Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 14, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies
This list of 35 brutally honest truths will tell you what women really want from men. Let’s just say I’m trying to promote cross-cultural understanding. Think of this as an Instruction Manual.
1. Women don’t tell each other everything.
We don’t share a lot of intimate sexual details. OK, if you’re hung like a stallion, it [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 12, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies
The Concept of Fast, Good or Cheap?
Psychologist Linda Young has written an article at Psychology Today that caught the attention of the largely dormant MBA part of my brain. She takes a Project Management construct and applies it to dating. It’s called Fast, Good or Cheap, and I think it works.
The concept refers to the [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 13, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want
Jealousy is one of the most powerful and potentially destructive human emotions. When we feel jealous, we say that we are sick with it. Jealousy is the emotion that can make us feel like we’ve been punched in the stomach and had the wind knocked out of us without warning. It can feel like a [...]
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There’s a new double-standard being applied to women in relationships, and it’s even more insidious than Studs. vs. Sluts. A favorite tactic of young men when questioned about their questionable behavior is to accuse the self-respecting woman of being a PSYCHO.
I’ll be the first to admit I’m not a licensed psychologist. I may dish out a [...]
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David Cain has a blog called Raptitude. He describes it as “the gentle art of sanity amidst civilization,” and invites you to have a look around by saying, “Raptitude is a blog for helping each other to enjoy being human. If you are a human, I’m sure you’ll find something you like.” I can get [...]
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“I have no power. Why should she have the upper hand? Once in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand. No hand at all. She has the hand. I have no hand.”
George
“We all want the hand. Hand is tough to get.”
Jerry
Willard Waller was a sociologist who coined the phrase [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jun 9, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies
Jane Austen understood everything about the human heart. That’s an astonishing accomplishment for a woman who died a virgin at 41. Lauren Henderson, a novelist who attended Cambridge University in England and wrote her dissertation on the courtship rituals in Jane Austen, has gathered JA’s wisdom, and added some of her own, into Jane Austen’s [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Apr 21, 2009 in
Ask Susan
I need to talk to you about a really important guy in my life. His name is Stumble Upon. He is huge and powerful, and whenever I spend time with him I feel special. He gives me so much attention! He has introduced me to a ton of people already, but I want to meet everyone [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Apr 5, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
What Guys Want
Not a Subtle Approach
I don’t think young women know how to flirt anymore. OK, they know how to FLIRT!!!!! They know how to bag a cute guy for a night by hitting him hard where it counts (his ego). Yes, you can certainly get your message across by hitting someone over the head with a [...]
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