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Beware the Guy Who Wants to Be Friends With An Ex

May 20, 2016
Beware the Guy Who Wants to Be Friends With An Ex

I have never felt comfortable with the idea of my partner being close friends with an ex. I don’t understand the need for it. The world is full of wonderful people we may befriend – why nurture a close friendship with someone you used to have sex with? It’s bound to be unsettling for a […]

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Redemption For a Douchebag?

May 12, 2016
Redemption For a Douchebag?

Bessie writes: Dear Susan, I’ve been in a relationship with Jacob for two months, and he’s always treated me very well. However, I recently discovered that he has treated other girls in the past like a “douchebag” would (including leading them on and using them for sex). I don’t doubt that he loves me and cares […]

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One-Sided Monogamy?

February 23, 2016
One-Sided Monogamy?

A reader wonders whether she should accept a guy’s proposal that she be exclusive while he sees other women. One-sided monogamy? This is a first for my inbox. Hi Susan, I’m in a new situation with a guy I’ve been seeing for about two months now. Early on when we first started dating, I was […]

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All the Sex Stats

February 12, 2016
All the Sex Stats

Incoming! It’s rare that OKCupid’s phenomenal data-driven blog posts a new analysis, but when it does, I sit up and read! Here are the latest sex stats from three different sources on sexual attitudes among young people in America today: OKCupid Acknowledging the proliferation of dating apps, OKCupid analyzed responses of 1 million users on their attitudes about […]

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How to Find Your Niche in the Dating Market

July 31, 2015
How to Find Your Niche in the Dating Market

“Sell when you can: you are not for all markets” William Shakespeare, As You Like It Reader iamthepinkylifter recently left a comment describing her different success rates with men in different geographical markets:   i’m an east-coaster who has *dramatically* better luck with men in/from California. latin-american men LOVE me. they always have – ever since guys […]

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