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Three-Date Rule? Make That Eight.

September 30, 2017
Three-Date Rule? Make That Eight.

A new study by Groupon of 2,000 singles has found that both women and men prefer to delay sex much longer than previously assumed. No doubt you’ve heard about the three-date rule – the number of dates before both parties expect to have sex. If you’re a woman, you’ve probably had guys inform you of […]

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The Most Important Thing You Need to Know About Female Orgasm

September 12, 2017
The Most Important Thing You Need to Know About Female Orgasm

One of the things women worry about most in their sex lives is not having orgasms during intercourse. Young women will often ask me if they’re normal or there’s something wrong. I always ask a woman if she is able to have an orgasm in other ways, whether through oral sex, masturbation or having her […]

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What’s Your Ideal Number of Sexual Partners?

April 5, 2017
What’s Your Ideal Number of Sexual Partners?

One topic that comes up regularly here at HUS is the question of sexual history. Specifically, how many sexual partners have you had? Is it something you expect to be asked about? Are you willing to share that information? Do you expect it from someone you’re getting to know? Once you know “the number,” how do […]

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What American Singles Want From Sex

March 27, 2017
What American Singles Want From Sex

Match.com’s annual Singles in America survey asks a lot of questions about sex. The most interesting questions do not ask for # of sexual partners, blah, blah, but are designed to elicit specific attitudes about sex as it relates to relationships. How many times have you been in love? Keep in mind that this survey includes […]

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The Loneliness of Hookup Culture

March 9, 2017
The Loneliness of Hookup Culture

Here’s an email that I just received from longtime reader Sarah. She describes her loneliness and frustration with hookup culture on her college campus. It’s a story I’ve heard many times over the years. Hi Susan, I’ve been reading your blog since I was 16 and most of what I’ve learned about relationships has been from you, […]

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