As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 24, 2009 in
Tidbits Bringing you a little laughter link love this afternoon:
1. The Los Angeles Times features a couple of interesting iphone apps to help you date and mate.
The Girlfriend Keeper generates text messages to send to your SO, allowing you to specify the relationship level: strangers, casual dating, heating up, serious or married.
I would consider this app [...]
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I love Jason Mraz’s song I’m Yours. Doesn’t every woman? It’s been on Billboard’s Top 100 chart for 74 weeks, a record. It’s the third-best selling digital song of all time, having sold 4.4 million downloads, and it’s still going strong. Why?
Surrender.
“Well you done done me and you bet I felt it
I tried to be [...]
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If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
Jimmy Soul, 1970
Do beautiful women have a harder time finding real love? I bet Jennifer Aniston thinks so. The woman in this photo writes the [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 25, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies You’d like to meet someone new, someone who has real potential for a meaningful relationship. You know there are a million fish in the sea, but you keep coming across the same bottom feeders again and again. How do you meet a good guy?
I. Go where the good guys are.
Go west, young woman, go west!
Wow, [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 27, 2009 in
What Guys Want Here’s an article I think is worth sharing. It’s unusually good for this kind of thing. I know I can never get enough of guys explaining how guys think and what they want. Sort of an instruction manual!
What Guys Wish We Knew
By Sandra Prior
Posted: July 26, 2009
One of the great things about guys is they’re [...]
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“I have no power. Why should she have the upper hand? Once in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand. No hand at all. She has the hand. I have no hand.”
George
“We all want the hand. Hand is tough to get.”
Jerry
Willard Waller was a sociologist who coined the phrase [...]
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Robot Heart is one of my favorite blogs. Katie, the blogger, posts numerous (many!) things on there every day. In fact, Katie is an amazing woman, with five blogs:
Robot Heart
Twenty Something
Sex, Religion and Politics
Daily Beagle
Things I *Heart* About Oregon
She’s really into photography and design, so there are amazing visuals on Robot Heart. I find great [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 20, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Girl Talk,
Hooking Up Realities
Dear Aunt Sue,
Do you think guys and girls can really be friends? Or does it always get messed up? My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and I really miss some of his guy friends. I hung out with them for more than a year, and now it’s like they’re off limits. I especially feel [...]
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