Personal Development

What You Look Like Is Not Who You Are

July 13, 2017
What You Look Like Is Not Who You Are

Today’s post is a different sort than I usually write. No studies, statistics, or tactical dating advice. I’ve been thinking about this idea for a while, and it keeps coming back to me. I finally realized I needed to write it down to share it with you. What you look like – the physical form […]

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Self-Respect vs. Entitlement in Dating

June 12, 2017
Self-Respect vs. Entitlement in Dating

“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion A young woman describes meeting a guy during an Uber ride. Before he got out of the car, he punched his number into her phone. She envisioned a blossoming serious relationship. But he’s not answering her texts […]

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8 Fast But Effective Ways to Judge a Man’s Character

June 1, 2017
8 Fast But Effective Ways to Judge a Man’s Character

Dating someone who’s not compatible with you is a costly mistake because you waste precious time that you could be spending with a better match. Dating someone of poor character is the costliest mistake, because the experience damages you. It makes you cynical and pessimistic about love – “All the good guys are taken.”  It makes […]

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The New Order of Female Attraction

May 2, 2017
The New Order of Female Attraction

New research demonstrates that women find creative men very attractive. (H/T: J 2.0) This isn’t exactly a surprise; not-very-talented guys joining bands to get access to girls has been a mainstay of adolescent male dating strategy since the caveman era. French professor Nicholas Gueguen once conducted a now famous study to find out what kind of men […]

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How to Prepare For a First Date

April 20, 2017
How to Prepare For a First Date

Recently a coaching client shared that she felt that her “performance” on first dates had improved. I cringed, feeling badly that she felt she had to perform, but I quickly realized she was absolutely right. A first date is a tryout. It’s an audition and an interview. It got me thinking about ways that you […]

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