness, which may be forwarded to a wide variety of friends for amusement:
Avoid The Drunken Text! : College Candy.
Finally, if you have no sense of restraint, and find that you are habitually making a complete ass of yourself, there’s an iphone app called Bad Decision Blocker that allows you to remove a number from your phone for as little as eight hours, or as long as a week. However, I do know of one guy who took a girl’s number out of his phone before he started drinking, determined not to call her. Once he got wasted, though, he spent the night harrassing his friends for her number. There’s just no helping some people. Here’s the deets on the app:
No (Dialing) Regrets – YourTango.
Everyone has funny texting stories. One young woman I know texted a number of guys the exact same message in a group text: “Hey, haven’t seen you in a while. Want to hang out?” Seconds later she got this message simultaneously from two of them: “That sounds great. How about going out tonight, just the two of us?” Obviously, they were together at the time. They thought it was hilarious, but she was mortified. Busted!
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can we talk about drunk emailing…. I seem to be doing that more then the texting. That app for the Iphone looks awesome can't wait to download it.
I just downloaded the app. It blocks emails from the phone as well… I just have to shut my computer off before I go out now.
I don't drink, so I've never had an issue with drunk texting/calling – but at the moment I am receiving drunk texts that are some of the politest texts i've ever seen – but they happen in 3 am AFTER i know the guy has been out drinking. and they just make me laugh.
Well if he is polite at 3 am when he's been drinking, I can just imagine how wonderful he is when sober!
Yes, do whatever you have to! Also, google labs has an application called Beer Goggles or something like that — it gives you 5 whole seconds to pull the email back after you hit send.
Just added the mail goggles too… This will save my life come a Friday/Saturday night in the near future I'm sure.
I do like the idea of leaving the phone at home that is mentioned in the article. Sadly I don't think anyone knows what it is like to be unreachable anymore nor do I think I could handle not having my phone for a night. I do leave it at home during the day sometimes because I have also been known to text the wrong people out of boredom as well.
Megan, here's a question for you that I have been getting a lot lately:
When you are drunk, do you say what is really on your mind, or are you full of shit? Girls often wonder what to think when a guy says things drunk he would never say sober. Is it the REAL him, or the FAKE him? I think I need to write a post about this!
Hmmm… That is a great question. I think for the most part I usually say what is on my mind. However, for the most part I always say what is on my mind. I don't get the whole playing game thing and BSing the person you are with. I am pretty much exactly the same person drunk as I am sober.
OK, good to know. I would LOVE to know what guys think about this. They tend to flirt with commitment when drunk, disavow it when sober.
You are so right. That is how me and what's his face first started. He was all caring and loving drunk. Sober a total A-hole.
Too bad he couldn't just be drunk all the time…
I haven't sent any stupid texts, but I have sure as hell gotten a doozy of an entire exchange…I had been flirting with this guy pretty intensely and texted him “Hey, we should hang out tonight.” He responded “Where are you?” I said the name of my friend's dorm. He asked what I was doing there, I told him the truth–just hanging out with some friends. He responded “Coooool.” I texted “Do you want to hang out or not?” (Our flirting was very game-y and slightly mean…that should have been a clue…) He responded “Not that bad.” I cracked up with my friends and sent nothing back. Ten minutes later I get “Sorry.” Five minutes later: “I'm at a bonfire.” Still nothing on my part. Forty minutes later he asks me if I am still in my friend's dorm. I only say “Yeah.” Then I ge the MOTHER OF ALL TEXTS: “Hey, do you still want to chill later? Movie? Sex?”
After my friends and I died of laughter I gave him a very polite no-thanks and tossed that prospect deeeeeeep in the bin where it belonged. He saw me the next day and looked deeply ashamed. Now he can hardly look me in the face. I theorize he must have been drunk!
WOW. That is a hell of a story. And I gotta tell you, you did EVERYTHING right! First, I love it that you were direct: Do you want to hang out or not? Forget all the BS, let's just be adults about this. And his answer; Not that bad? What a dick! He probably thought that made him seem super cool. Ugh. And I love how he gave you the choice of a movie OR sex. Haha, we know he considers them both the same thing! It's just a question of whether he bothers to turn on the movie or not. I am soooo glad he is ashamed. He met a girl who made a complete ass out of him! Well done.
I haven't sent any stupid texts, but I have sure as hell gotten a doozy of an entire exchange…I had been flirting with this guy pretty intensely and texted him “Hey, we should hang out tonight.” He responded “Where are you?” I said the name of my friend's dorm. He asked what I was doing there, I told him the truth–just hanging out with some friends. He responded “Coooool.” I texted “Do you want to hang out or not?” (Our flirting was very game-y and slightly mean…that should have been a clue…) He responded “Not that bad.” I cracked up with my friends and sent nothing back. Ten minutes later I get “Sorry.” Five minutes later: “I'm at a bonfire.” Still nothing on my part. Forty minutes later he asks me if I am still in my friend's dorm. I only say “Yeah.” Then I ge the MOTHER OF ALL TEXTS: “Hey, do you still want to chill later? Movie? Sex?”
After my friends and I died of laughter I gave him a very polite no-thanks and tossed that prospect deeeeeeep in the bin where it belonged. He saw me the next day and looked deeply ashamed. Now he can hardly look me in the face. I theorize he must have been drunk!
WOW. That is a hell of a story. And I gotta tell you, you did EVERYTHING right! First, I love it that you were direct: Do you want to hang out or not? Forget all the BS, let's just be adults about this. And his answer; Not that bad? What a dick! He probably thought that made him seem super cool. Ugh. And I love how he gave you the choice of a movie OR sex. Haha, we know he considers them both the same thing! It's just a question of whether he bothers to turn on the movie or not. I am soooo glad he is ashamed. He met a girl who made a complete ass out of him! Well done.