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SAWheadshot2webMission Statement

Relationships have never been more complicated or elusive than they are today. Hooking Up Smart aims to help people figure out how to navigate the hostile terrain of the contemporary SMP (sexual marketplace). I support both women and men in their search for meaningful relationships by providing strategic insight, guidance, and perspective as they manage their social and sexual interactions. 

About Me

Strategy Consultant

Since earning my MBA in 1983 from The Wharton School, I have worked with companies and non-profit organizations to identify key challenges and opportunities, and formulate winning strategies. Hooking Up Smart brings together my passion and concern for young people with a professional, practical and systematic problem-solving approach.

Cool Mom

I came of age during the 70s and 80s, witnessing (and enjoying) the effects of the sexual revolution.  My generation straddled the line between traditional dating and hooking up, and I’ve experienced the pros and cons of each. Both in real life and here at HUS, I’ve been a mentor and counselor to young people trying to navigate the hookup culture and find love in a bear market.

What is Hooking Up?

[1. Bogle, Kathleen A.  Hooking Up: Sex, Dating, and Relationships on Campus.  New York:  New York University Press, 2008.]

  • Hooking upis a term to describe a sexual encounter between two people.  It is a deliberately vague expression, and can mean making out, having intercourse, or anything in between.
  • Hooking up has replaced traditional dating on college campuses, and has also become prevalent in the general population and culture.  The hallmark of hooking up is the clear understanding between both parties that the encounter will be free from any expectations for further contact.  It is designed to avoid the possibility of commitment.  However, hooking up is still the primary pathway to a potential romantic relationship.
  • The hookup script reverses the sexual norm;  the pair becomes sexual first, before emotional intimacy or a relationship is established.

Hooking Up Stats

  • 91% of students report that hooking up is very common or fairly common on their campuses.[2. Glenn, Norval and Marquardt, Elizabeth.  “Hooking Up, Hanging Out and Hoping for Mr. Right – College Women on Mating and Dating Today.”  Institute for American Values.  July, 2001.]
  • 87% of college students report having hooked up.[3. Kahn, Fricker, Hoffman, Lambert, Tripp and Childress.  “Hooking up:  Dangerous new dating methods?”  American Psychological Association Symposium:  Sex, unwanted, sex, and sexual assault on college campuses.  2000.]
  • 73% of girls wish dating was more common.[4. “The Truth About Hooking Up.”  Cosmopolitan.  October, 2008:  190-1.]
  • 12% of hookups eventually lead to relationships.[5. Hayes, Allison, McManus, Brian and Paul, Elizabeth.  “Hookups:  Characteristics and Correlates of College Students’ Spontaneous and Anonymous Sexual Experiences.”  The Journal of Sex Research.  February, 2000.]
  • 60% of sexually active teenagers will at some point have sex with someone they are not dating.[6. Manning, Giordano, and Longmore.  “Hooking up:  The relationship contexts of ‘non-relationship’ sex.”  Journal of Adolescent Research, 21(5), 2006: 459-483.]
  • 49% of students who have intercourse during a hookup never see the other person again.[7. Bogle, Kathleen A.  Hooking Up:  Sex, Dating, and Relationships on Campus.  New York:  New York University Press, 2008.]
  • 61% of women who say hooking up makes them feel desirable also say it makes them feel awkward.[8. Glenn, Norval and Marquardt, Elizabeth.  “Hooking Up, Hanging Out and Hoping for Mr. Right – College Women on Mating and Dating Today.”  Institute for American Values.  July, 2001.]
  • 44% of the time guys have an orgasm during a hookup, while girls have orgasms only 19% of the time.[9. “The Truth About Hooking Up.”  Cosmopolitan.  October, 2008:  190-1.  England, Paula, PhD, Professor of Sociology, Stanford University.]
  • 12% of women say that it is sometimes easier to have sex with a guy they don’t know than to make conversation.[10.  Glenn, Norval and Marquardt, Elizabeth.  “Hooking Up, Hanging Out and Hoping for Mr. Right – College Women on Mating and Dating Today.”  Institute for American Values.  July, 2001.]

 

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