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Redemption For a Douchebag?

May 12, 2016
Redemption For a Douchebag?

Bessie writes: Dear Susan, I’ve been in a relationship with Jacob for two months, and he’s always treated me very well. However, I recently discovered that he has treated other girls in the past like a “douchebag” would (including leading them on and using them for sex). I don’t doubt that he loves me and cares […]

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One-Sided Monogamy?

February 23, 2016
One-Sided Monogamy?

A reader wonders whether she should accept a guy’s proposal that she be exclusive while he sees other women. One-sided monogamy? This is a first for my inbox. Hi Susan, I’m in a new situation with a guy I’ve been seeing for about two months now. Early on when we first started dating, I was […]

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All the Sex Stats

February 12, 2016
All the Sex Stats

Incoming! It’s rare that OKCupid’s phenomenal data-driven blog posts a new analysis, but when it does, I sit up and read! Here are the latest sex stats from three different sources on sexual attitudes among young people in America today: OKCupid Acknowledging the proliferation of dating apps, OKCupid analyzed responses of 1 million users on their attitudes about […]

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How to Find Your Niche in the Dating Market

July 31, 2015
How to Find Your Niche in the Dating Market

“Sell when you can: you are not for all markets” William Shakespeare, As You Like It Reader iamthepinkylifter recently left a comment describing her different success rates with men in different geographical markets:   i’m an east-coaster who has *dramatically* better luck with men in/from California. latin-american men LOVE me. they always have – ever since guys […]

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Speaking Truth About Female Sexual Power

June 19, 2015
Speaking Truth About Female Sexual Power

Having sex does not represent female empowerment. Controlling the supply of sex does. That is female sexual power. The responsibility to select the best genes possible for future offspring is entirely the woman’s. If you’re uncomfortable with that thought, you may choose to give your power away, as many women gladly have. I encourage you to embrace the […]

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