Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 7, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Tidbits,
What Guys Want I’m off to visit my daughter, who’s studying abroad, but I’ve scheduled some posts to be published on my mostly normal schedule (M,W,F). I’m taking my laptop, but based on her crummy online connection, I’m not really sure whether I’ll be able to get to the internets. I hope to, because I love doing the [...]
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Dear Susan, I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 30, 2009 in
Personal Development,
Relationship Strategies Rebekah is a single mother of two boys who writes the blog Wandering Wonderland. She gets along with her ex, has a real lust for life and a great sense of humor. A while back she wrote a post about her 4 year-old trying to tell her about his day. He got so frustrated at [...]
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I love Jason Mraz’s song I’m Yours. Doesn’t every woman? It’s been on Billboard’s Top 100 chart for 74 weeks, a record. It’s the third-best selling digital song of all time, having sold 4.4 million downloads, and it’s still going strong. Why? Surrender. “Well you done done me and you bet I felt it I [...]
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A few years ago I posed a hypothetical question to my niece, then about 15: Q: There are two men who love you and want to marry you. The first guy is a successful lawyer, drives a BMW, is handsome, kind, and worships the ground you walk on. But well, he is perhaps just a [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 13, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Jealousy is one of the most powerful and potentially destructive human emotions. When we feel jealous, we say that we are sick with it. Jealousy is the emotion that can make us feel like we’ve been punched in the stomach and had the wind knocked out of us without warning. It can feel like a [...]
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Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, not being able to leave the beauty of his own [...]
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In a culture that prioritizes sexual intimacy before emotional intimacy, forming real romantic attachments is a challenge for both men and women. And yet, many relationships begin with casual sex. I’ve created a flowchart describing the anatomy of relationships today: As you can see, there are lots of hurdles one needs to jump before landing [...]
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“Your bones have been my bedframe and your flesh has been my pillow. And I`m waiting for sleep.” Ani DiFranco Em & Lo recently answered a letter from a reader where they coined the term Intimacy Lite. You know what Intimacy Lite is. It’s what you’re getting from your Pretend Boyfriend. Girls find it very [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 18, 2008 in
Ask Susan,
Relationship Strategies Dear Aunt Sue, I just got home for the holidays and I know there’s going to be drama with my ex over the break. Everyone always says DO NOT hook up with your ex, so I figure it’s probably a stupid idea, but I’ve been thinking about him. We broke up at the end of [...]
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