I think I’m drowning
asphyxiated
I wanna break this spell
that you’ve created
you’re something beautiful
a contradiction
I wanna play the game
I want the friction
Muse, Time is Running Out
It’s all about the friction.
Friction (def.):
1. The rubbing of one object or surface against another.
2. Conflict, as between persons having dissimilar ideas or interests; clash.
We all know how good the first [...]
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As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Because physical intimacy comes before emotional intimacy when hooking up, it can be difficult to interpret communication. You may be discussing something personal with someone you don’t really know very well. Here are 30 common phrases to help you navigate these murky waters. If this reminds you of the guy you’re interested in, it’s time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 28, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Hooking Up Realities Dear Susan,
Now that midterms are over, I’m starting to think about going home for Thanksgiving. I’m worried about making the wrong choices. Actually, I’m worried I’ll make the same wrong choice several times over in the four days that I’m home. Last summer I had a thing with a guy. [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 14, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies This list of 35 brutally honest truths will tell you what women really want from men. Let’s just say I’m trying to promote cross-cultural understanding. Think of this as an Instruction Manual.
1. Women don’t tell each other everything.
We don’t share a lot of intimate sexual details. OK, if you’re hung like a stallion, it [...]
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Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
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Amy Johnson is a psychologist and life coach who answers questions about relationships. In a recent post, she identified the three most common themes in the letters she receives from people. The commentary is mine.
1. You already know the answer.
People regularly write asking for a fresh analysis of events, even though they already know what’s [...]
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“You’re hot then you’re cold
You’re yes then you’re no
You’re in and you’re out
You’re up and you’re down
Someone call the doctor
Got a case of love bipolar
Stuck on a rollercoaster
Can’t get off this ride”
Katy Perry, Hot N Cold
I want to write about integrity, but I don’t know what it is. Sure, I have a sense of what [...]
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“Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent’s fate.”
Sun Tzu, The Art of War
Playing Hard To Get has traditionally been a woman’s game:
Woman is the desired object.
Man wants sex.
Man courts woman to gain access to sex.
Woman [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 13, 2009 in
Personal Development,
Relationship Strategies First thing, click play on the mp3 player below. It’s my favorite song of the summer, the All-American Rejects singing Gives You Hell. I’ve probably heard this song a few hundred times, but I’m still not tired of it. It might be the best revenge song EVER.
[dewplayer:/04 Gives You Hell.mp3]
“When you see my face, hope [...]
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