Personal Development

Keep Risking Rejection

February 25, 2015
Keep Risking Rejection

Rejection hurts. There’s no way around it. Yet like all negative or threatening emotions, it serves a purpose. Rejection furthers many social goals, which explains its prevalence in human behavior and groups. For example, punishing deviance creates a moral code for the community. Rejection is also an unavoidable by-product of a woman’s right to carefully […]

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Embrace the Power of the Sexual Gatekeeper

February 23, 2015
Embrace the Power of the Sexual Gatekeeper

One unfortunate side effect of cultural change since the Sexual Revolution is the belief that sex is a level playing field where the sexes are equipped with the same objectives, strategies, and playbooks. Despite rampant feminist denial of biological differences between men and women, our radically different reproductive biologies ensure that we will never – and […]

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The Best Ways to Become More Attractive?

January 12, 2015
The Best Ways to Become More Attractive?

Maybe because it’s the start of a new year, a recent post about the role of physical attractiveness in dating generated some interesting comments. Anacaona, briebo and Diane all remarked on various ways that women can make improvements to put forward their most attractive selves in dating. Good teeth were prioritized. Also mentioned were clothing and […]

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We Are All Settling

January 7, 2015
We Are All Settling

A recurring theme in dating discussions is the dread of settling, and the accompanying resentment that breeds. No one wants to feel like a consolation prize, nor do we want to feel that our options are so limited that we must compromise and pair off with someone we don’t find attractive. Of course, that hinges […]

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Where Were You When I Was Still Unattractive?

November 3, 2014
Where Were You When I Was Still Unattractive?

Hi Susan, I stumbled on your site and have been fascinated with it the past few days. It has given me a fresh perspective and helped me feel better about myself–and more confused. Lately I’ve been thinking about my college dating experiences. I’m 28 years old now and I’ve noticed a very odd phenomenon lately. I’m […]

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