Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 3, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want “Joey: You waited too long and now you’re in ‘The Friend Zone’.
Ross: No, I’m not in the Zone.
Joey: Come on, Ross; you’re mayor of the Zone!”
Friends
I’m one of those cynics who thinks it is really, really difficult for guys and girls to maintain platonic friendships. I think it works best when:
One or [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 13, 2009 in
Personal Development,
Relationship Strategies First thing, click play on the mp3 player below. It’s my favorite song of the summer, the All-American Rejects singing Gives You Hell. I’ve probably heard this song a few hundred times, but I’m still not tired of it. It might be the best revenge song EVER.
[dewplayer:/04 Gives You Hell.mp3]
“When you see my face, hope [...]
Tags: All-American Rejects, awkward, breakup, crazy face, crush, drama, ego, eye contact, love, mp3 player, party, regret, relationship, relationships, revenge, strategy, talk, talmud
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
Wayne Gretzky
As far as I can tell, there are three different camps of guys that girls love to gossip about:
1. Guys they have the hots for.
2. Guys that suck.
Note: “Guys they have the hots for” often progress to “guys that suck” over time.
3. Guys they [...]
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This is NOT a post about those three little words. This is a post about what women need to hear waaaayyy before that. This is a post for men, about women. If you’re one of my women readers, please use the comments below to add anything you’d like to say. And email this to any [...]
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“I have no power. Why should she have the upper hand? Once in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand. No hand at all. She has the hand. I have no hand.”
George
“We all want the hand. Hand is tough to get.”
Jerry
Willard Waller was a sociologist who coined the phrase [...]
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I have one final thought I want to share with you from the story of how I got together with my husband all those years ago. It’s tricky, but I think it’s important, so here goes.
You say a lot about who you are and what you want when you decide to have sex with someone.
I [...]
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“Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.”
Woody Allen
Today I’m beginning a new series, and it starts with the backstory of my own most significant relationship. I sometimes share personal details here, but I’ve never told you this particular story. It’s the story that originally won [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on May 26, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies “In gardens, beauty is a by-product. The main business is sex and death.”
Sam Llewelyn
I spent my holiday weekend digging holes. I am a gardener, and every year on Memorial Day I plant, and weed, and water, and generally launch my garden for the summer. I confess I feel sheepish admitting this, because I fear you [...]
Tags: beauty, beautyrelationships, Boston, crush, drama, fall in love, garden, gardening, getting what you want, love, mature, plant, respect, success, survival, three strike rule, ultimatum, weeds
Posted by Susan Walsh on May 19, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Tidbits The Frisky found the most wonderful video called My First Crush by Julia Pott. It’s made even more charming by the British accents, which make any ordinary sentiment sound special. Wendy Atterberry accompanies it with some charming remembrances of her own girlhood crushes.
You can find more awesome stuff by Julia Pott at her MySpace page.
So let’s [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 20, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Girl Talk,
Hooking Up Realities
Dear Aunt Sue,
Do you think guys and girls can really be friends? Or does it always get messed up? My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and I really miss some of his guy friends. I hung out with them for more than a year, and now it’s like they’re off limits. I especially feel [...]
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