Relationships Require Labels

May 4, 2015
Relationships Require Labels

This year’s winner of NYX’s Modern Love College Essay contest shares her heartbreaking account of a non-relationship with “that guy,” the one who remains for us in some netherworld between friend and boyfriend, often for years.” In No Labels, No Drama, Right? Jordana Narin, describes her history with Jeremy, whom she met at summer camp when she was […]

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The Value of Heartbreak

April 30, 2015
The Value of Heartbreak

“Great relationships seldom fail. Bad ones do, as they should.” Gary Lewandoski, PhD I often write posts with the intention of alerting women to red flags in dating and relationships. I emphasize the strategic importance of filtering to reduce the risk of bad outcomes. But I’d never want to find a way to eliminate all disappointment […]

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Next HUS Movie Discussion: Before Sunrise

April 29, 2015
Next HUS Movie Discussion: Before Sunrise

The first HUS movie discussion about 500 Days of Summer was very successful! Next up is Before Sunrise:         We’ll discuss it next Wednesday, May 6, so try to watch it before then. Though it’s 20 years old, I think you’ll find it holds up really well.

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Why Do Men Value Different Traits in Wives and Daughters?

April 27, 2015
Why Do Men Value Different Traits in Wives and Daughters?

An Insight Into the 21st Century Man, a new online survey of 818 men commissioned by the Shriver Report, reveals a fascinating contradiction in male preferences and attitudes towards women. They want submissive wives but rather dominant daughters. Men’s top three qualities for wives are: Intelligent Attractive Sweet But here’s what they prize in a daughter: Intelligent […]

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White Lies and Well Being

April 22, 2015
White Lies and Well Being

I’ve always been a stickler for honesty in relationships. I believe we should be up front about the terms of any relationship: what we’re looking for, what we’re willing to give, what we expect to receive. I abhor the “don’t ask, don’t tell” approach to faking exclusivity. I loathe deceptive, manipulative tactics like “push-pull” or […]

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