I think I’m drowning
asphyxiated
I wanna break this spell
that you’ve created
you’re something beautiful
a contradiction
I wanna play the game
I want the friction
Muse, Time is Running Out
It’s all about the friction.
Friction (def.):
1. The rubbing of one object or surface against another.
2. Conflict, as between persons having dissimilar ideas or interests; clash.
We all know how good the first [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 20, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want I hadn’t really planned a post for today, but I woke up to a couple of things this morning that I just have to share. Before lunch today I had already felt: moved, amused, proud, surprised, enlightened, horrified, sickened, shocked, bewildered, repulsed and consumed by paroxysms of laughter. In other words, there’s good news, and [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 28, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Manolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too nice.”
One of [...]
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If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
Jimmy Soul, 1970
Do beautiful women have a harder time finding real love? I bet Jennifer Aniston thinks so. The woman in this photo writes the [...]
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“Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent’s fate.”
Sun Tzu, The Art of War
Playing Hard To Get has traditionally been a woman’s game:
Woman is the desired object.
Man wants sex.
Man courts woman to gain access to sex.
Woman [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 27, 2009 in
What Guys Want Here’s an article I think is worth sharing. It’s unusually good for this kind of thing. I know I can never get enough of guys explaining how guys think and what they want. Sort of an instruction manual!
What Guys Wish We Knew
By Sandra Prior
Posted: July 26, 2009
One of the great things about guys is they’re [...]
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Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, not being able to leave the beauty of his own [...]
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I found this bit of humor at Buzzfeed, but I suspect know that many guys would call it 100% accurate. We call them jerks and douchebags, but we go for them anyway, don’t we? If we didn’t they’d be forced to stop acting so nasty to get laid. Do we force nice guys into last [...]
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Last week I posted You’re Welcome, Guys! and invited any guys enjoying Hooking Up Smart to write a guest post offering a male point of view. Right away I heard from Mike Hendel, and I’m delighted to welcome him today as our first ever guy guest blogger! A little info about this dynamic guy:
Mike Hendel [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 3, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities “It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn’t use long, difficult words, but rather short, easy words like “What about lunch?”
Winnie the Pooh
As the author of The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man’s Enlightened Guide to Success with Women, Dr. Alex Benzer is primarily known as a guy who helps other guys get women. [...]
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