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Scheherazade Goes to College

Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 12, 2010 in Hooking Up Realities, Relationship Strategies, What Guys Want

In the year or so that I’ve been blogging, I’ve heard a lot of stories. Many of the them have recurring themes. Even Shakespeare stole his stories from the Greeks; there just aren’t that many different variations on human behavior. A few weeks ago, though, I got an email from a reader that astounded me. [...]

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Contraception Surprises

Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 9, 2010 in Hooking Up Realities, What Guys Want

Amanda Hess writes The Sexist, a column about local sex and gender issues, for Washington D.C.’s alt-weekly, the Washington City Paper. She’s a feisty feminist, and I’m still suffering from that feminism hangover, so I won’t be getting into any intense debates with her. She’s got a good sense of humor, though.

She had a recent [...]

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My Exotic Destination Theory of Relationships

Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 8, 2010 in Hooking Up Realities, Relationship Strategies, What Guys Want

Things have been a little heavy around here lately. I’ve been writing quite a bit about the reality of today’s sexual marketplace, which is important. But I’ve overindulged on the feminism angle and I’m feeling a bit hungover. So today it’s back to basics, with a letter I received last week.
Dear Susan,
I’ve gotten myself into [...]

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How Feminism Got Drunk and Hooked Up With a Loser

Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 1, 2010 in Hooking Up Realities, Relationship Strategies, What Guys Want

Rachel Simmons set the under-40 femosphere back on its heels last week with a column on her blog:
Is Hooking Up Good For Girls? (click here)
Ms. Simmons is an interesting hybrid – she is the advice columnist for Teen Vogue, but she is also a scholar (Rhodes) on the subject of female aggression and has strong [...]

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When Should You Agree to Sex? Guys Tell It Straight

Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 16, 2010 in Hooking Up Realities, Relationship Strategies, What Guys Want

In this era of sexual free-for-all, one of the most difficult things to figure out is the proper timing for having sex. For women, there are usually tradeoffs involved in diving between the sheets. Even if we decide to “have sex like a man,” it’s not possible, because the sexual double standard is alive and [...]

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A Nice Guy Tells You How to Win His Heart

Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 13, 2010 in Relationship Strategies, What Guys Want

I’ve been putting together some of the best comments left by guys over the last few months, but today I’m featuring one left just this morning that stands on its own as a post. Guys tend to leave more comments than girls do (Get with it ladies!), and I’ve learned a tremendous amount from them. [...]

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It Takes a Man to Speak Truth About the Women of UNC

Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 9, 2010 in Relationship Strategies, What Guys Want

There’s been a fair amount of buzz in the blogosphere about the NYX’s article re a shortage of men on UNC’s campus. I thought I’d bring you some of the more interesting bits.

I. From Feministing, that bastion of sex-positive, snarky women:
Would You Like a College Degree to Go With Your Man? The NYT’s Heteronormative Fail
This [...]

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I Hate Math, Especially on College Campuses

Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 8, 2010 in Hooking Up Realities, Relationship Strategies, What Guys Want

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Albert Einstein

Thanks to several readers who sent a link to an article in yesterday’s New York Times Styles section:
The New Math On Campus
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/07/fashion/07campus.html
Chapel Hill, NC is a great college town. It’s got a vibrant campus and lots of restaurants, bars, coffee houses etc. [...]

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In Combat Dating, You Can’t Afford to Fight Like a Girl

Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 4, 2010 in Relationship Strategies, What Guys Want

In my recent post Can Women Run Game on Men? I discussed the book Why Men Love Bitches. There was one particular piece of advice that I thought deserved special attention, because it’s a trap that women frequently fall into.
“A [women with high self-esteem] is polite but clear, and communicates very directly, in much the [...]

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What Guys Are Really Saying About You When You’re Not Around

Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 2, 2010 in Hooking Up Realities, Relationship Strategies, What Guys Want

I found this online, and I’d say it’s a pretty representative sample of what young women are up against. Here’s what guys are really saying to each other when they think you’re not listening.
When you’re swimming in shark infested waters, it’s hard to come out unscathed. The best thing you can do is come equipped [...]

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