Hooking Up Realities

Tinder’s Growth Reflects an Interest in Dating, Not Hookups

February 9, 2015
Tinder’s Growth Reflects an Interest in Dating, Not Hookups

I’ve long been a proponent of Tinder. I’ve seen several serious relationships come out of it with no “casual” period up front. This couple is head over heels in love after meeting on Tinder in September. It turns out that the majority of people are using Tinder to facilitate traditional dating. People find Tinder fun. Girls and […]

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Insights from the Editor of Modern Love

February 7, 2015
Insights from the Editor of Modern Love

Daniel Jones, editor of the weekly Modern Love column in the New York Times, has distilled the patterns he’s noticed in a decade of reading tens of thousands of submitted essays. I find his observations interesting, and not so different from behaviors I’ve observed in dating and relationships. His book Love Illuminated: Exploring Life’s Most Mystifying […]

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Sexual Assault Reforms Underway Across the U.S.

February 6, 2015
Sexual Assault Reforms Underway Across the U.S.

Blogging about hookup culture on college campuses requires looking directly at the dark underbelly of it: sexual assault. It is a difficult topic to write about because there are no winners when it takes place. It’s soul destroying for both assailant and victim, and the effects often last a lifetime. It is not always predatory, and both […]

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When a Player Tires of the Game

January 29, 2015
When a Player Tires of the Game

Hopless (sic) Romantic Paul writes: Going to make a long story short, but I am a 29 year old attractive male who has the “Player” stigma from the people that surround me due to my old days. I have fallen in love with a friend who shows me all the signs that she likes me […]

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Falling In Love Is An Action

January 15, 2015
Falling In Love Is An Action

The phrase “falling in love” suggests that arriving at this excrutiatingly pleasurable state is akin to slipping on a banana peel. The stars align, right place, right time, and boom! Perhaps it’s because when we fall hard for someone we relinquish control. But it is not kismet.  It may be that we can fall in love […]

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