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Confi: A Great New Resource About Sex

February 8, 2016
Confi: A Great New Resource About Sex

Recently I sat down for coffee with Tess Brooks, the founder of a new online site called Confi – Crowdsourcing Big Sister Advice. It’s a much needed resource that fills a gap in online discussion around dating and relationships: frank talk about sex. At Confi.co categories include: Sex Relationships Body Basics LGBTQ Turn-ons Common Annoyances Safe […]

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Hookup Culture Not to Blame For Our Single Status

December 1, 2015
Hookup Culture Not to Blame For Our Single Status

We can no longer blame hookup culture or casual sexual mores in society for our single status. The Science of Us at New York magazine just published this short video. It’s a summary that matches much of my own analysis over the past five years, and I’m gratified to see a more accurate picture of contemporary dating […]

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Do Tall, Fit Men Have More Sex Partners? Nope.

November 19, 2015
Do Tall, Fit Men Have More Sex Partners? Nope.

Have you heard the one about the top 10% of the men getting all of the wimminz? That only tall, fit men have a prayer of getting female attention? Turns out they don’t do better than other men, at least when it comes to the number of sex partners. A new study in the journal Evolutionary […]

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Why Women are Sexually Disgusted By Players

November 4, 2015
Why Women are Sexually Disgusted By Players

Today’s post is the first in a series based on Mate: Become the Man Women Want.  It’s co-authored by reformed bad boy Tucker Max and evolutionary psychologist Geoffrey Miller, who also wrote The Mating Mind. For guys who want a better understanding of women, you can’t beat this book. For starters, it’s brutally honest – which puts […]

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College Students Still Reject Hookup Culture

October 20, 2015
College Students Still Reject Hookup Culture

New data on the sexual behavior of college students! The Cut at New York Magazine partnered with SurveyMonkey to gather data on the sex habits of college kids, and nearly 800 people responded. Their findings very much confirm what I have been saying for the last few years: Millennials want less casual sex, more relationships, […]

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