Hooking Up Realities
During a recent coaching session a client asked if it was weird that a guy wanted to be exclusive with her after six dates. (She thought that was fast.) I was somewhat taken aback, as my own bias suggests that if a guy isn’t willing to be exclusive after six dates, it’s time to move […]
You think you know all about hookup culture? Maybe you do because you’re a regular HUS reader, ha. Maybe you think the dating market is worse – or better – than it really is (depending on your perspective). Maybe you’re a worried parent, or a guy who worries about not having enough sexual experience. Maybe […]
Here’s Helen Fisher talking about the three different hormonal systems that can trigger love. She makes the point that casual sex is never casual – amen to that. Her research also dovetails very well with Jonathan Haidt’s work on passionate vs. companionate love.
Peggy Orenstein’s new book Girls and Sex: Navigating the New Landscape has kicked up a lot of interest. Many are alarmed by her findings based on 70 interviews, but there’s nothing much that surprises me there. From Amazon: “While the media has focused—often to sensational effect—on the rise of casual sex and the prevalence of […]
At Bustle, Kristen Sollee recently wrote 6 Valuable Lessons I Learned From Having Casual Sex. Sollee’s bio: “Kristen is the founding editrix of Slutist, a sex positive feminist site…that aims to uncover and undress the intersections between sex, gender, sexuality and feminism in art, culture and politics.” I find her article fascinating in that it provides a […]