Posted by Susan Walsh on Nov 25, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Relationship Strategies
Is there a woman alive who doesn’t adore Tina Fey? I mean besides Sarah Palin. Tina Fey is an incredible role model for women. A self-described high school AP nerd, she lost her virginity to her husband at the age of 24:
Amy Poehler interviewed her for Marie Claire magazine, here’s my favorite bit:
Amy: There are [...]
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As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Because physical intimacy comes before emotional intimacy when hooking up, it can be difficult to interpret communication. You may be discussing something personal with someone you don’t really know very well. Here are 30 common phrases to help you navigate these murky waters. If this reminds you of the guy you’re interested in, it’s time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 26, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies
Early this year, the Boston Globe magazine started a feature called Dinner with Cupid. They’ll pay for a blind date, and they do the matchmaking based on interests, education, age, etc. A photo is required as part of the application, so I assume they’re trying to match up people of a similar level of attractiveness [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 14, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies
This list of 35 brutally honest truths will tell you what women really want from men. Let’s just say I’m trying to promote cross-cultural understanding. Think of this as an Instruction Manual.
1. Women don’t tell each other everything.
We don’t share a lot of intimate sexual details. OK, if you’re hung like a stallion, it [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 9, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Personal Development
Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions. ~Woody Allen
There are some very compelling reasons why you should be having sex. A lot of sex. Common sense tells us that the male orgasm directly serves to propagate the species. Although the female orgasm has puzzled [...]
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Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 28, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want
Manolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too nice.”
One of [...]
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Another Friday and hopefully all you singles have big plans for the weekend. It’s autumn, and I always feel that there’s a sense of possibility in the air at this time of year. It’s the season for getting cozy, so how about meeting someone new? At the blog Life After College, guest blogger Ryan Stephens [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 24, 2009 in
Tidbits
Bringing you a little laughter link love this afternoon:
1. The Los Angeles Times features a couple of interesting iphone apps to help you date and mate.
The Girlfriend Keeper generates text messages to send to your SO, allowing you to specify the relationship level: strangers, casual dating, heating up, serious or married.
I would consider this app [...]
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