Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
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Amy Johnson is a psychologist and life coach who answers questions about relationships. In a recent post, she identified the three most common themes in the letters she receives from people. The commentary is mine.
1. You already know the answer.
People regularly write asking for a fresh analysis of events, even though they already know what’s [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 13, 2009 in
Personal Development,
Relationship Strategies First thing, click play on the mp3 player below. It’s my favorite song of the summer, the All-American Rejects singing Gives You Hell. I’ve probably heard this song a few hundred times, but I’m still not tired of it. It might be the best revenge song EVER.
[dewplayer:/04 Gives You Hell.mp3]
“When you see my face, hope [...]
Tags: All-American Rejects, awkward, breakup, crazy face, crush, drama, ego, eye contact, love, mp3 player, party, regret, relationship, relationships, revenge, strategy, talk, talmud
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
Wayne Gretzky
As far as I can tell, there are three different camps of guys that girls love to gossip about:
1. Guys they have the hots for.
2. Guys that suck.
Note: “Guys they have the hots for” often progress to “guys that suck” over time.
3. Guys they [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Apr 20, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies “I feel the capacity to care is the thing which gives life its deepest significance.”
Pablo Casals
Dear Aunt Sue,
I recently found out that the guy I was totally in love with was totally playing me. I feel like the biggest fool. I just want to crawl under a rock and never come out. How could I [...]
Tags: breakup, college, dating, dumped, fool, hooking up, love, player, relationships
Posted by Susan Walsh on Apr 13, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Relationship Strategies Dear Aunt Sue,
I’ve been with this guy Tyler for a while and I really like him a lot. At first we were just hooking up, and we never talked about the relationship or anything. But it became a regular thing, and I developed feelings for him. Then I found out he hooked up with someone [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Apr 2, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Tidbits No, I don’t mean the shorts you wore when you last broke up with someone, nor do I mean the boxers he was pulling on as he told you it was over. I mean Short as in, “Notify the Academy, I’ve made an Animated Short Film!” You can too, it is soooo easy. Just go [...]
Tags: animation, boxers, boyfriend, breakup, scene, short film
Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 31, 2009 in
Tidbits There are all kinds of great Ecards around. I wrote a post a while back about sending anonymous ecards to notify someone you have an STD in The New Postcard: STD Arrived, Hope You Are Healthy. And at That’s Not Cool, you can choose from a variety of ecards to send when someone is cyber- [...]
Tags: awkward, breakup, college, douchebag, ecards, ex, penis, porn, sex
Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 30, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Relationship Strategies
“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.”
Maya Angelou
Do you still have your bad days? Yeah. Do you still think of him? Of course. But you have come a long way, and you feel ready to [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 25, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Relationship Strategies “A relationship, I think, is like a shark, you know? It has to constantly move forward or it dies. And I think what we got on our hands is a dead shark.”
Woody Allen
This is the hardest stage of surviving a breakup. And it’s also often the longest. You’ve done a good job getting back to [...]
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