Perhaps the most difficult mating decision women face in the early days of dating someone is the question of when to have sex. You like a guy, you believe he likes you, but you don’t want to go ahead, only to have him fizzle it or disappear. On the other hand, you don’t want to delay sex to the point where he thinks you’ve got “issues” and decides you’re not a sexual person.
In fact, you are a sexual person, and you’d really like to have sex with this guy – if he’s down for a relationship. Meanwhile, he may be thinking he’d like to have a relationship with you – if it’s going to be awesome sexually.
Guys frequently claim that sexual compatibility must be determined before they even consider commitment. From his perspective, he needs to take the girl for a test drive and look under the hood so that he doesn’t wind up with a sexual lemon. This should happen as soon as possible, so that he doesn’t spend his time or money on a girl who isn’t going to blow his mind in bed.
Is this a reasonable request? More importantly, can an early “test drive” indicate future relationship quality or even sexual satisfaction over time?