What Guys Are Really Saying About You When You’re Not Around
I found this online, and I’d say it’s a pretty representative sample of what young women are up against. Here’s what guys are really saying to each other when they think you’re not listening.
When you’re swimming in shark infested waters, it’s hard to come out unscathed. The best thing you can do is come equipped with the most powerful shark repellent you can find. Yesterday’s post about holding your own in the struggle for love and sex is the best repellent I have to offer right now. (Click here to read.)
The bottom line: SELF-RESPECT
Remember, once a shark smells blood in the water, you’re done for.
Anon34
Join Date: Jan 2010
Re Continually Hooking up with Multiple Women in College:
Ok I have had this problem for so long it has gotten so annoying that I made an account on this website for help.
WHO AM I: Frat guy in prestigious college with lots of hot (but smart) chicks
WOMEN I HOOK UP WITH: I hook up. Most girls I hook up with I try to keep hooking up with. Not for relationship, just because I want to be hooking up with multiple girls. I don’t want a relationship, but I hate that one night stand bullshit.
MY PROBLEM: I’ll hook up with a girl and she will be really into me so I try to keep it going. But I tell them to keep it secret because we arent (and wont ever be) dating and they go bonkers, getting jealous that im hooking up with other girls and asking why wont we date blah blah.It’s gotten so bad that I’ll literally be at a party and know like 3-4 girls that like me – why cant i just fuck all of them all the time? How can I be continually hooking up with multiple women without the girls going ape shit on me? I dont care if they are hooking up with other guys….I just want multiple.Is there any other answer besides “Find the right slut(s)”? I’m tired of trying to convince girls to keep shit secret, etc. It never works and I always end up looking/feeling like a douchebag.
Pussy Hunter
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Colorado Springs, Colorado
Age: 23
Well, it sounds like you are bringing up the question of a relationship first. The girls are supposed to ask first. Don’t even tell them to keep it a secret. In college, the more buzz about you other girls are hearing, the better. Not telling them to keep it a secret, will make them come back, even if it is under the false assumption of them being in a relationship with you. You should watch the college game/social circle video’s on you tube. It will make more sense when you watch it.
Anon34
They are always the ones who ask “What are we?” Haha trust me I am the last person to bring it up. But it always comes up. What do I say to that to keep them coming back? My school is really greek so all everyone in the greek system (frats and sororities) knows each other.
Cockyshit
Join Date: Jan 2010
Age: 20
oh god i have the same exact problem. i’m currently cycling between 2 consistent hookups and a handful of random ones. its so damn hard to make sure i dont hook up with one while the other’s around.
They’re blind to your feelings, they swim really fast, and they’ll eat you up and spit you out without a second thought. They are animals, following instinct, and it’s the survival of the fittest.
Surprise them. Be the fittest.
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Many guys with a negative attitude of women get laid and get relationships with women all the time.
Women are the gatekeepers of sex, as Susan said. But I think the following should be a little more explicit: men are also gatekeepers, not so much of sex (most of the time this gate is open if not nearly begging to be gone through) but of emotional validation, of affection and such things.
The tragedy is that many men either don't know and understand how to use their position as gatekeeper to the mutual benefit of themselves and women, either make gross abuse of that position (such as leading a girl into thinking that they are “dating” while they only want a fuckbuddy).
The analogy can be taken further: if women should be enthusiastic about sex, so should men be enthusiastic about fulfilling the emotional needs of women. Men don't need much encouragement for sex, and neither do women for fulfilling emotional needs. Their techniques may need some finetuning (occasionally a total overhaul) but the wish is there, generally speaking.
So, girls and women, don't just join facebook groups such as “45 things a girl wished her boyfriend knew”, make sure they know what to do and give them awesome sex in return when they do it. And walk when they are only after pussy and ass (except when that's the only thing you want at the moment).
And men: don't just join facebook groups such as “we want more miniskirts at university X”, make sure you know how to make a girl happy – and make her happy – before getting to the awesome sex (and other perks) you should get for making her happy.
It doesn't matter too much who starts the virtuous circle of awesome (and much) sex in exchange for emotional care and tenderness, as long it gets started. Probably it's best to start with an emotional connection, both because of the greater risk the woman has by having sex and because sex seems to be much better when done with someone you care for.
Just make sure everyone knows it's an exchange where they have to give to get. Otherwise we get either hooking up as it is now, or its inverse but with women at the top instead of those alpha asshats – but maybe beta's would even then be better off, since they would at least be getting some sex for emotional tenderness: women seem to want relationships much more, and sex is probably important enough for women also to get some. More demand for relationships would be good, since beta's would then probably get more in them.
I hope this was somewhat coherent and interesting (without too much awkward grammar and/or spelling).
Vjatcheslav, wow, this is an awesome comment. It's great advice for both sexes. Thanks for jumping in. It's very valuable to cut to the chase in this way – men need to step up emotionally and women need to step up sexually. It doesn't matter if we think that's fair to individuals–that's how we're built, and if we're going to make it work, there's got to be real effort on both sides.
BTW, your English is excellent, no worries.
Bullshit. I've dated more than a few “betas”. In fact, those labels are so fluid and distorted by the PUA camps as to be almost useless. Is a low-value guy who learns a few PUA tactics and starts having sex really an “alpha”? What about a guy who is successful in his career, family relationships, community, but just doesn't get a lot of casual sex? Is he really less alpha than the loser couch-surfer banging the club hos?
“Beta” is a poorly defined term, but it generally, when used disparagingly, it means being passive, clueless about girls, or just lacking that predator mindset. The girl expects the guy to be the physical aggressor. She stands around wondering why the guy doesn't just kiss her already. A beta is more likely to go the traditional date route, all the while nervously thinking he's totally screwing it up, rather than go for the drunken hookup at a party.
A male is not taught how to win the heart of a girl from his father. He gets advice from his mother, his sister, and his sister-in-law. He hears, “be yourself,” and “girls like flowers,” and “give her a compliment,” but he doesn't hear, “Take charge and plant one on her, or have you balls dropped off?” Without a manual (for game) a beta male is hopeless in the dating arena.
That's an important point you made! Fathers need to tell it like it is! That would seem to me to be an important responsibility, something a father should take seriously.
So when is someone going to ask the WOMEN to take some responsibility and NOT sleep with a man until they've been dating for a good few months? Afterall, if its “relationship” that these women want, why don't they put the time and effort into creating one BEFORE sleeping with a guy?
I don't get it.
Hi womanist, welcome. That's actually a lot of what I do here – encourage women who want relationships to have sex once they care for a guy and know his character. I don't specifically say a few months – that's HIGHLY unusual in today's world. But I do urge women to have standards, and to uphold them when getting involved with men.
Yeah, but they have what you don't: game. Get some and then let's talk.
Hahaha. Listen up, Steveo – she's giving you good advice!