Relationship Strategies

Relationships Require Labels

May 4, 2015
Relationships Require Labels

This year’s winner of NYX’s Modern Love College Essay contest shares her heartbreaking account of a non-relationship with “that guy,” the one who remains for us in some netherworld between friend and boyfriend, often for years.” In No Labels, No Drama, Right? Jordana Narin, describes her history with Jeremy, whom she met at summer camp when she was […]

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The Value of Heartbreak

April 30, 2015
The Value of Heartbreak

“Great relationships seldom fail. Bad ones do, as they should.” Gary Lewandoski, PhD I often write posts with the intention of alerting women to red flags in dating and relationships. I emphasize the strategic importance of filtering to reduce the risk of bad outcomes. But I’d never want to find a way to eliminate all disappointment […]

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White Lies and Well Being

April 22, 2015
White Lies and Well Being

I’ve always been a stickler for honesty in relationships. I believe we should be up front about the terms of any relationship: what we’re looking for, what we’re willing to give, what we expect to receive. I abhor the “don’t ask, don’t tell” approach to faking exclusivity. I loathe deceptive, manipulative tactics like “push-pull” or […]

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His Eyes Tell the Story of Who He Is

April 16, 2015
His Eyes Tell the Story of Who He Is

This is a picture of my husband’s eyes today. They tell a story – the story of who he is, the life he has lived, the choices he has made. The first time I ever saw him, I felt a WHOOSH and a POW to the sternum. It was at an orientation assembly as we […]

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Let’s Discuss: 500 Days of Summer

April 7, 2015
Let’s Discuss: 500 Days of Summer

This is our first film discussion post. Readers voted for 500 Days of Summer in a recent poll. Next up will be Beyond Sunrise. Stay tuned for details. 500 Days of Summer is a 2009 film starring Joseph Gordon-Levitt and Zooey Deschanel.  It “employs a nonlinear narrative structure, with the story based upon its male protagonist and […]

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