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Is Playing Hard-to-Get a Good Dating Strategy?

December 15, 2016
Is Playing Hard-to-Get a Good Dating Strategy?

In the paper Playing Hard-to-Get: Manipulating One’s Perceived Availability as a Mate, researchers Jonason and Li looked at dating from a Supply-side Economics perspective. This dictates that scarcity in the supply of a good increases its price. Playing Hard-to-Get (HTG) is an attempt to create the impression of limited availability in hopes of driving up one’s perceived value. […]

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Why Playing Hard to Get is a Losing Strategy

September 15, 2011
Why Playing Hard to Get is a Losing Strategy

Note: For the purposes of this article, playing hard to get means making men jump through hoops for the privilege of spending time with you or getting to know you. It does not mean delaying sex until emotional intimacy is established, which is always sound strategy.   We live in an era where young male […]

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20 Reasons You Don’t Have a Boyfriend

September 28, 2009
20 Reasons You Don’t Have a Boyfriend

Manolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too nice.” One […]

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Getting an Upper Hand Job

July 29, 2009
Getting an Upper Hand Job

“Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent’s fate.” Sun Tzu, The Art of War Playing Hard To Get has traditionally been a woman’s game: Woman is the desired object. Man wants sex. Man courts woman […]

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5 Ways to Get More Control of Your Relationships

June 29, 2009
5 Ways to Get More Control of Your Relationships

“I have no power. Why should she have the upper hand? Once in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand. No hand at all. She has the hand. I have no hand.” George “We all want the hand. Hand is tough to get.” Jerry Willard Waller was a sociologist who […]

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