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Tinder is Whatever You Want it to Be

August 12, 2015
Tinder is Whatever You Want it to Be

A recent article in Vanity Fair by Nancy Jo Sales has caused quite a rumpus. Tinder and the Dawn of the “Dating Apocalypse” recounts the writer’s experience interviewing a bunch of young people in NYC about their experiences on Tinder. It describes a bottomless pit of opportunistic sex and selfish disregard for the humanity of others […]

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On the Folly of Faking Interest in Casual Sex

August 4, 2015
On the Folly of Faking Interest in Casual Sex

Regular readers know I’m emphatic about honesty and full disclosure in dating. Usually, deceptive tactics involve guys lying to girls about their intentions in order to get laid. One survey of 1,000 men found: On Faking Interest to Get Sex 56% of guys in bars said they would fake interest in a girl to get sex. […]

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How to Find Your Niche in the Dating Market

July 31, 2015
How to Find Your Niche in the Dating Market

“Sell when you can: you are not for all markets” William Shakespeare, As You Like It Reader iamthepinkylifter recently left a comment describing her different success rates with men in different geographical markets:   i’m an east-coaster who has *dramatically* better luck with men in/from California. latin-american men LOVE me. they always have – ever since guys […]

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Boundaries vs. Ultimatums

July 29, 2015
Boundaries vs. Ultimatums

In a recent discussion about the biggest dating mistakes women make, some readers expressed confusion about the difference between setting boundaries and issuing ultimatums. Although the two strategies have similar goals in that they both seek to set limits, they’re opposite sides of the same coin, and they generally produce opposite results. The key difference is […]

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The Fast and Simple Way to Know If He’s Playing for Keeps

July 21, 2015
The Fast and Simple Way to Know If He’s Playing for Keeps

There is a very simple way to know if a man is interested in a relationship with you. If you’ll look for this one thing, you’ll never have to feel anxious as you wonder whether he likes you. You won’t check your phone constantly just to see whether he might have texted or called. You […]

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