Relationship Strategies

The Worrisome Increase in Sexless Relationships

January 27, 2015
The Worrisome Increase in Sexless Relationships

In the article Searching for Sex in last Sunday’s New York Times, economist Seth Stephens-Davidowitz applies his expertise on Google search data to shine a light on what information people seek online, and what that tells us about our preoccupations. He views the search data as a step above social science surveys – here we […]

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Filtering: Watch How a Man Treats Others

January 26, 2015
Filtering: Watch How a Man Treats Others

Recently reader Maya emailed to describe a great first date, but she was ambivalent because she perceived her date as a bit full of himself. In fact, she referred to him as Pretentious Dude. On the other hand, they had great physical chemistry and lots of interesting conversation. Best of all, he followed up immediately to plan […]

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The Pernicious Myth of Unconditional Love

January 21, 2015
The Pernicious Myth of Unconditional Love

One wrongheaded notion that wreaks havoc with relationships is the expectation by one or both parties that love should be unconditional. In reality, the only unconditional love between humans is the love of a parent for a child. Between adult romantic partners, it’s unsustainable, destructive and unhealthy. According to psychology professor Karin Anderson: “Expecting or granting unconditional […]

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Creativity is Sexy, But Not All Types Are Created Equal

January 20, 2015
Creativity is Sexy, But Not All Types Are Created Equal

Creativity is sexy, but not all creative expression is equally valued. In the new study Who Finds Bill Gates Sexy? Penn professor Scott Barry Kaufman asked 815 undergrads to rank different forms of creativity by sex appeal. (H/T: J 2.0) Check out this charty goodness:  Top 5 for men: 1. Taking a date on a spontaneous road […]

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Falling In Love Is An Action

January 15, 2015
Falling In Love Is An Action

The phrase “falling in love” suggests that arriving at this excrutiatingly pleasurable state is akin to slipping on a banana peel. The stars align, right place, right time, and boom! Perhaps it’s because when we fall hard for someone we relinquish control. But it is not kismet.  It may be that we can fall in love […]

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