My Exotic Destination Theory of Relationships
Things have been a little heavy around here lately. I’ve been writing quite a bit about the reality of today’s sexual marketplace, which is important. But I’ve overindulged on the feminism angle and I’m feeling a bit hungover. So today it’s back to basics, with a letter I received last week.
Dear Susan,
I’ve gotten myself into [...]
How Feminism Got Drunk and Hooked Up With a Loser
Rachel Simmons set the under-40 femosphere back on its heels last week with a column on her blog:
Is Hooking Up Good For Girls? (click here)
Ms. Simmons is an interesting hybrid – she is the advice columnist for Teen Vogue, but she is also a scholar (Rhodes) on the subject of female aggression and has strong [...]
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I. Woman Gets Busted for Cheating On the Radio
Thanks to Natalie (again!) for sending along something interesting and entertaining. This is a couple of weeks old, and you may have heard it. It’s hilarious and well worth a listen when you’ve got 12 minutes:
Do you feel sorry for Ashley? I don’t. Ashley had it coming. [...]
On the Other Hand…
Lest my women readers think I am being unduly harsh toward our own fair sex after yesterday’s post, I do want to share something that Natalie sent along yesterday. It’s a piece written a couple of years ago for the Modern Love column in the Sunday NYX’s. I remember liking it very much then, but [...]
When Should You Agree to Sex? Guys Tell It Straight
In this era of sexual free-for-all, one of the most difficult things to figure out is the proper timing for having sex. For women, there are usually tradeoffs involved in diving between the sheets. Even if we decide to “have sex like a man,” it’s not possible, because the sexual double standard is alive and [...]
The Sex Risk For Women That No One Likes To Talk About
Recently a 29 year-old guy wrote into the Love Letters section of the Boston Globe looking for guidance. Usually Meredith Goldstein, who writes the column, gives excellent advice. In which case there’s no point in my saying anything further. In this case, however, I think she really missed the boat.
Here’s the letter:
About a year ago, [...]
The Power You Gain When You Lay It On the Line
If you want more love
Why don’t you say so?
If you want more love
Why don’t you say so?
Just say so
John Mayer, Heartbreak Warfare
The irony of using John Mayer to give advice about relationships is not lost on me. Here’s the dialog that I imagine ensued when he really said those words to Jennifer Aniston a woman:
Her: [...]
Spotted: Hot Guy With a Conscience!
Dear Susan,
I am a college student in my senior year, and recently ended a 3-year-long relationship. There’s a great, gorgeous girl that I’ve been getting to know, and I’ve been focusing some of my “attention” towards her. I had a big date event coming up so I asked her to it, which meant going away for [...]
Help, I’m In a “Whatever” With a Guy I Really Like
Dear Susan,
I’m having a problem with the guy I’m seeing, but I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable, or if he’s just not that into me. I’m 23 and he’s a year older. We met at a friend’s party a couple of months ago, and started hanging out pretty regularly after that. He treats me [...]
