Personal Development

#MoreThanMyLooks

June 11, 2015
#MoreThanMyLooks

We’re having a very interesting conversation about beauty standards at the Phenomenal Woman post. Several readers have asked for more articles on beauty as it relates to cultural expectations and self-esteem. Ana had the brilliant idea of starting a hashtag for a post and Twitter campaign: #MoreThanMyLooks I will write about inner beauty – how […]

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Phenomenal Woman, That’s You

June 8, 2015
Phenomenal Woman, That’s You

I’ve received a couple of heartbreaking emails, and I’m pissed. Guys are telling women they’re ugly, usually after their sexual advances have been rejected. One attractive¬†young woman said that although she has always felt comfortable and even positive about her own looks, it has been made very clear to her recently that she is a […]

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Overcoming Social Anxiety in Dating

June 1, 2015
Overcoming Social Anxiety in Dating

Today’s post is about social anxiety and the way it affects our dealings with the opposite sex. Social anxiety in dating can be quite a challenge, and people get really, really discouraged by it. Reader Kazetrigger (KT) found HUS as a survivor of the Red Pill. To his credit, he has taken full responsibility for […]

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The Value of Heartbreak

April 30, 2015
The Value of Heartbreak

“Great relationships seldom fail. Bad ones do, as they should.” Gary Lewandoski, PhD I often write posts¬†with the intention of alerting women to red flags in dating and relationships. I emphasize the strategic importance of filtering to reduce the risk of bad outcomes. But I’d never want to find a way to eliminate all disappointment […]

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White Lies and Well Being

April 22, 2015
White Lies and Well Being

I’ve always been a stickler for honesty in relationships. I believe we should be up front about the terms of any relationship: what we’re looking for, what we’re willing to give, what we expect to receive. I abhor the “don’t ask, don’t tell” approach to faking exclusivity. I loathe deceptive, manipulative tactics like “push-pull” or […]

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