Personal Development

The Best Ways to Become More Attractive?

January 12, 2015
The Best Ways to Become More Attractive?

Maybe because it’s the start of a new year, a recent post about the role of physical attractiveness in dating generated some interesting comments. Anacaona, briebo and Diane all remarked on various ways that women can make improvements to put forward their most attractive selves in dating. Good teeth were prioritized. Also mentioned were clothing and […]

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We Are All Settling

January 7, 2015
We Are All Settling

A recurring theme in dating discussions is the dread of settling, and the accompanying resentment that breeds. No one wants to feel like a consolation prize, nor do we want to feel that our options are so limited that we must compromise and pair off with someone we don’t find attractive. Of course, that hinges […]

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Where Were You When I Was Still Unattractive?

November 3, 2014
Where Were You When I Was Still Unattractive?

Hi Susan, I stumbled on your site and have been fascinated with it the past few days. It has given me a fresh perspective and helped me feel better about myself–and more confused. Lately I’ve been thinking about my college dating experiences. I’m 28 years old now and I’ve noticed a very odd phenomenon lately. I’m […]

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Do Chicks Really Dig Jerks?

October 29, 2014
Do Chicks Really Dig Jerks?

Chicks dig jerks. True or false? This statement is one of the guiding principles of mating in our time. The unfortunate state of affairs, which is often credited with destroying society, is usually attributed to the Women’s Movement. Feminism ostensibly gave women the freedom to have sex with the bad men they really want. Badness ——> Women […]

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How to Use Silence Strategically in Dating

September 2, 2014
How to Use Silence Strategically in Dating

Silence can be powerful, strong and authoritative. It can communicate more than a thousand words. Silence can demonstrate that you are not to be messed with. It can represent resistance, disdain, indifference or even outright rejection. It can prompt others to rethink their position. Silence can give you time to reflect. It can be a […]

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