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Boundaries vs. Ultimatums

July 29, 2015
Boundaries vs. Ultimatums

In a recent discussion about the biggest dating mistakes women make, some readers expressed confusion about the difference between setting boundaries and issuing ultimatums. Although the two strategies have similar goals in that they both seek to set limits, they’re opposite sides of the same coin, and they generally produce opposite results. The key difference is […]

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The Fast and Simple Way to Know If He’s Playing for Keeps

July 21, 2015
The Fast and Simple Way to Know If He’s Playing for Keeps

There is a very simple way to know if a man is interested in a relationship with you. If you’ll look for this one thing, you’ll never have to feel anxious as you wonder whether he likes you. You won’t check your phone constantly just to see whether he might have texted or called. You […]

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Ghosting is OK Sometimes

July 7, 2015
Ghosting is OK Sometimes

Last week a bunch of readers emailed me the Ghosting story from the NYXs. It was prompted by the rumor that after years together, Charlize Theron dumped Sean Penn mercilessly by not responding to his calls or texts. Ghosting: Ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner’s attempts to […]

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When You’ve Hooked Up With a Close Friend

June 5, 2015
When You’ve Hooked Up With a Close Friend

What is the protocol when you find yourself locking lips with someone who’s been your best buddy for ages? You know them well, you trust them, they wouldn’t be initiating something physical casually, would they? Of course not! Let’s get naked and figure this out over pillow talk. In an era where people hang in groups and […]

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The Infidelity Gene

May 28, 2015
The Infidelity Gene

“It is important to acknowledge that we live our lives on a very uneven genetic playing field. For some, there is little innate temptation to cheat; for others, sexual monogamy is an uphill battle against their own biology.” Richard Friedman Professor of Psychiatry, Weill Cornell Medical College The recent NYX’s article Infidelity Lurks in Your Genes describes […]

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