Is Marrying the Wrong Person Inevitable?

June 7, 2016
Is Marrying the Wrong Person Inevitable?

“Compatibility is an achievement of love; it must not be its precondition.” Alain de Botton Alain de Botton’s recent article Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person in the NYXs is undoubtedly meant to promote his new novel The Course of Love, but has generated a lot of interest for its premise. (Hat tip to J 2.0 […]

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Take the Hooking Up Smart Dating Quiz!

June 3, 2016
Take the Hooking Up Smart Dating Quiz!

You think you know all about hookup culture? Maybe you do because you’re a regular HUS reader, ha. Maybe you think the dating market is worse – or better – than it really is (depending on your perspective). Maybe you’re a worried parent, or a guy who worries about not having enough sexual experience.  Maybe […]

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Helen Fisher on How We Love

June 2, 2016
Helen Fisher on How We Love

Here’s Helen Fisher talking about the three different hormonal systems that can trigger love. She makes the point that casual sex is never casual – amen to that. Her research also dovetails very well with Jonathan Haidt’s work on passionate vs. companionate love. 

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Don’t Knock Companionate Love

May 31, 2016
Don’t Knock Companionate Love

Here’s a chart that freaks out a lot of young people: From the book The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom by Jonathan Haidt, it depicts the two kinds of love married people enjoy throughout their lives together. Twenty-somethings see this as a sort of death knell – or even worse, a sexless, joyless life […]

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Authenticity in Relationships

May 25, 2016
Authenticity in Relationships

We live in a time where little seems authentic. People are famous for being famous. Professional Instagrammers make six figures creating elaborate fantasies for followers. Facebook feeds are carefully curated to present relationships as something more than perfect – the goal is to be enviable. Dating becomes a Game – an entire strategy based on a […]

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