Jane Austen Explains It All For You
I’m traveling today, so I’m bringing you an older post that many of my newer readers will have missed. I originally called it Dating Advice From a Dead Virgin, and it didn’t generate a lot of traffic. Hmmm….maybe I should just have entitled it Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy. Either way, it’s still full of [...]
Divorce American Style
“Ah, yes, divorce … from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man’s genitals through his wallet.”
Robin Williams
When I was 10, my parents bundled up my brothers and me into the car one evening and took us to the drive-in, where Divorce American Style was playing. It was a satirical comedy about a bickering [...]
Scheherazade Goes to College
In the year or so that I’ve been blogging, I’ve heard a lot of stories. Many of the them have recurring themes. Even Shakespeare stole his stories from the Greeks; there just aren’t that many different variations on human behavior. A few weeks ago, though, I got an email from a reader that astounded me. [...]
My Exotic Destination Theory of Relationships
Things have been a little heavy around here lately. I’ve been writing quite a bit about the reality of today’s sexual marketplace, which is important. But I’ve overindulged on the feminism angle and I’m feeling a bit hungover. So today it’s back to basics, with a letter I received last week.
Dear Susan,
I’ve gotten myself into [...]
A Flurry of Flustered Feminists, Finally
I am a post-baby boomer who has been handed a sort of Spice Girls’ version of feminism. We’re supposed to be wearing half-shirts and jumping around. And, you know, maybe that’s not panning out.
Tina Fey, Vogue, March 2010
Recently I wrote about feminist Rachel Simmons’ criticism of hookup culture, and how it produced a flurry [...]
How Feminism Got Drunk and Hooked Up With a Loser
Rachel Simmons set the under-40 femosphere back on its heels last week with a column on her blog:
Is Hooking Up Good For Girls? (click here)
Ms. Simmons is an interesting hybrid – she is the advice columnist for Teen Vogue, but she is also a scholar (Rhodes) on the subject of female aggression and has strong [...]
Talking About Sex Instead of Having It?
I don’t know whether talking a lot about sex leads to actually doing it, but I’ve got to think there’s some correlation. Yale students have really got sex on the considerable brain these days. I’ve been seeing a lot of interesting pieces at the Yale Daily News, mostly inspired no doubt by the biennial Sex [...]
Feminist, Forgotten and Furious
However beautiful the strategy, you should occasionally look at the results.
Winston Churchill
It’s official. There’s a tidal wave of books coming at us recounting the poor choices women are making through their 20s and 30s. First we had Accidentally on Purpose by Mary Pols, then Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb, and today VJ clued me in [...]
On the Other Hand…
Lest my women readers think I am being unduly harsh toward our own fair sex after yesterday’s post, I do want to share something that Natalie sent along yesterday. It’s a piece written a couple of years ago for the Modern Love column in the Sunday NYX’s. I remember liking it very much then, but [...]
Mr. Right is Right Under Your Nose
You can’t just order up the perfect husband á la carte – I’ll take a little of this, a little of that, less of this and more of that. A guy is a package deal, as are we. Recognizing that isn’t settling. It’s maturity. The key is to focus on the qualities that lead to [...]
