Because physical intimacy comes before emotional intimacy when hooking up, it can be difficult to interpret communication. You may be discussing something personal with someone you don’t really know very well. Here are 30 common phrases to help you navigate these murky waters. If this reminds you of the guy you’re interested in, it’s time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 28, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Manolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too nice.”
One of [...]
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There’s a new double-standard being applied to women in relationships, and it’s even more insidious than Studs. vs. Sluts. A favorite tactic of young men when questioned about their questionable behavior is to accuse the self-respecting woman of being a PSYCHO.
I’ll be the first to admit I’m not a licensed psychologist. I may dish out a [...]
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“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
Wayne Gretzky
As far as I can tell, there are three different camps of guys that girls love to gossip about:
1. Guys they have the hots for.
2. Guys that suck.
Note: “Guys they have the hots for” often progress to “guys that suck” over time.
3. Guys they [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jun 25, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies I speak with many women who would like to be in a relationship, but are missing one important ingredient: that elusive Y chromosome in the form of a guy. They bemoan the current state of affairs, and in a “misery loves company” sort of way, talk about it for hours on end with sympathetic friends [...]
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One of the reasons that young people prefer to hook up casually is that they are hesitant to get emotionally invested in a relationship with an expiration date on it. The school year ends, people study abroad, job offers come from different cities, as do acceptances to graduate school. Most people can expect to be [...]
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In a culture that prioritizes sexual intimacy before emotional intimacy, forming real romantic attachments is a challenge for both men and women. And yet, many relationships begin with casual sex.
I’ve created a flowchart describing the anatomy of relationships today:
As you can see, there are lots of hurdles one needs to jump before landing in a [...]
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