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What’s Your Ideal Number of Sexual Partners?

April 5, 2017
What’s Your Ideal Number of Sexual Partners?

One topic that comes up regularly here at HUS is the question of sexual history. Specifically, how many sexual partners have you had? Is it something you expect to be asked about? Are you willing to share that information? Do you expect it from someone you’re getting to know? Once you know “the number,” how do […]

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What American Singles Want From Sex

March 27, 2017
What American Singles Want From Sex

Match.com’s annual Singles in America survey asks a lot of questions about sex. The most interesting questions do not ask for # of sexual partners, blah, blah, but are designed to elicit specific attitudes about sex as it relates to relationships. How many times have you been in love? Keep in mind that this survey includes […]

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The Loneliness of Hookup Culture

March 9, 2017
The Loneliness of Hookup Culture

Here’s an email that I just received from longtime reader Sarah. She describes her loneliness and frustration with hookup culture on her college campus. It’s a story I’ve heard many times over the years. Hi Susan, I’ve been reading your blog since I was 16 and most of what I’ve learned about relationships has been from you, […]

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Sexual Narcissism

February 16, 2017
Sexual Narcissism

Studies of narcissists have shown that they score low in both relationship and sexual satisfaction. Since narcissists are dedicated to maximizing their own satisfaction, and because they tend to have more sexual partners, their reporting lower sexual satisfaction appears counterintuitive. This question led to the development of a specific Sexual Narcissism Scale. What is sexual narcissism? “With […]

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The Four Horsemen of the Dating Apocalypse

February 7, 2017
The Four Horsemen of the Dating Apocalypse

The Four Horsemen of the Dating Apocalypse are: Ghosting Benching Zombieing Breadcrumbing (aka “Hansel and Greteling”) To some extent these terms have been coined and promoted as clickbait on sites like Buzzfeed and Bustle. We love reading stories about the bad behavior of others – it makes us feel virtuous. And if we’ve been on […]

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