January 6, 2012
Anyone else sometimes have trouble telling if a girl is giving an IOI or just being friendly? Any tips on distinguishing the two?
(came to me when I was browsing the internet and saw first one girl, complaining about how they can"t be nice to guys without getting hit on – the later another girl complaining about why guys won"t make the first move; further fueling the stereotype that women can never be happy )
September 8, 2008
If a girl is being friendly, and you find her attractive, be friendly back and raise her one. Flirt a little. See how that goes over. If she smiles, laughs, etc. she is being responsive. Does she make eye contact? Escalate in small increments, and as long as you get positive feedback, keep going. When you feel like there"s a "vibe" suggest doing something together. If a woman isn"t interested, she"ll put the brakes on, or she"ll delay, make excuses, etc.
December 16, 2011
Breaking the touch barrier is key. If you touch someone and they touch back, that"s a reasonable sign that they"re actually interested in you. Similarly, if they make an effort to get into contact with you. (You can test this at, for instance, a party by disengaging politely and talking to someone else and seeing if they reinitiate conversation.) Laughing at jokes, particularly ones that aren"t funny. Some girls have tells: for instance, when I"m attracted to someone I always play with my hair.
November 30, 2011
ozy is right, kinos are taught to n00bs for this reason.
September 23, 2012
The classic list of IOIs to watch for, from the Mystery Method:
The old-school rule was generally if you get at least 3 of these from her, you can kiss her and she'll likely be receptive to it (or might giggle and turn away but still be into you so you can just stay un-phased and try again later in the pickup lol).
Stuff like playing with her hair is pretty minor, but if she does something like re-approaching you before she leaves or she asks you questions about yourself etc., those are HUGE.
Remember to watch for a handful of these, not just "she touched her hair, she wants to bang me!" lol Good luck!
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