Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 4, 2010 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want In my recent post Can Women Run Game on Men? I discussed the book Why Men Love Bitches. There was one particular piece of advice that I thought deserved special attention, because it’s a trap that women frequently fall into.
“A [women with high self-esteem] is polite but clear, and communicates very directly, in much the [...]
Tags: commitment, communication, communication styles, dating, Deborah Tannen, gender differences, John Gray, Lillian Glass, men, Men are from Mars Women are from Venus, relationship advice, women, You Just Don't Understand
Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 4, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Yesterday Lisa, a reader, wrote and asked for my thoughts on the Tiger Woods drama. Specifically, she wondered about the correlation between power and infidelity. The correlation is obvious:
However, correlation doesn’t tell us anything about cause and effect. We need to look at cheating in general to understand why this correlation is so strong.
Who cheats?
It’s [...]
Tags: adultery, affection, cheating, desire, infidelity, men, monogamy, power, Tiger Woods, women
Posted by Susan Walsh on Nov 25, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Relationship Strategies Is there a woman alive who doesn’t adore Tina Fey? I mean besides Sarah Palin. Tina Fey is an incredible role model for women. A self-described high school AP nerd, she lost her virginity to her husband at the age of 24:
Amy Poehler interviewed her for Marie Claire magazine, here’s my favorite bit:
Amy: There are [...]
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Because physical intimacy comes before emotional intimacy when hooking up, it can be difficult to interpret communication. You may be discussing something personal with someone you don’t really know very well. Here are 30 common phrases to help you navigate these murky waters. If this reminds you of the guy you’re interested in, it’s time [...]
Tags: benefit of the doubt, boyfriend, communication, date, dating, drama, dumped, emotional intimacy, ex, friend, girl, girls, guy, guys, hooking up, hot, IM, LA, male, men, NY, physical intimacy, psycho, psycho bitch, relationship, relationships, scene, sex, sex sex sex, TA, talk, wingman, wit
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 28, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Hooking Up Realities Dear Susan,
Now that midterms are over, I’m starting to think about going home for Thanksgiving. I’m worried about making the wrong choices. Actually, I’m worried I’ll make the same wrong choice several times over in the four days that I’m home. Last summer I had a thing with a guy. [...]
Tags: advice, blog, booty call, college, douche, drama, dry spell, emotions, fling, friends with benefits, girl, going home, guy, guys, having sex, hook up, hooking up, love, men, relationship, relationships, sex, strong chemistry, thanksgiving, vagina
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 22, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies Is the Pill making women abandon this:
In favor of this?
I’d like to start by tipping my hat to my favorite Danish guy reader, who clued me in to a new UK study published in Trends in Ecology and Evolution. It suggests that the Pill is dramatically changing the way women and men experience sexual chemistry. It’s [...]
Tags: attraction, hookup, hookup culture, men, pheromones, relationships, sex, testosterone, women
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 20, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want I hadn’t really planned a post for today, but I woke up to a couple of things this morning that I just have to share. Before lunch today I had already felt: moved, amused, proud, surprised, enlightened, horrified, sickened, shocked, bewildered, repulsed and consumed by paroxysms of laughter. In other words, there’s good news, and [...]
Tags: Art of Manliness, asshat, beauty, beauty and the beast, challenge, dating, Don Draper, fashion, Ferdinand Bardamu, girl, girls, guy, guys, hot, laughter, men, photography, pickup artist, plan, rejection, relationship, relationships, Roissy, Scientology, seduction community, self-confidence, self-esteem, support, Texts from last night, wit, women, YouTube
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 16, 2009 in
Tidbits I’ve been thinking about advertising, and how sexy it’s gotten. Every time I turn around, there’s another advertising scandal. First there was the Quiznos commercial scandal — how large is the gay male market for Quiznos, anyway? Then came the Burger King print ad. Of course, using sex to sell stuff is not new. A [...]
Tags: ad, advertising, bed, billboard, Burger King, Don Draper, fruit sex, having sex, hot, internet ad, love, Mad Men, male, men, NYC, Puma, Quiznos, safe sex, sex, soho neighborhood, Volvo, YouTube
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 14, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies This list of 35 brutally honest truths will tell you what women really want from men. Let’s just say I’m trying to promote cross-cultural understanding. Think of this as an Instruction Manual.
1. Women don’t tell each other everything.
We don’t share a lot of intimate sexual details. OK, if you’re hung like a stallion, it [...]
Tags: advice, bed, blow job, boys, chivalry, date, douchebag, drama, dumb, femininity, flaky, flirt, friend, girl, girls, guy, guys, hookup, independence, intelligence, kiss, kissing, love, mean girl, men, orgasm, penis size, pissed, porn, pursue, relationship, relationships, scene, sexual tension, sexual variety, single, sons, support, trust, vagina, women, x chromosome
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 12, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies The Concept of Fast, Good or Cheap?
Psychologist Linda Young has written an article at Psychology Today that caught the attention of the largely dormant MBA part of my brain. She takes a Project Management construct and applies it to dating. It’s called Fast, Good or Cheap, and I think it works.
The concept refers to the [...]
Tags: assertive communication, charisma, college, commitment, dating, emotional stability, empathy, fling, flirt, guy, guys, hooking up, hookup, humor, integrity, linda young, long term relationships, love, love at first sight, MBA, men, partner selection, physical attractiveness, project management, psychologist, psychology today, relationship, relationships, sex, sex appeal, sexual variety, smart, social customs, symbols of wealth, trust, women
