In my experience, most young women want a boyfriend. And most feel sort of embarrassed about that, which leads to their going after what they want either indirectly, doing things they don’t feel good about, or just hoping for the best. All in the name of saving face. If things don’t work out, they take comfort from the possibility that the guy never really knew how hopeful they’d been.
This is a poor strategy for getting into a relationship:
1. It’s extremely inefficient, and wastes a lot of your time.
2. The possibilities for misunderstanding and miscommunication are endless.
3. By not taking active control of your own life, you cede the power to others, who naturally put their own interests ahead of yours.