How to Achieve Pure Fabulousness
Coco Chanel
“A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.”
Coco Chanel
I would love to see you fall completely in love with yourself, if you haven’t already. I am not talking about narcissism. I am talking about that feeling you have when you are on top of your game, ready to unleash yourself on the world, feeling fabulous in every way. It’s a feeling of wanting to give yourself to others in a way that will delight them.
I believe that every one of you is fabulous. We all need help in bringing our Pure Fabulousness out in its full glory. You don’t need to be thinner, prettier, or smarter. You don’t need to be taller, shorter, have bigger boobs, smaller hips or straight hair. You don’t need to be funnier, cuter, more successful at work or good at flirting. You just need to be yourself and feel perfectly satisfied with who you are.
That means discovering your full potential, and striving for it. It’s probably not really achievable, but it doesn’t matter. What matters is the self-discovery and the appreciation you give yourself. Every one of us requires personal development in order to become ourselves fully. We need to make an effort to cultivate what is best in ourselves. (It also helps to learn how to sweep our faults out of the way so no one can see them.)
I’m no expert, though I do think I’m sort of fabulous 
I’ve just made a ton of mistakes and learned a lot along the way. I’ve learned that the person I can count on 100% of the time is myself.
Here are the qualities that I believe we should cultivate in ourselves to achieve Pure Fabulousness:
Be Thoughtful
Think before speaking. Mull things over. Sleep on it. Who are you? What do you want? What do you have to offer?
Be Curious
Allow yourself to be distracted by new and interesting things. Take a different fork in the road and see where it goes. Be slow to decide that someone or something doesn’t interest you. If you can’t be interested in another person, the fault is probably yours.
Be Generous
Approach other people with warmth. Take an interest. Be honest and open. Focus on making other people feel good, not on whether they will give you what you want.
Be Informed
Have something interesting to say. Learn. Read a lot. Study the issues of the day, form an opinion, and be prepared to defend it. Stay open-minded enough to learn from someone who doesn’t share your viewpoint.
Be Healthy
Eat real food. Move around enough to sweat. Be conservative about sharing your body; do it safely and only when you really want to. Get enough sleep. Be good to your skin.
Be Creative
Make something. Anything. From scratch. And then share it with someone else. Keep doing it, you’ll find that it’s addictive. It could be something physical, it could be a gathering of people. Keep creating opportunities to share yourself with other people.
Be Adventurous
Go crazy sometimes. Take risks. Surprise yourself. Surprise your friends. Act on a whim. Follow an impulse. Try to do these things when not under the influence of prodigious amounts of alcohol.
Be Flexible
Welcome change. Be prepared to adapt. Move to a new place. Change jobs. Switch up your routine. Change keeps us fresh and interesting, to ourselves and others. Stretch yourself.
Be Passionate
Believe in stuff. Stake your claim, and don’t let anyone sway you. Figure out what’s most important to you and grab onto it. Decide what is non-negotiable and commit.
Honestly, I suck at most of this stuff. But when I feel really great about myself, these are the areas where I usually have my act together. BTW, I think feeling that you are Pure Fabulousness is sort of a prerequisite for someone else falling in love with you, and staying in love with you. Do you agree? What have I left out?
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I definitely agree that you need to be comfortable with your self to be comfortable with someone else. I am not sure i'd ever use the term “falling in love” with yourself – but maybe its because of this overly romantic notion I have of Love. Falling in Fabulous with yourself though is something I can totally get behind…In a lot of ways I think its one of those things where faking it kind of makes it happen.
Falling in Fabulous is perfect! Yes, that is exactly what it is. Also, interesting that you should mention faking – while I was writing the post I was thinking it is so important to Fake It Till You Make It. Attitude is everything, and winds up being very empowering. You know, positive self-talk and all that. It helps a ton.
I love it!! Falling in Fabulous!! And the Fake It Till You Make It is so true. My older brother once told me, when I was a teenager, that I could have all the confidence in the world, and when I asked him how, he just told me to fake it until I had it. And it was so true, I remember many times friends asking me how I could be so confident and sure of myself and I just told them I faked it. I have lost some of that over the years, and that is why your post struck a cord! I love this concept and think all women need to embrace this!!
Beki, it is so true that we tend to lose the confidence if we don't constantly remind ourselves how fabulous we are. Like anything else that doesn't come naturally, it requires constant vigilance! But it really works – it's amazing how differently people will treat you. Then you get more confidence, and you don't have to fake it as much. Then you slip a little, and it goes round and round.
Great Qualities to cultivate! I would add, that above all, BE YOURSELF!
Amen. Faking confidence is one thing. Faking who you are is ALWAYS a disaster waiting to happen.
I was just reading this again, and had the thought that women are always saying “I want to find a man who loves me for who I am.” Well, no man can love you for who you are, until you do!!
Amen. Faking confidence is one thing. Faking who you are is ALWAYS a disaster waiting to happen.
I was just reading this again, and had the thought that women are always saying “I want to find a man who loves me for who I am.” Well, no man can love you for who you are, until you do!!