Relationship Strategies

Men and Women Want the Same Thing In Dating

April 19, 2016
Men and Women Want the Same Thing In Dating

Attraction is complicated. I’ve often described it as a weighted formula comprising a wide range of characteristics. When it comes to the weights, i.e. importance, assigned to any particular characteristic, like good looks or social status, there are as many variations as there are individuals. Ideally, mating occurs when two individuals with complementary standards and […]

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What Is Marriage Like After 25 Years?

April 14, 2016
What Is Marriage Like After 25 Years?

Most of what I write is focused on finding a partner, sustaining the relationship, weathering breakups, etc. The stuff that young people deal with as they’re dating. It doesn’t seem very important – or interesting – to focus on midlife when that’s years and years down the road. First things first, right? Except that the […]

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When Ghosting Is Not Rude

April 12, 2016
When Ghosting Is Not Rude

Buzzfeed recently explored the morality of ghosting in the article In Defense of Ghosting. Prior to reading it, I assumed it was a self-serving excuse for behaving badly – pulling a rude and surprising disappearing act after sending signals of sustained interest. So I was quite surprised when I read it and learned just how low […]

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By the Numbers: Dating Apps

April 5, 2016
By the Numbers: Dating Apps

My most recent post about online dating has generated a lot of discussion, complete with lots of anecdotal reports. Dating apps are clearly a major player in the long-term mating market but stories of gender imbalances and poor treatment are commonplace. Does Tinder work? Who uses these apps? How, and to what end? Here’s what […]

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Online Dating is King

April 1, 2016
Online Dating is King

Here’s why we need to talk about and really understand online dating: Since 2009 that Online number has increased to a firm 25%. Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist at Stanford, is conducting a longitudinal study of over 3,000 subjects on dating: How Couples Meet and Stay Together. He’s acquired a wealth of useful information, particularly around the […]

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