Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 9, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Personal Development
Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions. ~Woody Allen
There are some very compelling reasons why you should be having sex. A lot of sex. Common sense tells us that the male orgasm directly serves to propagate the species. Although the female orgasm has puzzled [...]
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Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 28, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want
Manolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too nice.”
One of [...]
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Another Friday and hopefully all you singles have big plans for the weekend. It’s autumn, and I always feel that there’s a sense of possibility in the air at this time of year. It’s the season for getting cozy, so how about meeting someone new? At the blog Life After College, guest blogger Ryan Stephens [...]
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If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
Jimmy Soul, 1970
Do beautiful women have a harder time finding real love? I bet Jennifer Aniston thinks so. The woman in this photo writes the [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 13, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want
Jealousy is one of the most powerful and potentially destructive human emotions. When we feel jealous, we say that we are sick with it. Jealousy is the emotion that can make us feel like we’ve been punched in the stomach and had the wind knocked out of us without warning. It can feel like a [...]
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Many guys think it’s OK have numerous sexual relationships at the same time. Most girls don’t. Recently in the Washington Post, advice columnist Carolyn Hax weighed in on this question:
Anonymous: Hi Carolyn,
I am having sex with three people right now. (Not literally right now, but you get the idea.) Two of them have no idea [...]
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I need love, love
To ease my mind
I need to find, find someone to call mine
But mama said
You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said love don’t come easy
It’s a game of give and take
Diana Ross and the Supremes, 1966
In the most basic terms, a human relationship is a connection or attachment [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 3, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want
“Joey: You waited too long and now you’re in ‘The Friend Zone’.
Ross: No, I’m not in the Zone.
Joey: Come on, Ross; you’re mayor of the Zone!”
Friends
I’m one of those cynics who thinks it is really, really difficult for guys and girls to maintain platonic friendships. I think it works best when:
One or [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 20, 2009 in
Personal Development
My life kind of sucks right now. Things haven’t really been breaking my way, and frankly, I’m tired of trying to stay positive. Also, a bunch of the people I love most aren’t loving life right now either. That’s almost worse – I know how to manage feeling discouraged, more or less, but I can’t [...]
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