Glossary

@Kari Keeper of Acronyms

If I am not mistaken it has been a full year since you last commented here. I recall your descriptions of Christmas with your daughter. We have missed you, and I am very happy to see you again! Happy New Year!

@Kari

Haha, you have some catching up to do! PLI = Principle of Least Interest. The person who cares the least in a relationship has the most power. A very Machiavellian but increasingly common view of relationships among risk averse youth.

@Kari

The person who cares the least in a relationship has the most power.
Why I see that as downward spiral?

Agreed! It’s a very dysfunctional way to approach a relationship, because it’s all about protecting oneself from risk, and we cannot have love without risk.

@Kari

FTR = for the record

RR = Rules Revisited

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NF is part of the categorization of personality types according to the Myers Briggs Personality Inventory:

http://www.davidmarkley.com/personality/idealist.htm

NFs are called the Idealists. I am an ENFJ. This is more than you bargained for, but this description of NFs is precisely what drives Mike C round the bend here at HUS:

Wanting to uncover meaning and significance in the world, and trying to understand what they believe is the real nature of life and relationships, Idealist thought and speech tends to be interpretive, which means they frequently comment how one thing is really something else. Not tied to observable objects like the SP’s and SJ’s, and not disciplined by the deductive logic of the NT’s, NF’s spontaneously transform one thing into another, erasing distinctions, combining categories, and joining opposites.

Where the other three types-the SJs, SPs, and NTs-pursue ordinary goals, the goal of the NF cannot be seen as other than extraordinary. Indeed, so extraordinary is her or her goal that even the NF him or herself cannot talk about it in a straight forward fashion. If defies his or her description.

The zeal to connect disparate ideas is why the Idealist communication is often laced with metaphors, ascribing features to people and things that belong to other people and things – animate or inanimate, visible or invisible. NF’s have no trouble saying this person is a devil, or that one is an angel. It isn’t that the first person acts like a devil, he is one; and the other person doesn’t simply have the attributes of an angel, she is one. And the sun smiles at us, a corporation is grasping, a train roars, and love is a rose. In just this way Gandi described his search for what he called “Absolute Truth”

Idealists are naturally inductive in their thought and speech, which is to say that they move quickly from the part to the whole, from a few particulars to sweeping generalizations, from the smallest sign of something to its entirety. With their focus on the unseen potentials, on the not visible and the not yet, Idealists show an extraordinary sensitivity to hints of things, mere suggestions, inklings, intimations, symbols. To be sure, such inductive inferences, requiring what is called the “intuitive leap”, can be astonishing to others, especially in cases of mind reading and extra-sensory perception. At the very least, Idealists are the best suited of all the types to read between the lines, or to have a sixth sense about people, and they do indeeed follow theirr hunches, heed their feelings, and insist they “just know” what people are really up to, or what they really mean.

Although the Idealists make up only about 12 percent of the general population, their influence on the minds of the populace is massive, for most writers come from this group. Novelists, dramatists, television writers, playwrights, journalists, poets, and biographers are almost exclusively NFs

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