Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 1, 2010 in
Tidbits I. Woman Gets Busted for Cheating On the Radio
Thanks to Natalie (again!) for sending along something interesting and entertaining. This is a couple of weeks old, and you may have heard it. It’s hilarious and well worth a listen when you’ve got 12 minutes:
Do you feel sorry for Ashley? I don’t. Ashley had it coming. [...]
Tags: cheating, college sex, dating, Digital Damage Control, hooking up, hookup, Lunch in Paris, nerve.com, onepoll.com, relationship advice, relationships, sex, what women want
Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 9, 2010 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want There’s been a fair amount of buzz in the blogosphere about the NYX’s article re a shortage of men on UNC’s campus. I thought I’d bring you some of the more interesting bits.
I. From Feministing, that bastion of sex-positive, snarky women:
Would You Like a College Degree to Go With Your Man? The NYT’s Heteronormative Fail
This [...]
Tags: Alex Williams, college, dating, Feministing, Gawker, hookup culture, New Math on Campus, new york times, relationship advice, Salon, UNC
Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 4, 2010 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want In my recent post Can Women Run Game on Men? I discussed the book Why Men Love Bitches. There was one particular piece of advice that I thought deserved special attention, because it’s a trap that women frequently fall into.
“A [women with high self-esteem] is polite but clear, and communicates very directly, in much the [...]
Tags: commitment, communication, communication styles, dating, Deborah Tannen, gender differences, John Gray, Lillian Glass, men, Men are from Mars Women are from Venus, relationship advice, women, You Just Don't Understand
Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 5, 2010 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Personal Development Dear Susan,
First let me say I love, love, love your blog…it’s required daily reading for me! I would really appreciate any insight/advice you have about my current situation…Basically, it’s the classic tale as old as time…the old f*ck buddy conundrum. Last spring, while in the final semester of grad school, I started hooking up multiple [...]
Tags: dating, friends with benefits, FWB, graduate school, online dating, relationship, relationship advice, relationship potential
Posted by Susan Walsh on Nov 25, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Relationship Strategies Is there a woman alive who doesn’t adore Tina Fey? I mean besides Sarah Palin. Tina Fey is an incredible role model for women. A self-described high school AP nerd, she lost her virginity to her husband at the age of 24:
Amy Poehler interviewed her for Marie Claire magazine, here’s my favorite bit:
Amy: There are [...]
Tags: ad, advice, Alec Baldwin, balls, bar, bars, bed, blog, boxers, boyfriend, college, compromise, dance, date, dating, emo, ex, fall, first date, fortunate, friend, girl, guy, hand, health, heart, high school, hos, hot, hygiene, IM, intelligence, LA, love, love letter, mature, men, New York, NY, NYC, open, plan, relationship, ross, Salon.com, sex, single, smart, smell, songs, subway, TA, taken, talk, together, tom brady, touch, tuna, TV, weekend, wit
As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
Tags: booty call, booty calls, boyfriend, cheating, date, dating, drama, emotions, friendship, girlfriend, girls, having sex, high maintenance, hook up, hookup, just friends, make out, penis, player, psycho, relationship, relationships, sex, sex and relationships, spooning, text, vibe, video games, women
Because physical intimacy comes before emotional intimacy when hooking up, it can be difficult to interpret communication. You may be discussing something personal with someone you don’t really know very well. Here are 30 common phrases to help you navigate these murky waters. If this reminds you of the guy you’re interested in, it’s time [...]
Tags: benefit of the doubt, boyfriend, communication, date, dating, drama, dumped, emotional intimacy, ex, friend, girl, girls, guy, guys, hooking up, hot, IM, LA, male, men, NY, physical intimacy, psycho, psycho bitch, relationship, relationships, scene, sex, sex sex sex, TA, talk, wingman, wit
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 20, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want I hadn’t really planned a post for today, but I woke up to a couple of things this morning that I just have to share. Before lunch today I had already felt: moved, amused, proud, surprised, enlightened, horrified, sickened, shocked, bewildered, repulsed and consumed by paroxysms of laughter. In other words, there’s good news, and [...]
Tags: Art of Manliness, asshat, beauty, beauty and the beast, challenge, dating, Don Draper, fashion, Ferdinand Bardamu, girl, girls, guy, guys, hot, laughter, men, photography, pickup artist, plan, rejection, relationship, relationships, Roissy, Scientology, seduction community, self-confidence, self-esteem, support, Texts from last night, wit, women, YouTube
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 12, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies The Concept of Fast, Good or Cheap?
Psychologist Linda Young has written an article at Psychology Today that caught the attention of the largely dormant MBA part of my brain. She takes a Project Management construct and applies it to dating. It’s called Fast, Good or Cheap, and I think it works.
The concept refers to the [...]
Tags: assertive communication, charisma, college, commitment, dating, emotional stability, empathy, fling, flirt, guy, guys, hooking up, hookup, humor, integrity, linda young, long term relationships, love, love at first sight, MBA, men, partner selection, physical attractiveness, project management, psychologist, psychology today, relationship, relationships, sex, sex appeal, sexual variety, smart, social customs, symbols of wealth, trust, women
Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
Tags: anticipation, bad boys, breakup, college, commitment, communication, confidence, date, dating, drama, feelings, friend, friend zone, friendship, girl, girls, guy, having sex, heartbreak, honest, hookup, hookup culture, intimacy, jerks, love, mature, nice guys, player, players, power, relationship, respect, strategy, text, women
