Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 5, 2010 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Politics and Feminism The post you are about to read was not inspired by the events of the past few days. It reflects two timely pieces of writing that showed up in my inbox this morning. Call it a happy coincidence. The first is a post by John Ortved, Glamour magazine’s Single-ish columnist. In When Is a Booty [...]
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I was feeling a little crafty today, so I made a chart. It actually helped me understand relationship dynamics by thinking about all the potential variations. I’m sure I missed some, so if you have anything to add, leave a comment! Also, this is a perfect conversation starter for relationship war stories, so feel free [...]
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As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 28, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Hooking Up Realities Dear Susan, Now that midterms are over, I’m starting to think about going home for Thanksgiving. I’m worried about making the wrong choices. Actually, I’m worried I’ll make the same wrong choice several times over in the four days that I’m home. Last summer I had a thing with a guy. It wasn’t exactly a [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 7, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Tidbits,
What Guys Want I’m off to visit my daughter, who’s studying abroad, but I’ve scheduled some posts to be published on my mostly normal schedule (M,W,F). I’m taking my laptop, but based on her crummy online connection, I’m not really sure whether I’ll be able to get to the internets. I hope to, because I love doing the [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 28, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Manolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too nice.” One [...]
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Man whore: A sexually active, promiscuous, younger man who is well known at most health clinics and may have an STD named after him in his honor. Would you date a man whore? Me neither. What if he was willing, even eager, to be exclusive with you? Me neither. Recently I’ve noticed a real and [...]
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It’s easy to understand why women get really discouraged as they look around, especially on college campuses. Even the cutest guys become repulsive by virtue of their behavior, which often ranges from idiotic to crass to just plain rude. Most of these guys will probably turn out great. They’ll mature and settle down to [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 18, 2008 in
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Relationship Strategies Dear Aunt Sue, I just got home for the holidays and I know there’s going to be drama with my ex over the break. Everyone always says DO NOT hook up with your ex, so I figure it’s probably a stupid idea, but I’ve been thinking about him. We broke up at the end of [...]
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