Posted by Susan Walsh on Nov 16, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Relationship Strategies
I’ve been getting a lot of questions from readers lately, which is awesome! Recently, a number have touched on the same dilemma: how to handle a strong chemistry with someone who is already in a committed relationship. Obviously, circumstances and details will vary considerably from case to case, but there are some general rules that [...]
Tags: hanging out, sexual tension
Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 28, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want
Manolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too nice.”
One of [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 3, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want
“Joey: You waited too long and now you’re in ‘The Friend Zone’.
Ross: No, I’m not in the Zone.
Joey: Come on, Ross; you’re mayor of the Zone!”
Friends
I’m one of those cynics who thinks it is really, really difficult for guys and girls to maintain platonic friendships. I think it works best when:
One or [...]
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This is NOT a post about those three little words. This is a post about what women need to hear waaaayyy before that. This is a post for men, about women. If you’re one of my women readers, please use the comments below to add anything you’d like to say. And email this to any [...]
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“Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.”
Woody Allen
Today I’m beginning a new series, and it starts with the backstory of my own most significant relationship. I sometimes share personal details here, but I’ve never told you this particular story. It’s the story that originally won [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Apr 13, 2009 in
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Relationship Strategies
Dear Aunt Sue,
I’ve been with this guy Tyler for a while and I really like him a lot. At first we were just hooking up, and we never talked about the relationship or anything. But it became a regular thing, and I developed feelings for him. Then I found out he hooked up with someone [...]
Tags: ad, attachment, boyfriend, breakup, commitment, compromise, dating, desperation, drama, emo, ex, feelings, friend, girl, guy, guys, hanging out, honest, hooking up, hos, IM, LA, love, MBA, men, NY, party, personal strength, random, rant, relationship, relationships, reluctance, scene, sex, smart, sons, strategy, TA, talk, together, ultimatum, wasting time, wit
Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 20, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Girl Talk,
Hooking Up Realities
Dear Aunt Sue,
Do you think guys and girls can really be friends? Or does it always get messed up? My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and I really miss some of his guy friends. I hung out with them for more than a year, and now it’s like they’re off limits. I especially feel [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 10, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Tidbits
Once a week, Daily Intel takes a peek behind doors left slightly ajar.
We all need guilty pleasures. I’ve gotten totally addicted to the weekly Sex Diary at New York Magazine. That’s OK, right? Not too sketchy or anything, right? Right. Well, who cares what you think.
It is a fascinating feature where each week a guest [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 4, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Relationship Strategies
Now that Zagat’s has announced new Dating (and Dumping) Guides for New York and LA, I’m bracing myself for some nasty stories. Zagat’s selected their dumping grounds based on the number of exits and proximity to transportation (so you can get the hell outta there), as well as the attractiveness of the clientele, so that [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 3, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities
“It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn’t use long, difficult words, but rather short, easy words like “What about lunch?”
Winnie the Pooh
As the author of The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man’s Enlightened Guide to Success with Women, Dr. Alex Benzer is primarily known as a guy who helps other guys get women. [...]
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