Divorce American Style
“Ah, yes, divorce … from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man’s genitals through his wallet.”
Robin Williams
When I was 10, my parents bundled up my brothers and me into the car one evening and took us to the drive-in, where Divorce American Style was playing. It was a satirical comedy about a bickering [...]
Feminist, Forgotten and Furious
However beautiful the strategy, you should occasionally look at the results.
Winston Churchill
It’s official. There’s a tidal wave of books coming at us recounting the poor choices women are making through their 20s and 30s. First we had Accidentally on Purpose by Mary Pols, then Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb, and today VJ clued me in [...]
Mr. Right is Right Under Your Nose
You can’t just order up the perfect husband á la carte – I’ll take a little of this, a little of that, less of this and more of that. A guy is a package deal, as are we. Recognizing that isn’t settling. It’s maturity. The key is to focus on the qualities that lead to [...]
The New Sociosexual Marketplace: A Reality Check For Women
Not long ago, in writing about single women of a certain age, I mentioned Lori Gottlieb and an essay she penned for the Atlantic in 2008, talking about how much it sucks to date in your late 30s once you’ve already had a kid by a sperm donor.
You may have seen that she has expanded [...]
The Power You Gain When You Lay It On the Line
If you want more love
Why don’t you say so?
If you want more love
Why don’t you say so?
Just say so
John Mayer, Heartbreak Warfare
The irony of using John Mayer to give advice about relationships is not lost on me. Here’s the dialog that I imagine ensued when he really said those words to Jennifer Aniston a woman:
Her: [...]
David Wygant and the Worst Advice I’ve Ever Heard
It’s well known among sociologists and psychologists that young men are delaying maturation. I’ve written about it before here and here. There’s a whole host of reasons this seems to be happening, the most commonly cited ones being:
The Women’s Movement, and the resulting confusion over male roles
Hypermasculine but immature ideal in popular culture requires constant [...]
All the Single Ladies, and Their Babies
You know that feeling when you become more aware of something, and all of a sudden it’s everywhere? Like, you’ve got a crush on a guy who drives a navy blue Volkswagen Passat, and you start noticing them more, and wow, there are like, navy Passats everywhere you turn. You’re seeing, like, at least 20 [...]
Old FWB or New Shy Boy?
Dear Susan,
First let me say I love, love, love your blog…it’s required daily reading for me! I would really appreciate any insight/advice you have about my current situation…Basically, it’s the classic tale as old as time…the old f*ck buddy conundrum. Last spring, while in the final semester of grad school, I started hooking up multiple [...]
Are Alpha Males Struggling to Remain Relevant?
Those of you who read HUS regularly know that I frequently sing the praises of Beta males. While many women respond positively to such talk, it often ticks off the men. Mostly, they’re discouraged Betas who are bitterly convinced that women only want Alpha assholes. They often find comfort at sites that teach seduction techniques [...]
