I think I’m drowning
asphyxiated
I wanna break this spell
that you’ve created
you’re something beautiful
a contradiction
I wanna play the game
I want the friction
Muse, Time is Running Out
It’s all about the friction.
Friction (def.):
1. The rubbing of one object or surface against another.
2. Conflict, as between persons having dissimilar ideas or interests; clash.
We all know how good the first [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 28, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Manolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too nice.”
One of [...]
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“I have no power. Why should she have the upper hand? Once in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand. No hand at all. She has the hand. I have no hand.”
George
“We all want the hand. Hand is tough to get.”
Jerry
Willard Waller was a sociologist who coined the phrase [...]
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“Have no fear for giving in
Have no fear for giving over
You better know that in the end
It’s better to say too much
Than never to say what you need to say again
Even if your hands are shaking
And your faith is broken
Even as the eyes are closing
Do it with a heart wide open
Say what you need to [...]
Tags: ego, honesty, independent, John Mayer, love, one-night stand, open, relationship, speak your mind, support
Posted by Susan Walsh on Apr 24, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want In the 1930s, there were women who knew how to grab the world by the balls to get what they wanted. Their power to seduce both on screen and in life was formidable. These femme fatales are still relevant role models. They were a brainy, brassy mix of drive and subtlety. They had lots of attitude, [...]
Tags: anticipation, attitude, beautiful women, femininity, femme, heart, independent, katherine hepburn, marlene dietrich, respect, role models, sirens, smart, subtlety, world by the balls
The worldwide luxury goods market, once thought immune to the ebbs and flows of economic fluctuations, is likely to enter a recession in 2009, according to Bain & Company’s Luxury Goods Worldwide Market Study. Francesco Trapani, CEO of Bulgari, insists that he will not risk the company’s image for opulence and exclusivity by slashing prices.
“This [...]
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Last week I posted You’re Welcome, Guys! and invited any guys enjoying Hooking Up Smart to write a guest post offering a male point of view. Right away I heard from Mike Hendel, and I’m delighted to welcome him today as our first ever guy guest blogger! A little info about this dynamic guy:
Mike Hendel [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 20, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want “Pay my respects to grace and virtue
Send my condolences to good
Give my regards to soul and romance
They always did the best they could
And so long to devotion
You taught me everything I know
Wave goodbye, wish me well
You’ve gotta let me go”
Brandon Flowers, The Killers, Human
Yeah, baby, the bitch is back! The March issue of Cosmopolitan proclaims [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 8, 2009 in
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Girl Talk Has weird sleep routines. One guy I dated used to take two Kleenex at bedtime. He would shake each out, fold it into a square and lay it carefully on the night table next to a glass of tepid water. [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 30, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
Tidbits,
What Guys Want The other day a guy left a comment expressing frustration at Sexual Attraction + Compatibility = Nothing? His point was that he gets jerked around by girls all the time, especially when he is a nice guy. They lead him on, flirt and fuss, and then say they don’t want to date. It got me [...]
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