Tag: hookup culture

Redemption For a Douchebag?

May 12, 2016
Redemption For a Douchebag?

Bessie writes: Dear Susan, I’ve been in a relationship with Jacob for two months, and he’s always treated me very well. However, I recently discovered that he has treated other girls in the past like a “douchebag” would (including leading them on and using them for sex). I don’t doubt that he loves me and cares […]

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The Blowjob as Snow Job

April 7, 2016
The Blowjob as Snow Job

Peggy Orenstein’s new book Girls and Sex: Navigating the New Landscape has kicked up a lot of interest. Many are alarmed by her findings based on 70 interviews, but there’s nothing much that surprises me there. From Amazon: “While the media has focused—often to sensational effect—on the rise of casual sex and the prevalence of […]

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Hookup Culture Not to Blame For Our Single Status

December 1, 2015
Hookup Culture Not to Blame For Our Single Status

We can no longer blame hookup culture or casual sexual mores in society for our single status. The Science of Us at New York magazine just published this short video. It’s a summary that matches much of my own analysis over the past five years, and I’m gratified to see a more accurate picture of contemporary dating […]

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Lost in the Game: A Musical Story of Relationships

September 25, 2015
Lost in the Game: A Musical Story of Relationships

I’ve always distinguished between hookup culture and sexual behavior among young people. The culture influences the behavior. This fantastic video called Lost in the Game explores how musical lyrics comprise a large part of the hookup culture, and how that affects young people and relationships. It’s fantastically well performed and produced. Hard to believe the […]

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A HUS Reader Went Undercover on a Sugar Daddy Site

August 21, 2015
A HUS Reader Went Undercover on a Sugar Daddy Site

Please welcome a guest post by longtime reader Jacqueline (not her real name). Jacqueline guest posted once before six years ago – we go way back! I respect and admire her values, and I’ve been really pleased that she’s stayed in touch over the years. Today Jacqueline is a prominent journalist in NY. We’ve been discussing […]

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