Learning to Speak Hookup: Guys’ Edition
As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
You Know You Want Him, So Have Him
Dear Susan,
Now that midterms are over, I’m starting to think about going home for Thanksgiving. I’m worried about making the wrong choices. Actually, I’m worried I’ll make the same wrong choice several times over in the four days that I’m home. Last summer I had a thing with a guy. [...]
How to Boost Your Self-Confidence With the Opposite Sex
Another Friday and hopefully all you singles have big plans for the weekend. It’s autumn, and I always feel that there’s a sense of possibility in the air at this time of year. It’s the season for getting cozy, so how about meeting someone new? At the blog Life After College, guest blogger Ryan Stephens [...]
Are You Dating a Narcissist?
Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, not being able to leave the beauty of his own [...]
A Crash Course in Relationships
David Cain has a blog called Raptitude. He describes it as “the gentle art of sanity amidst civilization,” and invites you to have a look around by saying, “Raptitude is a blog for helping each other to enjoy being human. If you are a human, I’m sure you’ll find something you like.” I can get [...]
10 Signs That Your Hookup is Falling For You
In a culture that prioritizes sexual intimacy before emotional intimacy, forming real romantic attachments is a challenge for both men and women. And yet, many relationships begin with casual sex.
I’ve created a flowchart describing the anatomy of relationships today:
As you can see, there are lots of hurdles one needs to jump before landing in a [...]
Do Beer Emotions Count?
“Neon shines through smoky eyes tonight
It’s 2 AM, I’m drunk again, it’s heavy on my mind
Excuse me please, one more drink
Could you make it strong ’cause I don’t need to think”
Dave Matthews Band
How can you know what he really means if he says one thing when drunk and something else when sober? [...]
Why Babies Get What They Want and You Don’t
Babies are the best communicators in the world. Everything they share is personal, honest and immediate. As they mature, they gain more control over their emotions, and their communication reflects that. They have life experiences, and for better or worse they develop shyness, caution, resentments and the whole range of human emotions.
By the time you’re [...]
