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• stephen mosher says:

  July 11, 2010 at 3:44 pm

  [ Q ] can and is a guy who has asked women out over the corse of time and has nothing too show for it but being turned down, each and every time, is he as a matter of fact concidered a loser?
• Susan Walsh says:

  July 11, 2010 at 4:35 pm

  No, I would not say so. But he’s probably making some mistakes that are preventing him from coming across well to women. He may be targeting the wrong women. He may be using the wrong approach. He may have some difficulty navigating social situations and need to read female cues better. There are many men who have experienced years of frustration and failure, who have turned it around by learning Game. Female psychology plays a big role in sexual attraction, so a man needs to understand how women think and what they want if he is going to have a shot at appealing to them.
• Reed D says:

  August 6, 2010 at 5:32 am

  Hi Susan Walsh, I read your response to article “http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2009/07/17/hookinguprealities/what-women-really-think-about-penis-size/” and was really intrigued. I love your response because it makes me feel more secured about myself and my penis size. I know it’s silly because, I guess with how the media(I mean, porn) portrays penis size, it make’s me feel that my above average size is quite small. I am 5.9-6.2 erected, assuming I am measuring right from tip to base(top of my pelvis to the end of my penis), anyhow! I love my girlfriend currently, in fact, I call her my Wifey. I am going to marry her, it’s only been a few month’s I know for some people it’s stupid, but I don’t need to care about what other think, I just need to worry about what I think, and if in the end it doesn’t worth it, then it’s the best experience that ever happened in my life, and if it does work out then it is the best experience in my life… I really have high hopes and I know she’s the one because today she tied my shoes, and I cried because I never felt so loved, our love touches our soul it touches my heart, and it make’s me such a crybaby in so many ways… I don’t want to lose her over my penis size confidence dilemma, many I should just shut hell up, and show more confidence because it is messing it up for us =(

  I question so much, my confidence does screw me over so much, I need your help, you say your not an expert, but your far more experience, and your modest and honest, I can trust your opinion =)

  I don’t know if I please her enough, does penis size really matter DOES IT! Do I need to be packing a 7 or 8 inch penis, will she ever cheat on me with another man for his size, does she want more, I question so much =( She’s pretty trustworthy, but in the end does she want something bigger and better ? I don’t know why I question myself so much maybe this lies between trust issues, I do trust her, I do love her, but I want her to have the best-est thing because she deserves the best, she’s special to me, and if it’s without me, then so be it =( As for our love life, I know it’s not the size, it’s not even about the sex, it’s about your five senses + brain power. I do so many wild things with her. I take her to the craziest places, and we make love everywhere. I kiss her below her knees, on her knees, in middle of her arms, between her toes, on her pelvis, on her waist, I caress her with my tongue as I swivel it on her tummy.

  I do so much, I put in the time for the crime =P. She tells me that every-time we do have sex, she orgasms at least 4-6 times, is that really the truth? I don’t know if it is because she’s unsure too, I mean can a female be unsure when she finishes? She say’s she doesn’t know because nothing comes out, but she does get this tingly sensation, and she says its when she peaks, is this consider an orgasm for a female? I don’t know I’M A MAN, for Christ-sake! My confidence is really screwing me over, should I just not think about it, and just keep on pleasing her with all that I got, all that any man can give her so that no one will ever take my darling away, I love her dearly, she’s really attached to me also, does this mean a lot? She has cried a lot because I threaten to leave(not over penis, but other problems). She says she loves me and she wants to be with me, and she doesn’t see herself with anyone else. I figure that’s the typical thing to say, so I’m unsure of what is the truth. Maybe she feels this way now, but maybe when it’s over she’ll forget about me.

  I’m working on this for not a short term not a long term but forever, I’m done searching, and I really want to know if she is too, or maybe I’m too much to handle or too much to take care of, she say’s she wants the same thing, married, kids, family, in fact she thinks she’s going overboard with the whole marriage thing, but she really wants it.

  I should really listen to her, and start tossing my insecurity in the trash bin, I need to man up get my confidence back and find my mojo and put it back in place. I’m sorry for the rant, I just would love your opinion on the matter, you seem very helpful, but then again your not in my shoes… Anyhow, I know what to do, I guess writing this did help out a lot, and thanks again for your reviewed comment on the article posted above, it really got me back to where I need to be. Thanks!
• Susan Walsh says:

  August 22, 2010 at 4:15 pm

  Reed, thanks for leaving a comment. First of all, let me assure you that your penis is totally average size. It’s not big, nor small. You’re right on the mean. That means you can just stop worrying about it! Don’t let porn make you feel this way! It sounds like your girlfriend loves having sex with you, and your insecurity will make it hard for her to adore your penis when you are ashamed of it! If you have these feelings, I urge you to keep them to yourself – don’t devalue yourself in her eyes.
  As for her orgasms, women absolutely know when they come, exactly as men do. Scientists actually believe the feeling is very similar for both sexes. Women do have the ability to have multiple orgasms without a waiting period, so it sounds like she is very satisfied sexually. I can’t imagine she would go seeking another man for that reason – she’s already having lots of orgasms, and what more could she want?
  I agree that you really need to work on the insecurity. It’s a relationship destroyer. If she has earned your trust, and says that she loves you, you owe it to her to believe that. Do what you need to do to get your mind in the right place. This is your issue, not hers, and it could drive her away if you are constantly insecure and fearful.