Recently a 29 year-old guy wrote into the Love Letters section of the Boston Globe looking for guidance. Usually Meredith Goldstein, who writes the column, gives excellent advice. In which case there’s no point in my saying anything further. In this case, however, I think she really missed the boat.
Here’s the letter:
About a year ago, [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 14, 2010 in
Relationship Strategies “I’ve had relationship issues. I liked pain. I was addicted to drama. Jealousy was the best. I could create absolute mayhem out of nothing. I’m not perfect now but I’m a work in progress. I like myself a lot more, therefore I can like the person that I’m with a lot more.”
Michael Buble
There’s a common [...]
Tags: fighting, insecurity, jealousy, low self-esteem, makeup sex, Michael Buble, passion, Principle of Least Interest, relationship advice, relationship drama
Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 28, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Manolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too nice.”
One of [...]
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“You’re hot then you’re cold
You’re yes then you’re no
You’re in and you’re out
You’re up and you’re down
Someone call the doctor
Got a case of love bipolar
Stuck on a rollercoaster
Can’t get off this ride”
Katy Perry, Hot N Cold
I want to write about integrity, but I don’t know what it is. Sure, I have a sense of what [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 13, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Jealousy is one of the most powerful and potentially destructive human emotions. When we feel jealous, we say that we are sick with it. Jealousy is the emotion that can make us feel like we’ve been punched in the stomach and had the wind knocked out of us without warning. It can feel like a [...]
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