Relationship Strategies

Redemption For a Douchebag?

May 12, 2016
Redemption For a Douchebag?

Bessie writes: Dear Susan, I’ve been in a relationship with Jacob for two months, and he’s always treated me very well. However, I recently discovered that he has treated other girls in the past like a “douchebag” would (including leading them on and using them for sex). I don’t doubt that he loves me and cares […]

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Navigating Sex Differences in Dating Conversation

May 9, 2016
Navigating Sex Differences in Dating Conversation

A lot has been written about sex differences in communication. On a first date, when both parties are presumably on their best behavior, the quality of conversation can vary widely. In long-term relationships, the potential for miscues is constant even when you know one another well. The goal of successful communication is connection, which develops […]

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Dealbreakers, Dealmakers

April 23, 2016
Dealbreakers, Dealmakers

I’m going on vacation for a couple of weeks, so this will be the last post until May 5. In the meantime, feel free to discuss this and any other topics you’d like in the Comments. Also, if you have a question or topic you’d like me to write about, feel free to leave a […]

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Men and Women Want the Same Thing In Dating

April 19, 2016
Men and Women Want the Same Thing In Dating

Attraction is complicated. I’ve often described it as a weighted formula comprising a wide range of characteristics. When it comes to the weights, i.e. importance, assigned to any particular characteristic, like good looks or social status, there are as many variations as there are individuals. Ideally, mating occurs when two individuals with complementary standards and […]

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What Is Marriage Like After 25 Years?

April 14, 2016
What Is Marriage Like After 25 Years?

Most of what I write is focused on finding a partner, sustaining the relationship, weathering breakups, etc. The stuff that young people deal with as they’re dating. It doesn’t seem very important – or interesting – to focus on midlife when that’s years and years down the road. First things first, right? Except that the […]

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