Monday Medicine
1. I love Indexed. Jessica Hagy is brilliant and funny. You must subscribe to this – I do and I get so excited when it shows up in my Google reader! Here are a couple of my faves, but there are waaaayyyy more where these came from, so head on over there.
Ouch
Harmless? No: Calculating.
But He’s Got Soul. Or Something.
2. I just hate it when guys throw the word psycho around. Any time a woman calls them out or expects something from them that they are unwilling to give, they are likely to say she’s nuts. There’s a site called My Very Worst Date, where readers submit their tales of horrific and not-so-romantic encounters. Most of the entries are from women, and most of the men are PSYCHOS! Here’s an example:
Flipping Not Allowed
I had been dating this amazing guy for a month or so. Our whirlwind romance had me falling madly in love. One night, he invited me over for a BBQ but my mother was visiting. He insisted I bring her along, which I did. He was super-excited when we arrived and tried hard to impress her.When he took a break from the grill to grab something from the house, I decided flip to the meat on the BBQ. He came back and screamed at me: “What are you doing! You are so controlling! Why can’t you let me be the host!” Then, he stormed off, leaving us speechless. I went to look for him and found him curled in a fetal position staring into the void in his bedroom. I could not get a response for him so I went back to my mother. We sat there and wondering what to do. I was sad, disturbed but also amused, especially when we decided to eat some of the meat since we were starving. The next day, he called apologetically and said he should not have been drinking while on his medication. Needless to say I had no idea he was on meds. I guess the paranoid behavior should have tipped me off – he kept a samurai sword under the seat of his car and had a panic button installed in his bedroom. If my mother had not been there, I might have rationalized this and forgiven him. But because she was, there was no going back.
To be honest, I think it’s a little weird that she flipped the steaks – you just don’t mess with a guy’s grill. And how weird is it that after she found him curled in a fetal position, she went back outside and ate with her mother? He sounds freaky, but she sounds like a total weirdo too. Other good psycho stories include Dine and Dash, and Church and Date. Yikes. If you have a psycho killer story, you can submit it!
3. In a recent post about Intimacy Lite, I cited kisses to the nose, forehead, eyes, etc. as an example of affection that doesn’t necessarily indicate romantic interest. Now I’m not so sure. At Datingish, a young woman describes how a FWB recently slowed things down and kissed her on the forehead, and she wonders if it means anything. I would have said it means he was feeling a smidgen of affection at that particular moment. But 51 people weighed in with an opinion and here’s how their responses broke down:
35 respondents thought it indicated significant romantic feelings on his part.
16 respondents were either unsure or thought it meant nothing, i.e. Intimacy Lite.
What do you think?
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The answer is simple. It depends on the intent of the person kissing. For me, I kiss my daughters on the forehead and nose. Obviously a fatherly kiss. I have kissed women on the forehead after making love with deep romantic love in my heart. Was that why? Maybe. It also could have been because in part of the way they were laying on my chest. I can say I loved them deeply. Now a romantic kiss on the nose or eyes? No romance for me there, but that is just me. It could be very romantic for some other kisser no?
Hey, jon boy, thanks for commenting! I can never get enough guys coming by Hooking Up Smart and giving some insight. Awww, I love that image of you kissing your daughters that way. It's an interesting point – if kisses to various parts of the face other than the mouth are not sexual, can they be romantic? Or is that a kind of affection that might only be platonic/paternal/brotherly? For me, getting kissed on the nose, eyelids, forehead, etc. always signified affection over and above the sexual. It felt like a message that this person was genuinely fond of me. It never felt like a signal of romantic love, though. In fact, if the sexual chemistry was lacking, and I got one of those kisses, I would definitely feel I had been placed in the friend zone. The bottom line is that it depends—context is everything.
The answer is simple. It depends on the intent of the person kissing. For me, I kiss my daughters on the forehead and nose. Obviously a fatherly kiss. I have kissed women on the forehead after making love with deep romantic love in my heart. Was that why? Maybe. It also could have been because in part of the way they were laying on my chest. I can say I loved them deeply. Now a romantic kiss on the nose or eyes? No romance for me there, but that is just me. It could be very romantic for some other kisser no?
Hey, jon boy, thanks for commenting! I can never get enough guys coming by Hooking Up Smart and giving some insight. Awww, I love that image of you kissing your daughters that way. It's an interesting point – if kisses to various parts of the face other than the mouth are not sexual, can they be romantic? Or is that a kind of affection that might only be platonic/paternal/brotherly? For me, getting kissed on the nose, eyelids, forehead, etc. always signified affection over and above the sexual. It felt like a message that this person was genuinely fond of me. It never felt like a signal of romantic love, though. In fact, if the sexual chemistry was lacking, and I got one of those kisses, I would definitely feel I had been placed in the friend zone. The bottom line is that it depends—context is everything.