Girl, if you’re wondering
If I want you to
I want you to
I want you to
So make a move
‘Cause I ain’t got all night
Weezer
First thing, click on the audioplayer above, it’s my favorite new song and it’s perfect for this post!
Is there a better poster boy on the planet for nice guys than Rivers Cuomo? This quintessentially [...]
Tags: attraction, good guys, how to meet new guys, make a move, Rivers Cuomo, Weezer
I think I’m drowning
asphyxiated
I wanna break this spell
that you’ve created
you’re something beautiful
a contradiction
I wanna play the game
I want the friction
Muse, Time is Running Out
It’s all about the friction.
Friction (def.):
1. The rubbing of one object or surface against another.
2. Conflict, as between persons having dissimilar ideas or interests; clash.
We all know how good the first [...]
Tags: attraction, bad boys, challenge, drama, independence, independent, maturity, mixed message, Muse, psycho bitch, relationship, relationships, security, self-confidence, self-esteem, sex, strategy, success, upper hand
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 22, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies Is the Pill making women abandon this:
In favor of this?
I’d like to start by tipping my hat to my favorite Danish guy reader, who clued me in to a new UK study published in Trends in Ecology and Evolution. It suggests that the Pill is dramatically changing the way women and men experience sexual chemistry. It’s [...]
Tags: attraction, hookup, hookup culture, men, pheromones, relationships, sex, testosterone, women
Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 20, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Girl Talk,
Hooking Up Realities
Dear Aunt Sue,
Do you think guys and girls can really be friends? Or does it always get messed up? My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and I really miss some of his guy friends. I hung out with them for more than a year, and now it’s like they’re off limits. I especially feel [...]
Tags: ad, attachment, attraction, awkward, bar, bed, boyfriend, breakup, bro code, commitment, crush, cult, drama, dumped, emo, ex, feelings, friend, friendship, girl, girlfriend, girls, guy, guys, hanging out, hook up, hooking up, hookup, hos, hot, IM, impulse, LA, loser, man code, men, NY, platonic friends, platonic friendships, pride, random, relationship, relationships, rude, sex, sexual tension, single, smart, success, TA, talk, text, together, vibe, wit
Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 13, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies
This morning I checked my inbox knowing that my Google Alerts would have coughed up numerous articles about romance, just in time for the imminent, dreaded, Holiday That Must Not Be Named. Sifting through the trite and the cute, I found four separate articles describing recent college speed dating events. Huh? I thought speed dating was [...]
Tags: attraction, Boston, college, college students, commitment, date, dating, emo, ex, good man, guy, guys, heart, love, objective, online, online dating, rant, relationships, romance, romantic, sex, speed dating, spirituality, strategy, success, text
“You’re the best listener that I’ve ever met
You’re my best friend
Best friend with benefits”
Alanis Morissette, Head Over Feet
As someone who writes about contemporary relationships and the hookup culture, I hear a lot about Friends With Benefits Relationships (FWBR), mostly from women. Mostly they don’t seem to work too well, in that most young women regret [...]
Tags: attraction, boys, cell, college, college students, commitment, crush, date, dating, emo, ex, friend, friends with benefits, girl, girls, guy, guys, hanging out, heart, hooking up, hookup, hos, hot, love, pursue, random, relationships, romance, romantic, sex, sexual freedom, sexual tension, status, STD, stuff, success, support, text, virgin
The other day I was asked, “If you could possess one superpower, what would you choose?” I always think of that as a guy sorta thing. I’m not interested in scaling walls or having X-ray vision. When I was a kid, more than anything I wanted to be like Samantha on Bewitched. I realize that’s [...]
Tags: attitude, attraction, boyfriend, douche, emo, ex, exorcism, friend, guy, guys, horoscope, hos, love, monogamy, pheromones, plan, power, relationships, revenge, romance, sex, technology, text, The Secret, voodoo
Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 31, 2009 in
Tidbits
Here in Boston where I live, we’ve been having a brutal winter. Winter is always a long, tough slog around here, especially for a girl who grew up in LA. But this year has got to be a record-setter. Endless snow and ice and dirty slush. The city looks gray and grim much of the [...]
Tags: attraction, Boston, connection, friend, girl, heart, hos, hot, love, missed connections, relationships, romance, virgin, winter
Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 30, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
Tidbits,
What Guys Want The other day a guy left a comment expressing frustration at Sexual Attraction + Compatibility = Nothing? His point was that he gets jerked around by girls all the time, especially when he is a nice guy. They lead him on, flirt and fuss, and then say they don’t want to date. It got me [...]
Tags: attraction, boys, chase, commitment, date, ex, flirt, girl, girls, guy, guys, hooking up, independent, lies, love, male, media, nice guys, Quality Boy, rant, relationships, sex, strategy, text
“I’m really attracted to you. I have a great time with you. You’re awesome, you’re the coolest girl I know. Your friendship means a lot to me. I don’t want to date you.”
WTF?
This seems to be the standard hookup dump line these days. In fact, if you get that much, you’re lucky; this level of [...]
Tags: attraction, awkward, boyfriend, boys, breakup, college, commitment, date, dumped, emo, ex, friend, girl, girlfriend, girls, guy, guys, heart, hooking up, hookup, love, male, random, relationship potential, scene, self-respect, sex, strategy, text, texting, weekend
