As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 28, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Hooking Up Realities Dear Susan,
Now that midterms are over, I’m starting to think about going home for Thanksgiving. I’m worried about making the wrong choices. Actually, I’m worried I’ll make the same wrong choice several times over in the four days that I’m home. Last summer I had a thing with a guy. [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 19, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want I just returned from my trip to Florence and Paris, and while I didn’t actually “work” during my vacation, I seem to view everything through the lens of relationships these days. Everywhere I turned I seemed to find myself observing something that I could hardly wait to share with you. Today’s post is inspired by [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 16, 2009 in
Tidbits I’ve been thinking about advertising, and how sexy it’s gotten. Every time I turn around, there’s another advertising scandal. First there was the Quiznos commercial scandal — how large is the gay male market for Quiznos, anyway? Then came the Burger King print ad. Of course, using sex to sell stuff is not new. A [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 9, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Personal Development Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions. ~Woody Allen
There are some very compelling reasons why you should be having sex. A lot of sex. Common sense tells us that the male orgasm directly serves to propagate the species. Although the female orgasm has puzzled [...]
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Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 21, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities Today I’ve got some links that are going to scare the pants right back onto you. I’ve written before about cameras and sex, which, let’s face it, can be a total turn on. Pics of yourself and your lover naked can be a very effective way to build anticipation, whether you’re in a long-distance relationship, [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 10, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
What Guys Want Yeah, I know this sounds like a tawdry Cosmo article with stupid sex tips, but I figured it would grab your attention. I found it straightforward and informative, always a plus when it comes to sex talk. Sandra Prior is a Brit – I don’t know what it is about the UK these days, but [...]
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Many guys think it’s OK have numerous sexual relationships at the same time. Most girls don’t. Recently in the Washington Post, advice columnist Carolyn Hax weighed in on this question:
Anonymous: Hi Carolyn,
I am having sex with three people right now. (Not literally right now, but you get the idea.) Two of them have no idea [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 3, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want “Joey: You waited too long and now you’re in ‘The Friend Zone’.
Ross: No, I’m not in the Zone.
Joey: Come on, Ross; you’re mayor of the Zone!”
Friends
I’m one of those cynics who thinks it is really, really difficult for guys and girls to maintain platonic friendships. I think it works best when:
One or [...]
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