Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 26, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies Early this year, the Boston Globe magazine started a feature called Dinner with Cupid. They’ll pay for a blind date, and they do the matchmaking based on interests, education, age, etc. A photo is required as part of the application, so I assume they’re trying to match up people of a similar level of attractiveness [...]
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Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
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If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
Jimmy Soul, 1970
Do beautiful women have a harder time finding real love? I bet Jennifer Aniston thinks so. The woman in this photo writes the [...]
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Many guys think it’s OK have numerous sexual relationships at the same time. Most girls don’t. Recently in the Washington Post, advice columnist Carolyn Hax weighed in on this question:
Anonymous: Hi Carolyn,
I am having sex with three people right now. (Not literally right now, but you get the idea.) Two of them have no idea [...]
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We really need to find a way to get guys to stop worrying about penis size. I’ve gathered a critical mass of anecdotal evidence that tells me the problem is getting worse. Of course, guys worrying about the size of their junk is nothing new. Studies have always shown that many men are dissatisfied with [...]
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Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, not being able to leave the beauty of his own [...]
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I found this bit of humor at Buzzfeed, but I suspect know that many guys would call it 100% accurate. We call them jerks and douchebags, but we go for them anyway, don’t we? If we didn’t they’d be forced to stop acting so nasty to get laid. Do we force nice guys into last [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 17, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Girl Talk When you’re going through a breakup, the first couple of days are a blur. You’re in shock, you’re in denial, and you have a whole lot of support from your friends. All that serves to blunt the effect somewhat. Then, on about day three or four, reality sets in. You. Have. Been. Dumped. Your world [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 2, 2008 in
Ask Susan,
What Guys Want
“Mr. Right’s coming, but he’s in Africa, and he’s walking.”
Oprah Winfrey
Aunt Sue,
Ugggghhhhh, I don’t get it! I am so frustrated. I thought for sure this boy was different. I mean, I’ve been through this a million times. I figured out a long time ago that guys will hardly ever call after a random hookup, [...]
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