Personal Development

Boundaries vs. Ultimatums

July 29, 2015
Boundaries vs. Ultimatums

In a recent discussion about the biggest dating mistakes women make, some readers expressed confusion about the difference between setting boundaries and issuing ultimatums. Although the two strategies have similar goals in that they both seek to set limits, they’re opposite sides of the same coin, and they generally produce opposite results. The key difference is […]

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How to Bring All the Boys to Your Yard

July 10, 2015
How to Bring All the Boys to Your Yard

FYI I’ll be away on family vacation for the next week and a half.  One of the most disheartening things women experience is the constant reminder that men are visual creatures and care more about looks than anything else. The cosmetics market in the U.S. alone generates $60 billion a year in revenue, offering products that promise […]

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Ghosting is OK Sometimes

July 7, 2015
Ghosting is OK Sometimes

Last week a bunch of readers emailed me the Ghosting story from the NYXs. It was prompted by the rumor that after years together, Charlize Theron dumped Sean Penn mercilessly by not responding to his calls or texts. Ghosting: Ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner’s attempts to […]

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#MoreThanMyLooks

June 11, 2015
#MoreThanMyLooks

We’re having a very interesting conversation about beauty standards at the Phenomenal Woman post. Several readers have asked for more articles on beauty as it relates to cultural expectations and self-esteem. Ana had the brilliant idea of starting a hashtag for a post and Twitter campaign: #MoreThanMyLooks I will write about inner beauty – how […]

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Phenomenal Woman, That’s You

June 8, 2015
Phenomenal Woman, That’s You

I’ve received a couple of heartbreaking emails, and I’m pissed. Guys are telling women they’re ugly, usually after their sexual advances have been rejected. One attractive young woman said that although she has always felt comfortable and even positive about her own looks, it has been made very clear to her recently that she is a […]

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