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10 Effective Strategies to Signal Attraction

September 15, 2016
10 Effective Strategies to Signal Attraction

In this era of egalitarian relationships, it’s surprising how closely we still follow traditional gender roles in dating. Men are still generally expected to pick up the check (and still prefer to do so). We also expect men to be the first to express interest by asking a woman out on a date. However, men […]

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10 Reasons Young Guys Avoid Relationships

September 9, 2016
10 Reasons Young Guys Avoid Relationships

In my last blog post How to Know If a Man Is the Marrying Kind, I discussed the male “Age of Commitment,” which doesn’t kick in until around age 26 for college grads. Here are the top ten reasons guys are often reluctant to get into long-term relationships before then. 1. They dread having to change their […]

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Beware the Guy Who Wants to Be Friends With An Ex

May 20, 2016
Beware the Guy Who Wants to Be Friends With An Ex

I have never felt comfortable with the idea of my partner being close friends with an ex. I don’t understand the need for it. The world is full of wonderful people we may befriend – why nurture a close friendship with someone you used to have sex with? It’s bound to be unsettling for a […]

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Redemption For a Douchebag?

May 12, 2016
Redemption For a Douchebag?

Bessie writes: Dear Susan, I’ve been in a relationship with Jacob for two months, and he’s always treated me very well. However, I recently discovered that he has treated other girls in the past like a “douchebag” would (including leading them on and using them for sex). I don’t doubt that he loves me and cares […]

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One-Sided Monogamy?

February 23, 2016
One-Sided Monogamy?

A reader wonders whether she should accept a guy’s proposal that she be exclusive while he sees other women. One-sided monogamy? This is a first for my inbox. Hi Susan, I’m in a new situation with a guy I’ve been seeing for about two months now. Early on when we first started dating, I was […]

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