Personal Development

Benchmark #1: You Have No Doubts

July 6, 2016
Benchmark #1: You Have No Doubts

In my last post I laid out ten criteria for judging whether a new relationship is likely to last. Several of you have requested that I go into more detail on each of the criteria, and I think that’s a good idea. Let’s review each one in turn and discuss how each might be useful to you. Today’s benchmark, […]

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10 Ways to Know Your Relationship Is The Real Deal

June 30, 2016
10 Ways to Know Your Relationship Is The Real Deal

  Successful relationships all start out the same way. Once you’ve met and gotten over the initial hurdles of establishing mutual attraction, the signs that your relationship will (or will not) work out are all there – if you pay careful attention. Here is a checklist of ten things that characterize a relationship that has the […]

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Douchebags Never Change – A Disappointing Follow-Up

June 29, 2016
Douchebags Never Change – A Disappointing Follow-Up

In a recent post I questioned whether douchebags can be redeemed. To recap, Bessie wrote in about her two-month old relationship with Jacob after she learned he’d “treated other girls in the past like a “douchebag” would (including leading them on and using them for sex).” He claimed to have changed since discovering true love with […]

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Millennials Are Marrying Their Exes

June 16, 2016
Millennials Are Marrying Their Exes

Millennials are increasingly marrying their exes. So says Jenna Birch in a new article at Elle magazine. I contributed to the article, check it out: Generation Breakup Then Makeup: Millennials Are Marrying Their Exes I’d love to hear your thoughts on the topic. Please head over to Elle to read the article, then let’s discuss! […]

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Is Marrying the Wrong Person Inevitable?

June 7, 2016
Is Marrying the Wrong Person Inevitable?

“Compatibility is an achievement of love; it must not be its precondition.” Alain de Botton Alain de Botton’s recent article Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person in the NYXs is undoubtedly meant to promote his new novel The Course of Love, but has generated a lot of interest for its premise. (Hat tip to J 2.0 […]

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