Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 1, 2010 in
Tidbits I. Woman Gets Busted for Cheating On the Radio Thanks to Natalie (again!) for sending along something interesting and entertaining. This is a couple of weeks old, and you may have heard it. It’s hilarious and well worth a listen when you’ve got 12 minutes: Do you feel sorry for Ashley? I don’t. Ashley had [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 15, 2010 in
Tidbits Research shows that alcohol is a crucial ingredient in making a hookup happen. Women especially, but also men, rely on liquid courage to get up the nerve to get down and dirty with a stranger. Drinking just the right amount to get the job done can be problematic though – not enough and you’re awkward [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 27, 2009 in
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What Guys Want Dear Susan, I am a college student in my senior year, and recently ended a 3-year-long relationship. There’s a great, gorgeous girl that I’ve been getting to know, and I’ve been focusing some of my “attention” towards her. I had a big date event coming up so I asked her to it, which meant going away [...]
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As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 22, 2009 in
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Relationship Strategies Is the Pill making women abandon this: In favor of this? I’d like to start by tipping my hat to my favorite Danish guy reader, who clued me in to a new UK study published in Trends in Ecology and Evolution. It suggests that the Pill is dramatically changing the way women and men experience sexual [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 14, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies This list of 35 brutally honest truths will tell you what women really want from men. Let’s just say I’m trying to promote cross-cultural understanding. Think of this as an Instruction Manual. 1. Women don’t tell each other everything. We don’t share a lot of intimate sexual details. OK, if you’re hung like a stallion, [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 12, 2009 in
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Relationship Strategies The Concept of Fast, Good or Cheap? Psychologist Linda Young has written an article at Psychology Today that caught the attention of the largely dormant MBA part of my brain. She takes a Project Management construct and applies it to dating. It’s called Fast, Good or Cheap, and I think it works. The concept refers [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 7, 2009 in
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What Guys Want I’m off to visit my daughter, who’s studying abroad, but I’ve scheduled some posts to be published on my mostly normal schedule (M,W,F). I’m taking my laptop, but based on her crummy online connection, I’m not really sure whether I’ll be able to get to the internets. I hope to, because I love doing the [...]
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Dear Susan, I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the [...]
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