Hooking Up Realities
A new study on Sexual Inactivity During Young Adulthood by Jean Twenge et al builds on previous research showing that Millennials are less sexually active than prior generations. The latest response has been somewhat hysterical, with many articles assuming that delayed sexual activity is a bad thing. It’s also been erroneously focusing almost entirely on (elite) […]
One of the best things about being in a relationship is the reward of love flowing both ways. We require that our partner express affection and deep feelings consistently. We feel free to express our love and are open to receiving it in return. In contrast, a relationship where we never quite know where we stand, or how our […]
During a recent coaching session a client asked if it was weird that a guy wanted to be exclusive with her after six dates. (She thought that was fast.) I was somewhat taken aback, as my own bias suggests that if a guy isn’t willing to be exclusive after six dates, it’s time to move […]
You think you know all about hookup culture? Maybe you do because you’re a regular HUS reader, ha. Maybe you think the dating market is worse – or better – than it really is (depending on your perspective). Maybe you’re a worried parent, or a guy who worries about not having enough sexual experience. Maybe […]
Here’s Helen Fisher talking about the three different hormonal systems that can trigger love. She makes the point that casual sex is never casual – amen to that. Her research also dovetails very well with Jonathan Haidt’s work on passionate vs. companionate love.