“I have no power. Why should she have the upper hand? Once in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand. No hand at all. She has the hand. I have no hand.”
George
“We all want the hand. Hand is tough to get.”
Jerry
Willard Waller was a sociologist who coined the phrase [...]
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Robot Heart is one of my favorite blogs. Katie, the blogger, posts numerous (many!) things on there every day. In fact, Katie is an amazing woman, with five blogs:
Robot Heart
Twenty Something
Sex, Religion and Politics
Daily Beagle
Things I *Heart* About Oregon
She’s really into photography and design, so there are amazing visuals on Robot Heart. I find great [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 11, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Relationship Strategies My heart, which is so full to overflowing, has often been solaced and refreshed by music when sick and weary.”
Martin Luther
When relationships end, music = therapy. When you’re the dumpee, a breakup soundtrack is crucial to getting through it. In my recent post The Girls’ Kickass Guide to Getting Over a Breakup, I promised that [...]
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Last week I posted You’re Welcome, Guys! and invited any guys enjoying Hooking Up Smart to write a guest post offering a male point of view. Right away I heard from Mike Hendel, and I’m delighted to welcome him today as our first ever guy guest blogger! A little info about this dynamic guy:
Mike Hendel [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 4, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Relationship Strategies
Now that Zagat’s has announced new Dating (and Dumping) Guides for New York and LA, I’m bracing myself for some nasty stories. Zagat’s selected their dumping grounds based on the number of exits and proximity to transportation (so you can get the hell outta there), as well as the attractiveness of the clientele, so that [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 3, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities “It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn’t use long, difficult words, but rather short, easy words like “What about lunch?”
Winnie the Pooh
As the author of The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man’s Enlightened Guide to Success with Women, Dr. Alex Benzer is primarily known as a guy who helps other guys get women. [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 30, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
Tidbits,
What Guys Want The other day a guy left a comment expressing frustration at Sexual Attraction + Compatibility = Nothing? His point was that he gets jerked around by girls all the time, especially when he is a nice guy. They lead him on, flirt and fuss, and then say they don’t want to date. It got me [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 20, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Relationship Strategies You already know this, cuz I keep tellin ya! Of course, this just applies if you’re looking for more than “one and done”. Found this at Marie Claire in the UK:
WHY YOU REALLY SHOULDN’T HAVE SEX ON THE FIRST DATE
It’s the old adage that we tell each other time and time again: we should make [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 2, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
Tidbits OK, so it’s more like How to End a Relationship the Way You Wish He Would End It.
There’s a pretty interesting blog called the Art of Manliness that’s coming up on its first anniversary. From their About page:
The Art of Manliness- a blog dedicated to uncovering the lost art of being a man.
“The Art of [...]
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