Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 1, 2010 in
Tidbits I. Woman Gets Busted for Cheating On the Radio
Thanks to Natalie (again!) for sending along something interesting and entertaining. This is a couple of weeks old, and you may have heard it. It’s hilarious and well worth a listen when you’ve got 12 minutes:
Do you feel sorry for Ashley? I don’t. Ashley had it coming. [...]
Tags: cheating, college sex, dating, Digital Damage Control, hooking up, hookup, Lunch in Paris, nerve.com, onepoll.com, relationship advice, relationships, sex, what women want
Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 4, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Yesterday Lisa, a reader, wrote and asked for my thoughts on the Tiger Woods drama. Specifically, she wondered about the correlation between power and infidelity. The correlation is obvious:
However, correlation doesn’t tell us anything about cause and effect. We need to look at cheating in general to understand why this correlation is so strong.
Who cheats?
It’s [...]
Tags: adultery, affection, cheating, desire, infidelity, men, monogamy, power, Tiger Woods, women
As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Many guys think it’s OK have numerous sexual relationships at the same time. Most girls don’t. Recently in the Washington Post, advice columnist Carolyn Hax weighed in on this question:
Anonymous: Hi Carolyn,
I am having sex with three people right now. (Not literally right now, but you get the idea.) Two of them have no idea [...]
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There’s a new double-standard being applied to women in relationships, and it’s even more insidious than Studs. vs. Sluts. A favorite tactic of young men when questioned about their questionable behavior is to accuse the self-respecting woman of being a PSYCHO.
I’ll be the first to admit I’m not a licensed psychologist. I may dish out a [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on May 7, 2009 in
Tidbits,
What Guys Want There is the most wonderful series of animated videos on YouTube by Levni Yilmaz. It’s called Tales of Mere Existence. One of my favorites is What Would Penis Do? It’s like a game of Rock, Paper, Scissors, only this is Penis, Heart, Mind. Penis breaks Heart and warps Mind. But you knew that already. Still, it’s [...]
Tags: cheating, dating, guys, heart, hooking up, mind, penis, relationships, sex
Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 17, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Girl Talk When you’re going through a breakup, the first couple of days are a blur. You’re in shock, you’re in denial, and you have a whole lot of support from your friends. All that serves to blunt the effect somewhat. Then, on about day three or four, reality sets in. You. Have. Been. Dumped. Your world [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 23, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Relationship Strategies
“If he did it without your knowledge, and stayed silent about it afterwards, it’s cheating.”
Aunt Sue
Frequently I hear from young women who are confused about whether they’ve been cheated on. They feel hurt and betrayed by a guy who hooked up with someone else, but the guy has coughed up some lame-ass excuse for his [...]
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“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.”
Mark Twain
Dear Aunt Sue,
I’ve been hooking up with this guy a lot lately. I think we’re both really into it. The only thing is, he’s got a girlfriend. He says their relationship isn’t making him happy, and I think he might be [...]
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