Mismatched Lust Between the Sexes

September 18, 2014
Mismatched Lust Between the Sexes

OKCupid founder Christian Rudder has a new book out: Dataclysm: Who We Are (When We Think No One’s Looking). Rudder is the guy responsible for the always fascinating OKTrends blog, which he started in 2009. From Nate Silver’s blog Five Thirty Eight, we learn that Dataclysm is based on Rudder’s OKTrends posts, for which he spent countless hours […]

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What Does a Person’s Sexual Number Really Tell Us?

September 16, 2014
What Does a Person’s Sexual Number Really Tell Us?

One thing that’s changed dramatically during the last generation is the fixation of young people on their sexual “number.” That is, the number of people they’ve had sex with. (Note: We’re talking P in V here.) I have never been asked the question, nor have I ever asked a man to share his number. Well, that’s […]

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Hookup Culture and the Golden Rule

September 10, 2014
Hookup Culture and the Golden Rule

Conor Friedersdorf’s article When ‘Do Unto Others’ Meets Hookup Culture in today’s Atlantic poses a refreshing and overdue question: Why are traditional conservatives hellbent on fighting contemporary sexual mores with doomsday predictions of the end of Western civilization as we know it? Smug predictions of eternal damnation for sexual sinners are the cherry on top of this Judgment […]

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Escaping The Narcissist Monster

September 8, 2014
Escaping The Narcissist Monster

The Narcissist monster belongs under your bed, not in it. Tomorrow marks the publication of a new book by Jeffrey Kluger, senior editor and science writer at Time magazine: The Narcissist Next Door: Understanding the Monster in Your Family, in Your Office, in Your Bed-in Your World.  Kluger points out that we’re all sociopaths in the beginning: […]

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Dating On Tinder: A Case Study

September 4, 2014
Dating On Tinder: A Case Study

Longtime reader Jenna recently approached me for coaching based on a post I wrote characterizing Tinder as an app that is bringing back traditional dating, at least for some of its users. Jenna, who’s in her mid-20s, wants to meet new people but isn’t interested in traditional online dating. Among her friends, there’s considerable buzz […]

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