A note about the respondents:
AskMen is an online men’s lifestyle site whose mission is “helping guys become better men.” They target ages 18-34, and have 19 million readers per month.
PopSugar is a women’s lifestyle site, targeting females 18-40, with 28 million readers per month. This is PopSugar’s first year hosting the female survey – the prior two years it was hosted by Cosmopolitan magazine.
The total number of survey takers is more than 50,000, and that is not split between women and men. In recent years, the male survey alone garnered over 50,000 responses, and last year the female survey had 13,000 respondents.
The male survey splits results out by country, including the U.S., Canada, U.K. and Australia. The female survey does not break it down.
I have no information re sexual orientation of the respondents.
Some of the responses on the female survey seem a little wacky, as you’ll see. It doesn’t pass my consultant sniff test, but I offer the findings here for you to debate as you will.
Here are the most interesting results:
Update: I forgot a couple of great questions!
What is the ultimate male status symbol?
A family: 41%
A high-profile career: 31%
A beautiful wife or girlfriend: 15%
A beautiful car: 6%
A beautiful house: 5%
A membership to an exclusive club: 2%
50% of American man said “a family.”
What defines a “real woman” in 2012?
Being financially independent: 24%
Being successful and fulfilled in her career: 21%
None of the above: 15%
Being a great mother and wife who takes care of her family: 14%
Being charismatic and popular: 1%
Being attractive and a great lover: 25%
1. Of the four choices listed below, which is the most important personality trait for deciding if a woman is “relationship material”?
A sense of loyalty: Men 36%, Women 42%
A sense of caring/nurturing: Men 23%, Women N/A
The ability to protect: Men N/A, Women 28%
A sense of humor: Men 22%, Women 7%
Intelligence: Men 19%, Women 23%
American men prioritized loyalty much more highly than other men (47%) and ranked intelligence second (21%). British men rank sense of humor as important as loyalty, both at 30%.
2. Do you believe in the institution of marriage?
Yes, I believe it is a necessary institution and one in which I will participate to help preserve:
Men 70%, Women 44%*
Yes, I believe in it as an institution, but it is not for me:
Men 18%, Women 20%
No, I do not believe in it:
Men 12%, Women 36%
*This is the first wacky number. The 2011 Great Female Survey indicated that 83% of women selected this option. I can’t explain why it would have decreased 47% in one year. Here is a 2011 chart from Pew Research that shows the sexes in line re marriage (U.S. only):
American men are the most committed to marriage (79%), Brits the least (61%).
3. How satisfied are you with your sex life?
Somewhat satisfied; there is room for improvement: Men 41%, Women 24%
I have no sex life: Men 12%, Women 27%
Not satisfied with quantity: Men 14%, Women 5%
Completely satisfied: Men 14%, Women 19%
Not satisfied with quality: Men 7%, Women 25%
“There’s an old joke – um… two elderly women are at a Catskill mountain resort, and one of ‘em says, “Boy, the food at this place is really terrible.” The other one says, “Yeah, I know; and such small portions.”"
American men are the most satisfied (67% are completely or somewhat satisfied), and have the fewest celibates (12%, less than half the other countries).
4. At what point does the number of former sex partners that he/she’s had begin to bother you?
If he/she’s slept with more than 10 partners previously: Men 43%, Women 24%
If he/she’s slept with more than 20 partners previously: Men 21%, Women 19%
I don’t care how many previous sex partners he/she’s had: Men 20%, Women, 14%
If he/she’s slept with more than one other partner previously: Men 10%, Women 32%*
If he/she’s slept with more than 100 partners previously: Men 6%, Women 11%
*This is the other wacked result IMO. Manwhore shamer that I am, even I don’t believe that a third of women are bothered by a guy’s having had 2 previous partners.
5. Who should pay on a date?
Both should take turns: Men 51%, Women 57%
Him: Men 49%, Women 43%
Her: Men 0%, Women 0%
Strong evidence that women are not going on dates for the free chow.
6. Marriage Potential
About half of men say wife potential is somewhat important, though they won’t break up with a girl if she doesn’t have it. A third consider it essential, and the rest don’t care.
In contrast, only a quarter of women in the female survey report that it is somewhat important. Nearly half say it doesn’t matter at all, approximately the same number that indicated in the previous question that they do not intend to marry.
7. Prenups are not controversial.
35% of men say a woman’s signing one is very important or somewhat important. 42% of women are happy to sign, and another 41% of women would demand the man sign a prenup.
When asked if they would cheat on a partner if they could get away with it, 73% of men were unlikely to do so, compared to 68% of women.
9. Letting yourself go
54% of men would dump a woman if she got fat. 33% of women would dump a man for adding the kilos.
More than half of women have sent racy photos of themselves to spark or maintain attraction, while only a third of men have done so. 31% of women would share racy pics with friends, while 83% of men say “they are for my eyes only.”
11. Lying about # of sexual partners
53% of men have lied about the number of partners they’ve slept with.
No corresponding data for women. Why didn’t they ask that??? Is it because they assumed it’s 100%?
12. STD Testing
73% of men and 61% of women have been tested for STDs 0 or 1 times.
13. Cad moves
42% of men have or would be willing to falsely tell a woman they love her just to get her to have sex.
14. You wish.
81% of men never have anal sex.
15. Would you be offended if a woman faked an orgasm with you?
Yes, I would be offended that I wasn’t able to pleasure her. 58%
Yes, I would be offended that she was deceiving me. 25%
34% of men have faked orgasms. The 58% explains why women fake them in the first place. It also explains why they’re dissatisfied with the quality of sex.
16. How often do you fake orgasms?
Every time: 26%
Don’t do it ladies, you’ll only paint yourself into a corner it is very difficult to crawl out of.
17. Aging gracefully
About a third of women say men start losing their looks at 30, but 21% say never. 39% of men say a woman starts losing her looks at 40, 17% say never (???) and 6% say 60 (whoo hoo!).
18. Male birth control
American men are more interested in male birth control than any other group – 86% would take it, compared to 73% overall. Meanwhile, half of women say they wouldn’t trust it even if it became available.