Personal Development

Where Were You When I Was Still Unattractive?

November 3, 2014
Where Were You When I Was Still Unattractive?

Hi Susan, I stumbled on your site and have been fascinated with it the past few days. It has given me a fresh perspective and helped me feel better about myself–and more confused. Lately I’ve been thinking about my college dating experiences. I’m 28 years old now and I’ve noticed a very odd phenomenon lately. I’m […]

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Do Chicks Really Dig Jerks?

October 29, 2014
Do Chicks Really Dig Jerks?

Chicks dig jerks. True or false? This statement is one of the guiding principles of mating in our time. The unfortunate state of affairs, which is often credited with destroying society, is usually attributed to the Women’s Movement. Feminism ostensibly gave women the freedom to have sex with the bad men they really want. Badness ——> Women […]

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How to Use Silence Strategically in Dating

September 2, 2014
How to Use Silence Strategically in Dating

Silence can be powerful, strong and authoritative. It can communicate more than a thousand words. Silence can demonstrate that you are not to be messed with. It can represent resistance, disdain, indifference or even outright rejection. It can prompt others to rethink their position. Silence can give you time to reflect. It can be a […]

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Time to Get Smart About Back to School Shopping

August 4, 2014
Time to Get Smart About Back to School Shopping

Living in Boston, I often have the opportunity to play surrogate mom to friends’ kids who move here to attend college. I enjoy helping them settle in, having them to dinner, and bringing them chicken soup when they’re sick. I’ve always loved Back to School season, so even though my own children are done with […]

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Love People, Use Things to Find Happiness

July 24, 2014
Love People, Use Things to Find Happiness

New York Times contributing writer Arthur C. Brooks penned an essay this past weekend on the futility of our constant pursuit of happiness. For one thing, the people who score highest on Happiness metrics tend to also score higher on Unhappiness. What’s important is the net deficit or surplus of happiness: Bad: UnH > H Good: […]

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