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It wasn’t until I went to Europe with my boyfriend that I learned that given the opportunity to have sex six times a day, he wasn’t into it. There is nothing worse than climbing into bed for some sexy time and hearing a curt “Good night.” Of course, he thought I was a nymphomaniac. I thought that was a good thing!
Is she being serious? I thought twice per day is already very high. I don"t think I could do it more than several times per week. Does it mean I have a low sex drive?
I"m still surprised that sex is so important to people… I"m not interested in the act per se, I"m more interested in the fact that she likes me enough to have sex with me.
Ken, if you"re not interested in the act "per se" , then yes, you have a low sex drive.
I would consider twice a day as being high, if it"s sustained EVERYDAY. The six times a day reference was probably not meant to mean everyday, six times a day. Most likely just a once a week or month thing… and probably while she was still in limerence. Getting out of bed in the morning during that stage can prove to be very difficult!
Ken,
The six times a day was tongue in cheek. After all, we were in Europe to see the sights. However, I would have liked afternoon naps and sexy bedtimes. 
I had always believed we only had sex once or twice a week because of logistical difficulties. When I learned that suited him just fine, I was shocked! There were several nights where I tried to get him interested, and he rolled away. Do you think that"s normal for a 2o year old guy? I recall one night I was so frustrated I went out for a long walk by myself, wondering what this meant for our future. I knew it was essentially over. When I returned, he was either asleep or pretending to be. We never spoke of it again. When I ended our relationship, he was very upset, but he accused me of being sex crazed. The point is, this is a very important area of compatibility to figure out before marriage!
I don"t even think in terms of an absolute number determining "normalcy," unless we are talking about extremes, ie., the person who is absolutely asexual or the sex addict whose addiction to sex creates problems. All that matters is compatibility with one"s partner--do your sex drives coincide? Otherwise, who cares?
4:20 pm
November 23, 2011
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I am just wondering about what other posters think and place themselves on the "Sex Drive" curve.
Most sexologists agree that it depends on the person. For some people once a day is a must for others once a week or once a month. I heard some saying that once a year is normal for some people too but I would probably think that there is something wrong with someone that only gets horny once a year. Athol has a lot of advice about busting a man to reach his sexual peak. Thinks like diets, stress, pregnancy or medicine can affect people"s drives. I will say not to worry that much unless you date a woman that is demanding more sex than you want or that wants less sex than you need. I think most people can adapt to sex differing sex drives if the person in question is worth it. Is a bit like the messy/neat dichotomy Susan mentioned in the things she learned from men she didn"t married. She advices the messy person to become neater but IME it varies, YMMV.
hahahaha Im JEALOUS! haha ya 6 times seems like a lot just because I cant find time in my day to do anything 6 times but it def doesnt mean I dont want too. haha If I was stranded on an Island and with my boy thats prolly what I would do with my time, but I agree I think it depends on the person and like I said, a lot of us cant find the time and I know that some might argue well make time! but if you have kids and a busy lifestyle it is common for sex to take a back seat. 
I also think it might depend on the kind of sex you are having with your partner or what kind of sex you have experienced if you havnt had good rock your world experiences than I can see why your desire for it wont be there as high as the person you has. The connection with the person matters and trying new things makes a difference too, if its the same thing over and over it may not be as exiting or wanted all the time. Every couple to his own what ever you two agree on is whats right! Some people do just have high sex drives.
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