Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
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I need love, love
To ease my mind
I need to find, find someone to call mine
But mama said
You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said love don’t come easy
It’s a game of give and take
Diana Ross and the Supremes, 1966
In the most basic terms, a human relationship is a connection or attachment [...]
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Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, not being able to leave the beauty of his own [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 17, 2009 in
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Girl Talk When you’re going through a breakup, the first couple of days are a blur. You’re in shock, you’re in denial, and you have a whole lot of support from your friends. All that serves to blunt the effect somewhat. Then, on about day three or four, reality sets in. You. Have. Been. Dumped. Your world [...]
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There’s a new website called Kiss and Dish that looks like fun. It’s a place to share stories, commiserate and get advice if you need it. I learned about it in an article at the Ohio State student online newspaper.
Kristen Ricordati and her business partner Daniel Kiepfer started the site where users can share and [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 11, 2009 in
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Relationship Strategies My heart, which is so full to overflowing, has often been solaced and refreshed by music when sick and weary.”
Martin Luther
When relationships end, music = therapy. When you’re the dumpee, a breakup soundtrack is crucial to getting through it. In my recent post The Girls’ Kickass Guide to Getting Over a Breakup, I promised that [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 4, 2009 in
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Relationship Strategies
Now that Zagat’s has announced new Dating (and Dumping) Guides for New York and LA, I’m bracing myself for some nasty stories. Zagat’s selected their dumping grounds based on the number of exits and proximity to transportation (so you can get the hell outta there), as well as the attractiveness of the clientele, so that [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 2, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
Tidbits OK, so it’s more like How to End a Relationship the Way You Wish He Would End It.
There’s a pretty interesting blog called the Art of Manliness that’s coming up on its first anniversary. From their About page:
The Art of Manliness- a blog dedicated to uncovering the lost art of being a man.
“The Art of [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 29, 2008 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies
“Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.”
Abraham J. Heschel
Before you hook up with a guy, do you think about what things will feel like afterwards?
If you’re going for the random one-night stand, obviously your expectations are very low. A minimum of awkwardness in [...]
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