Because physical intimacy comes before emotional intimacy when hooking up, it can be difficult to interpret communication. You may be discussing something personal with someone you don’t really know very well. Here are 30 common phrases to help you navigate these murky waters. If this reminds you of the guy you’re interested in, it’s time [...]
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Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, not being able to leave the beauty of his own [...]
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“I have no power. Why should she have the upper hand? Once in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand. No hand at all. She has the hand. I have no hand.”
George
“We all want the hand. Hand is tough to get.”
Jerry
Willard Waller was a sociologist who coined the phrase [...]
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I found this bit of humor at Buzzfeed, but I suspect know that many guys would call it 100% accurate. We call them jerks and douchebags, but we go for them anyway, don’t we? If we didn’t they’d be forced to stop acting so nasty to get laid. Do we force nice guys into last [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Apr 20, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies “I feel the capacity to care is the thing which gives life its deepest significance.”
Pablo Casals
Dear Aunt Sue,
I recently found out that the guy I was totally in love with was totally playing me. I feel like the biggest fool. I just want to crawl under a rock and never come out. How could I [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 21, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Relationship Strategies
“Revenge is sweet and not fattening.”
Alfred Hitchcock
I’m not advocating real acts of revenge against someone who has broken your heart; that would make you look like a pathetic and disturbed individual. As I’ve said before, “Don’t get even, get even better.” But that doesn’t mean a fantasy life filled with schemes of sadistic torture against [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 20, 2009 in
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Girl Talk,
Hooking Up Realities
Dear Aunt Sue,
Do you think guys and girls can really be friends? Or does it always get messed up? My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and I really miss some of his guy friends. I hung out with them for more than a year, and now it’s like they’re off limits. I especially feel [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 17, 2009 in
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Girl Talk When you’re going through a breakup, the first couple of days are a blur. You’re in shock, you’re in denial, and you have a whole lot of support from your friends. All that serves to blunt the effect somewhat. Then, on about day three or four, reality sets in. You. Have. Been. Dumped. Your world [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 11, 2009 in
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Relationship Strategies My heart, which is so full to overflowing, has often been solaced and refreshed by music when sick and weary.”
Martin Luther
When relationships end, music = therapy. When you’re the dumpee, a breakup soundtrack is crucial to getting through it. In my recent post The Girls’ Kickass Guide to Getting Over a Breakup, I promised that [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 4, 2009 in
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Relationship Strategies
Now that Zagat’s has announced new Dating (and Dumping) Guides for New York and LA, I’m bracing myself for some nasty stories. Zagat’s selected their dumping grounds based on the number of exits and proximity to transportation (so you can get the hell outta there), as well as the attractiveness of the clientele, so that [...]
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