Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 19, 2010 in
Relationship Strategies I’m traveling today, so I’m bringing you an older post that many of my newer readers will have missed. I originally called it Dating Advice From a Dead Virgin, and it didn’t generate a lot of traffic. Hmmm….maybe I should just have entitled it Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy. Either way, it’s still full of [...]
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As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 7, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Tidbits,
What Guys Want I’m off to visit my daughter, who’s studying abroad, but I’ve scheduled some posts to be published on my mostly normal schedule (M,W,F). I’m taking my laptop, but based on her crummy online connection, I’m not really sure whether I’ll be able to get to the internets. I hope to, because I love doing the [...]
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Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
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“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even though his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.”
Rebecca – age 8
Congrats, you’ve reeled in the big fish! He’s hot, he’s available, and he is definitely very interested. You’ve gotten under [...]
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If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
Jimmy Soul, 1970
Do beautiful women have a harder time finding real love? I bet Jennifer Aniston thinks so. The woman in this photo writes the [...]
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Amy Johnson is a psychologist and life coach who answers questions about relationships. In a recent post, she identified the three most common themes in the letters she receives from people. The commentary is mine.
1. You already know the answer.
People regularly write asking for a fresh analysis of events, even though they already know what’s [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 3, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want “Joey: You waited too long and now you’re in ‘The Friend Zone’.
Ross: No, I’m not in the Zone.
Joey: Come on, Ross; you’re mayor of the Zone!”
Friends
I’m one of those cynics who thinks it is really, really difficult for guys and girls to maintain platonic friendships. I think it works best when:
One or [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 15, 2009 in
Personal Development,
Relationship Strategies “Decide what you want and then go get it.”
“You can be anything you want to be.”
“You get what you ask for in this life.”
“You’ll never know unless you try.”
These are some of the principles that have guided my own life. I’m a doer, a go-getter. I’m achievement oriented, though I’ll be the first to confess [...]
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“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
Wayne Gretzky
As far as I can tell, there are three different camps of guys that girls love to gossip about:
1. Guys they have the hots for.
2. Guys that suck.
Note: “Guys they have the hots for” often progress to “guys that suck” over time.
3. Guys they [...]
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