Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 4, 2010 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want In my recent post Can Women Run Game on Men? I discussed the book Why Men Love Bitches. There was one particular piece of advice that I thought deserved special attention, because it’s a trap that women frequently fall into.
“A [women with high self-esteem] is polite but clear, and communicates very directly, in much the [...]
Tags: commitment, communication, communication styles, dating, Deborah Tannen, gender differences, John Gray, Lillian Glass, men, Men are from Mars Women are from Venus, relationship advice, women, You Just Don't Understand
Because physical intimacy comes before emotional intimacy when hooking up, it can be difficult to interpret communication. You may be discussing something personal with someone you don’t really know very well. Here are 30 common phrases to help you navigate these murky waters. If this reminds you of the guy you’re interested in, it’s time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 7, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Tidbits,
What Guys Want I’m off to visit my daughter, who’s studying abroad, but I’ve scheduled some posts to be published on my mostly normal schedule (M,W,F). I’m taking my laptop, but based on her crummy online connection, I’m not really sure whether I’ll be able to get to the internets. I hope to, because I love doing the [...]
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Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
Tags: anticipation, bad boys, breakup, college, commitment, communication, confidence, date, dating, drama, feelings, friend, friend zone, friendship, girl, girls, guy, having sex, heartbreak, honest, hookup, hookup culture, intimacy, jerks, love, mature, nice guys, player, players, power, relationship, respect, strategy, text, women
I need love, love
To ease my mind
I need to find, find someone to call mine
But mama said
You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said love don’t come easy
It’s a game of give and take
Diana Ross and the Supremes, 1966
In the most basic terms, a human relationship is a connection or attachment [...]
Tags: communication, connection, feelings, generosity, heartbreak, hooking up, hookup, love, men, power, reassurance, relationship, relationships, sex, trust, YouTube
Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 3, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want “Joey: You waited too long and now you’re in ‘The Friend Zone’.
Ross: No, I’m not in the Zone.
Joey: Come on, Ross; you’re mayor of the Zone!”
Friends
I’m one of those cynics who thinks it is really, really difficult for guys and girls to maintain platonic friendships. I think it works best when:
One or [...]
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Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, not being able to leave the beauty of his own [...]
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David Cain has a blog called Raptitude. He describes it as “the gentle art of sanity amidst civilization,” and invites you to have a look around by saying, “Raptitude is a blog for helping each other to enjoy being human. If you are a human, I’m sure you’ll find something you like.” I can get [...]
Tags: alcohol, awkward, beer emotions, communication, date, drunk, emotions, ex, flirt, friend, guy, love, open, plan, regret, relationship, relationships, self-confidence, strategies, strategy, support, trust, youth and beauty
One of the reasons that young people prefer to hook up casually is that they are hesitant to get emotionally invested in a relationship with an expiration date on it. The school year ends, people study abroad, job offers come from different cities, as do acceptances to graduate school. Most people can expect to be [...]
Tags: anticipation, cell, cell phone, communication, dating, emotional intimacy, honest, honesty, online, orgasm, porn, relationship, relationships, sex, strategies, talk, technology, text message, texting, together, touch, trust, video, women
“Neon shines through smoky eyes tonight
It’s 2 AM, I’m drunk again, it’s heavy on my mind
Excuse me please, one more drink
Could you make it strong ’cause I don’t need to think”
Dave Matthews Band
How can you know what he really means if he says one thing when drunk and something else when sober? [...]
Tags: alcohol, alcohol level, beer emotions, communication, dating, drunk, drunk sincerity, emotions, guys, hookup culture, legal limit, love, relationship, romantic, secrets, sober, truth serum
