Tag: heartbreak

Douchebags Never Change – A Disappointing Follow-Up

June 29, 2016
Douchebags Never Change – A Disappointing Follow-Up

In a recent post I questioned whether douchebags can be redeemed. To recap, Bessie wrote in about her two-month old relationship with Jacob after she learned he’d “treated other girls in the past like a “douchebag” would (including leading them on and using them for sex).” He claimed to have changed since discovering true love with […]

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How to Get Through a Devastating Breakup

February 25, 2016
How to Get Through a Devastating Breakup

So we’ve had a heart break in the HUS community, and I’m really grateful that a reader could bring that here and ask for support. I’m also moved by all the virtual (((hugs))) offered to her. We may not know one another offline, but the relationships here are real when you need a friend. Rejection […]

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The Value of Heartbreak

April 30, 2015
The Value of Heartbreak

“Great relationships seldom fail. Bad ones do, as they should.” Gary Lewandoski, PhD I often write posts with the intention of alerting women to red flags in dating and relationships. I emphasize the strategic importance of filtering to reduce the risk of bad outcomes. But I’d never want to find a way to eliminate all disappointment […]

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How to Let Your Guard Down and Love Again

October 5, 2009
How to Let Your Guard Down and Love Again

Dear Susan, I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the […]

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Be All the Things You Want In a Partner

August 5, 2009
Be All the Things You Want In a Partner

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9RVGzyiVRAo I need love, love To ease my mind I need to find, find someone to call mine But mama said You can’t hurry love No, you just have to wait She said love don’t come easy It’s a game of give and take Diana Ross and the Supremes, 1966 In the most basic terms, […]

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