Most of what I write is focused on finding a partner, sustaining the relationship, weathering breakups, etc. The stuff that young people deal with as they’re dating. It doesn’t seem very important – or interesting – to focus on midlife when that’s years and years down the road. First things first, right? Except that the […]
Buzzfeed recently explored the morality of ghosting in the article In Defense of Ghosting. Prior to reading it, I assumed it was a self-serving excuse for behaving badly – pulling a rude and surprising disappearing act after sending signals of sustained interest. So I was quite surprised when I read it and learned just how low […]
Contrary to some erroneous impressions, recent research using longitudinal data from almost 10,000 subjects has revealed some interesting patterns with regard to marriage. Specifically, who goes for it. It turns out that the most attractive males and females marry at the highest rates. In addition, increasing female wages offer women the opportunity to delay marriage while holding […]
The Nice Guy ™ is one of the internet’s most ridiculed characters. He is slammed for his sense of entitlement, the ways in which he misrepresents himself, and his capacity for self-delusion. He is notorious for blaming women for his own lack of attractiveness. And he’s creepy. Example: This open letter was posted in a dorm lobby a couple […]
We’ve been talking a lot about setting boundaries recently. Here’s a new Brene Brown video on why they’re not only helpful, they’re a prerequisite to being empathic and compassionate towards others. And to receiving compassion as well. A must see for both genders.