How to Achieve Pure Fabulousness

Coco Chanel

“A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.”

Coco Chanel

I would love to see you fall completely in love with yourself, if you haven’t already. I am not talking about narcissism. I am talking about that feeling you have when you are on top of your game, ready to unleash yourself on the world, feeling fabulous in every way. It’s a feeling of wanting to give yourself to others in a way that will delight them.

I believe that every one of you is fabulous. We all need help in bringing our Pure Fabulousness out in its full glory. You don’t need to be thinner, prettier, or smarter. You don’t need to be taller, shorter, have bigger boobs, smaller hips or straight hair. You don’t need to be funnier, cuter, more successful at work or good at flirting. You just need to be yourself and feel perfectly satisfied with who you are.

That means discovering your full potential, and striving for it. It’s probably not really achievable, but it doesn’t matter. What matters is the self-discovery and the appreciation you give yourself. Every one of us requires personal development in order to become ourselves fully. We need to make an effort to cultivate what is best in ourselves. (It also helps to learn how to sweep our faults out of the way so no one can see them.)

I’m no expert, though I do think I’m sort of fabulous I’ve just made a ton of mistakes and learned a lot along the way. I’ve learned that the person I can count on 100% of the time is myself.

Here are the qualities that I believe we should cultivate in ourselves to achieve Pure Fabulousness:

Be Thoughtful

Think before speaking. Mull things over. Sleep on it. Who are you? What do you want? What do you have to offer?

Be Curious

Allow yourself to be distracted by new and interesting things. Take a different fork in the road and see where it goes. Be slow to decide that someone or something doesn’t interest you. If you can’t be interested in another person, the fault is probably yours.

Be Generous

Approach other people with warmth. Take an interest. Be honest and open. Focus on making other people feel good, not on whether they will give you what you want.

Be Informed

Have something interesting to say. Learn. Read a lot. Study the issues of the day, form an opinion, and be prepared to defend it. Stay open-minded enough to learn from someone who doesn’t share your viewpoint.

Be Healthy

Eat real food. Move around enough to sweat. Be conservative about sharing your body; do it safely and only when you really want to. Get enough sleep. Be good to your skin. 

Be Creative

Make something. Anything. From scratch. And then share it with someone else. Keep doing it, you’ll find that it’s addictive. It could be something physical, it could be a gathering of people. Keep creating opportunities to share yourself with other people.

Be Adventurous

Go crazy sometimes. Take risks. Surprise yourself. Surprise your friends. Act on a whim. Follow an impulse. Try to do these things when not under the influence of prodigious amounts of alcohol.

Be Flexible

Welcome change. Be prepared to adapt. Move to a new place. Change jobs. Switch up your routine. Change keeps us fresh and interesting, to ourselves and others. Stretch yourself. 

Be Passionate

Believe in stuff. Stake your claim, and don’t let anyone sway you. Figure out what’s most important to you and grab onto it. Decide what is non-negotiable and commit.

Honestly, I suck at most of this stuff. But when I feel really great about myself, these are the areas where I usually have my act together. BTW, I think feeling that you are Pure Fabulousness is sort of a prerequisite for someone else falling in love with you, and staying in love with you. Do you agree? What have I left out?

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