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Kissing Behavior Reveals Relationship Intentions

September 27, 2016
Kissing Behavior Reveals Relationship Intentions

Until fairly recently, scientists have assumed that a key purpose of kissing is to prepare a couple for intercourse by promoting sexual arousal. But recent research shows that while arousal may result from kissing, the purpose of kissing is more about assessing the other person’s suitability as a mate initially. Later it’s about maintaining pair […]

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The Unsexy Millennials

August 10, 2016
The Unsexy Millennials

A new study on Sexual Inactivity During Young Adulthood by Jean Twenge et al builds on previous research showing that Millennials are less sexually active than prior generations. The latest response has been somewhat hysterical, with many articles assuming that delayed sexual activity is a bad thing. It’s also been erroneously focusing almost entirely on (elite) […]

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Relationship Benchmark #4: There is Consistent Expression of Affection and Feeling

August 5, 2016
Relationship Benchmark #4: There is Consistent Expression of Affection and Feeling

One of the best things about being in a relationship is the reward of love flowing both ways. We require that our partner express affection and deep feelings consistently. We feel free to express our love and are open to receiving it in return. In contrast, a relationship where we never quite know where we stand, or how our […]

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What Rules Govern Exclusivity in Dating?

June 23, 2016
What Rules Govern Exclusivity in Dating?

During a recent coaching session a client asked if it was weird that a guy wanted to be exclusive with her after six dates. (She thought that was fast.) I was somewhat taken aback, as my own bias suggests that if a guy isn’t willing to be exclusive after six dates, it’s time to move […]

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Take the Hooking Up Smart Dating Quiz!

June 3, 2016
Take the Hooking Up Smart Dating Quiz!

You think you know all about hookup culture? Maybe you do because you’re a regular HUS reader, ha. Maybe you think the dating market is worse – or better – than it really is (depending on your perspective). Maybe you’re a worried parent, or a guy who worries about not having enough sexual experience.  Maybe […]

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